[SaharaJim]

Funny. I asked her one time after she asked me to haul something in the house if she thinks I'm her mule and she looked at me like, "Do you think you're not?" It's like in My Big Fat Greek Wedding when the mother says, "Yes your father is the head, but I'm the neck and the neck turns the head where it needs to go." I know I'm in charge because she told me I cold be.

LMAO! You certainly not alone. lol

[darcdante]

I chose "sometimes..."

My wife is naturally submissive in the bedroom (but dominant outside of it). I'm naturally submissive in both, but since I know her fantasy is for me to be more dominant, I've been adapting that perception. Oddly enough, I've also been adopting that perspective outside of the bedroom.

Anyway, I think women TEND to be submissive in the bedroom and men TEND to be dominant, but I also think most couples enjoy changing those up because of the taboo of it. But the most successful women's erotic novel to date is 50 Shades of Grey, which apparently has the woman being completely submissive to the man.

There have been a couple times in the past when my wife talked in a dirty, submissive way. Not in awhile, but it's happened. I have a hard time playing the dom because she's not a "whote" to me (typo intentionally left in). She's the only woman I've ever fantasized about making love to, and I think that says something. Guys fantasize about a lot of things, but rarely is it making love. So in those instances, there is no playing on the dom/sub roles...we're just together, in love, being one.

[Stillness]

Not to start a "ruckus"; but are you sure you are really in "charge" here? "Who do you want to be in charge"...pat pat on your head "Off course you are dear...you are so big strong and masculine"" Now I want the Kitchen painted ASAP!"

Today, my wife and I are debating how the them song from He-Man goes (very silly, I know). Before we start it on Youtube I say, "Wait, what are you going to give me if I'm right." We negotiate and I go to start before she can ask what I'm going to do for her because I like one-sided deals in my favor. She says, "Wait! What are you going to do for me." I propose something that I want to do to her, but word it as if it's for her, and what does she say..."No, how about you paint the kitchen."

I thought that was so funny after this conversation. I guess I know my wife...

[Joe77]

I guess it can be tricky. The people who want their partners to take charge in bed probably don't feel comfortable asking for them to do so.

Take charge? I'd be happy if she showed a little enthusiasm and moved a little.