[Lady Syrinx]

I got married in 2003. In mid-2004 I was diagnosed with mild AD/HD and depression and my psychiatrist put me on Lexapro, an SSRI ant-depressant that is a combination of Celexa and Prozac. Lexapro has an off label use of improving focus so it was a single med serving a dual purpose.

I stayed on the Lexapro until late 2009. It all but killed my marriage due to the fact that it completely negated my sex drive. I knew about the sexual side eide effects of SSRIs because I'd been on Zofoft in the past. That had le problemassened my sex drive, but not rendered me asexual.

There were other problems in our marriage that caused by my not know how deal with total loss of sex drive. I began acting like moody teenager because I felt more like a teenager than a woman. When I went off the Lexapro my sex drive almost immediately returned. But we were still having problems related to the way I'd been acting. We've been trying to rebuild our marriage since 2010.

Then suddenly (or it seemed sudden) late last year my my sex drive seemed to kick into high gear. Could be that we just what it was like for me to have a normal sex drive that it just seems like it went into overdrive? Or Could it be that I I've hot my sexual peak (I'm 36)? Or a combination?

[Ashlee T.]

Just embrace it and be delighted at its return!! LOL!! Seriously though, it could be a multititude of things. The med change. The age. Positive changes in your marriage.

I always find it interesting by how many people go their entire lives med free, then turn up with ADHD, Depression, etc after they've married. In your case, almost instantly. It does sound like you had some issues in the past, but even at that, meds like Zoloft are so overprescribed it drives me crazy. I (who hasn't a depressed bone in her body) have been offered anti-depressants from doctors before. Especially when I was dealing with all the issues of hormonal birth control. And I often wonder, how many of you really needed those meds to begin with or were just dealing with a major life change (marriage) and all the stresses and strains that sometimes come along with that. I dunno. This is just me thinking out loud.

I'm just glad to hear things are looking up for you. It's nice to see someone come out on the other end of a sexless relationship, still together and improving.

[Lady Syrinx]

I was diagnosed with depression in 1997 while we were dating. We've been together since 1993.

I was on Ritalin briefly in kindergarten, but my parents took me off, I was on a tiny dose every other day and my teacher didn't see any difference when when i was taking it.

And the corollary to my story. When I told my psychiatrist about the libido problems. His only advice was that "There are books for that." I guess he was referring to erotica. That's why I now go to a female pschiatrist.

I'm still on meds but none have sexual side effects. I'm on Welbutrin and Remeron (anti-depressants) and I'm trying AD/HD meds to find the right one. I wanted to go off the Welbutrin but my psychiatrist (not the one who prescribed the Lexapro) said that while I'm experimenting with AD/HD meds it's not a good idea. Easier to track side effects.

[DreamP346]

I have heard that women reach their sexual peak in their 30s and 40s, but it could also be that they are more comfortable with their own bodies and are more confident in knowing what they want. Whatever it is, just enjoy it.

On a side note, if you are ever with a healthcare provider that dismisses your sexual concerns to medication and illness, then its definitely time to find a new one.

[Lady Syrinx]

I have heard that women reach their sexual peak in their 30s and 40s, but it could also be that they are more comfortable with their own bodies and are more confident in knowing what they want. Whatever it is, just enjoy it.

On a side note, if you are ever with a healthcare provider that dismisses your sexual concerns to medication and illness, then its definitely time to find a new one.

Well, as you can you imagine that experience soured me on male psychiatrists. Especially, older males. That psychiatrist was old enough to be my grandfather. I think that that,s why I had such a problem broaching the subject. Not exactly what you'd want to discuss with your grandfather, doctor or not.