[comiccutie]

So I'm planing on losing my virginity soon... but I'm nervous now, because tonight me and my boyfriend were performing oral sex on each other and I found out he was HUGE!!! I could only get a little past the head in my mouth( he's 10 inches long and 8 around) but I'm about to be 19 and he's been my best friend for the past 5 years , so I really love and trust him I'm just nervous because of the size, being that I'm very petite 5'1 and around 100lbs.. also he's not pressuring me or anything he said it was up to me. And I really want to. I was just hoping maybe someone on here could give me.some tips on how to make it more enjoyable for both of us.. maybe how to give him a good bj. Also... to return the oral favor thanks any advice is greatly appreciated

[ItsASecret]

Use lube and make sure he arouses you plenty prior to trying penetration. It is not going to just slide right in and the likelyhood of all of him being able to fit in you is slim to none also do not have him force it in because that will hurt. Have him use his fingers on you for awhile so that your vaginal muscles relax, that is going to be the biggest problem of it all is just getting those muscles loosened and relaxed enough to accommodate him. The easiest thing to do is to take your time and simply have him push a bit in then stop if it hurts pull out and try to push in the same amount again until you feel your muscles starting to relax. Keep repeating the process of in a bit and stop, wait for the muscles to relax, then out and back in a bit further if it does not hurt. Repeat that slow in and out procedure until your vaginal muscles can accommodate him to a length that is not painful.

[Ashlee T.]

The guy I lost my virginity to was very large. If it is not his first time, he should already know that he's going to have to be very gentle, slow and is not going to be able to put it all in. If it IS his first time, you'll have to make sure to remind him of this and during the sex, don't hesitate to speak up and let him know what hurts, what feels good, etc. Open communication is the key to good sex. Relaxation as IAS said is crucial. For your whole body...because if your body tenses up so will your vagina. So if you start finding yourself feeling tense, self talk and try to remember to remind yourself to relax. I have found that when a guy nibbles/kisses on my neck (Even the back of my neck) my body relaxes.

Be sure to use protection. That in itself will help you relax. If you're not protected, that will be a worry on your mind that will also keep you from relaxing.
And just know that your first time probably won't be mindblowing. It will probably be a tad uncomfortable and awkward as it is for lots of us. But you have to get past the first time to get to the good stuff. Good luck!!

[comiccutie]

Thanks of the advice!! I'm gonna buy some lube so I have it when it happens.I'm not gonna plan ahead though, I think if it just happens ill be more relaxed and aroused. Also.. another question, is it common for a guy that well endowed to be embarrassed?? I was surprised he seemed embarrassed. Especially since when we were just friends and would hang out alot, other girls would ask me if we hooked up. When I asked them why they would say because they heard from his ex that he was really good in bed. I just thoughtthat was something a guy would brag about and show off.

[jns]

Some guys like to brag and some do not. He may not be one to compare, but he may still know that he is large enough to not be an easy fit. Take it as a good sign. He may be personally quite reserved when talking about sex. That won't necessarily mean that he is shy about sex. He may also be careful about possibly embarrassing you.

[shoshannah]

It may help you to be on top your first time. That will let you, not him, be the one to decide when penetration happens and control the speed/depth at which he enters you.

[chaya]

You didn't say if your man was also a lot bigger than you in all departments. My husband is over a foot taller than me and weighs twice as much as I do. The first time we did it he was very inexperienced and we did it missionary style. I was literally buried under him with my head in his armpit. Nobody had told him that a good missionary supports at least half their weight on their elbows. Luckily, I was so horny, wet and turned on; that it didn't hurt a lot after he got it in but I really didn't enjoy the experience.

The next time I was on top and had the first orgasm of my life. It took a little while but I got used to his width, but even when I'm fully aroused and wet I still can't take his entire length. He has a strong desire to get it all in, especially nearing climax he can loose control. It sure helps me to be on top so I can control the depth.

[a_dub]

Are you sure he's that big? Even the guys in porn aren't that big!

[PinkySweet]

If hes BIG its going to hurt a little bit weather you use lube or not and as far as losing you virginity, its not a big deal. Once its done your going to be wondering why people want to make it so special lol to me it was just like any other time Ive had sex... Nothing to get anxious or nervous over

[Guest]

So I'm planing on losing my virginity soon.but I'm nervous now, because tonight me and my boyfriend were performing oral sex on each other and I found out he was HUGE!!! I could only get a little past the head in my mouth( he's 10 inches long and 8 around) but I'm about to be 19 and he's been my best friend for the past 5 years , so I really love and trust him I'm just nervous because of the size, being that I'm very petite 5'1 and around 100lbs.. also he's not pressuring me or anything he said it was up to me. And I really want to. I was just hoping maybe someone on here could give me.some tips on how to make it more enjoyable for both of us.. maybe how to give him a good bj. Also... to return the oral favor thanks any advice is greatly appreciated

There is no need to go deep throat. Felacio can be an act of love, no matter how deep you go in your partner mouth. You can as well choose to talk about that with your partner just before the act.
Good luck and take it easy my friend