[jsgirl]

I am fairly inexperienced and have a pretty experienced (and older, I am mid 20's and he is 40) partner who seems to know almost everything about sex and how to satisfy me easily!! (No complaints as far as that goes! )


But...... Yesterday while we were having sex, we tried with me on top. This didnt work so well, but i want it too!! His member was "coming out" of me a lot. Is this due to more "practice" required? Or could it be that I am doing something wrong (as simple even as moving too high off his penis)?? Any tips/hints would be greatly appreciated because he seemed to really love the other perks of me on top with easy access to my nipples etc as well...


This is something that I really want to be able to do for him because he is always making me feel so great!!


Thanks

[DreamP346]

Yeah, it does come with practice. Just try doing it more
Try a slow grind. You don't have to pull out all the way. Just the little bit of movement should be good.
If you do want to pull out a lot, do it really slow. You could even hold his penis when you are pulling out. Make sure the tip is still inside of you though. Then you can sit down slowly or very fast for different sensations.

[jns]

He should know how long he is and if he is coming out more than you. Have him provide some support with his hands and give an indication as to where you should be starting the down stroke. If needed he can put his hands on your waist or hips to keep you from going too far.

[Ashlee T.]

I'm going to say something that is probably going to be unpopular............BUT, try watching some porn. Seriously...go on a free porn video site and do a search of "girl on top". I'm not telling you to deck out in makeup and fake eyelashes and g-strings with heels. Definitely don't be fake and try to mimic the appearance of porn stars. I'm telling you to watch the body movements, watch how she sometimes goes fast and sometimes goes slow. Watch how she moves her hips in different ways. I'm telling you...I was uncomfortable being on top too until I watched enough to get some great ideas and get comfortable with it. I also learned how to give a killer BJ by watching porn.

With confidence comes relaxation........with relaxation comes letting go of inhibitions and having awesome fun sex. And besides, it sounds like all the more reason to practice with him even more. And I assure you, he'll love that.

[shoshannah]

If you are kneeling on top of him, then moving up and down will create a risk of him popping out. Instead of up and down, I will often rock my hips back and forth, or move them in circles (grinding), which are less likely to make him pop out (although it is still possible). I also will grind when lying on him.

[jsgirl]

Thankyou so much for your replies!!

I did consider the porn idea but was a little embarrassed about doing that.... but I think I may give it a go.

The idea of more practise I can see as being a GREAT learning tool and in getting him to sort of guide my hips sounds like a good place to start!

I was kneeling on top of him which was causing a lot of him popping out so we did give up.

Thankyou all again for your advice!!

[jsgirl]

*With confidence comes relaxation........with relaxation comes letting go of inhibitions and having awesome fun sex. And besides, it sounds like all the more reason to practice with him even more. And I assure you, he'll love that. *

Confidence and relaxation are also highly required!!!

[Anamandy]

Get on top while he is on a chair. Preferably one with arm rests. You can use the arm rest to push yourself up and down. Also, you really don't even need to go up and down. You can gyrate and hump your hips and give him some fantastic sensations. Use your pelvic muscles to to grasp his penis. He'll go wild.

[Anamandy]

Agree with you 100%. Redtube.com has lots of free porn and is great educational device - even for me in my 50s. LOL!

[mrdee]

All great ideas for sure! We struggled with the same thing a bit, and with practice things got better. She used to go up and down on me and I would pop out sometimes. Like was said before, if she is going up and down shell usuallly use a hand to hold me and know how far she is on me so I dont come out. Grinding happens much more often tho with her on top as it stimulates her clit with the pressure o grinding. Watching porn for ideas never fails really! She has learned alot of different things that have made blowjobs incredible! Like they say practice makes perfect! GOod luck!