[Fatin]

hey everyone sorry i dont post a lot lately but i just finished my exams and i had to go fix my car and a lot of stuff.
so here's the problem, occasionallyme and my boyfriend go to his place we ONLY make out and do some smoking .. but every time i ask him whyy cant we just have sex he refuse saying he wants it to be on our wedding night though he knows i want it more than him .. so yesterday i went to his place at night and it was so dark so i was laying down my my tummy checking my phone and stuff then he came and sat on top of me .. then he want it to be anal but i believe that anal is just nothing but painful so i SCREAMED so loud then -apparently he was so horny- he just kept it out outside of any hole .. then by accident it went inside my vagina not all of it just only the head and a little bit more beyond so i got shocked then he asked me if it was in and i said yes then he got up and i kept telling him to continue .. well does that make me not virgin?

[jamesmarshalls]

Well I can't say that. Is that your first experience? If yes the next question is did the hymen broken? if not then I think you are still virgin. You will know it when you feel such pain and when you see some blood on it.

[Fatin]

such pain like what? and no i checked like 5 times and there was no blood but i had some pain so i want to know what sort of pain?

[DreamP346]

It depends on your definition of a virgin. How do you define it. The breaking of the hymen is one idea, but many girls don't have much of a hymen if they have lead an active lifestyle. There if no garuntee that there will be blood. Some women don't bleed. Some women feel pain their first time, but again some women don't.

Does having a man inside you, any part of him, constitute lossing your virginity. That is a question you need to ask yourself. Do you feel like you are still a virgin? If so, then just accept that you are. If you feel like you are not, then that is fine too. There is no clear difinition.

[jns]

Fatin, I hope you are on birth control. A little accident like this could derail many of your future plans. I'm not sure I would call that losing your virginity, but it probably be called either way. Good luck.

[Fatin]

Birth control??? u think im pregnent?? .. omg i just woke up and i have a morning sickness .. is that bad?

[jns]

Fatin, no I don't think you are pregnant, because it is quite unlikely given the short time and lack of ejaculation. However, even if a guy doesn't ejaculate, he might have a small amount of semen released. If that got in your vagina, it would have a very small but not negligible chance of getting you pregnant. Don't play around with this unless you are comfortable about any of the possibilities, even slight possibilities.

It's way too early for you to have morning sickness due to pregnancy. In a woman who is pregnant, it takes a while for hormone levels to build up to the level that can cause morning sickness. BTW, not all women have morning sickness when they are pregnant.

[Fatin]

oh ok that's "kind of" relief to me :/ .. yeah i was thinking of something like that before, i mean before us getting there i gave him head so yeah .. but hum, i dont know, i guess i'll just wait and see what will happened yeah?!

[BabyGirl]

me and my boyfriend go to his place we ONLY make out and do some smoking

When you say Smoking, what do you mean ? Cigarettes, Pot, Harder drugs ? I hope none of the above ,as when you want a child, you need to be as healthy as possible.

Giving Head is Sex, so is him giving you oral, it's just not Penetration. If he wants to wait until you are married, I think you both are playing with Fire here. This Playing around sexually, will most likely end up with you losing your Virginity before Marriage.

You want to go all the way, he doesn't, yet he gets the benefit of Head Jobs, all the while not wanting to have penetration with you, the penetration that you desire. He gets his " Jollies " you get Frustrated.

It's time you 2 talked, either you quit playing Sex Games, Teasing and getting to the want to Stage, or you just go ahead and have Sex and worry about the " Marriage " part of it Later. Though, USE PROTECTION !!!

Or get married and have sex, so he will have his wish of a Virgin Bride. But Use Protection then too, until you are established as a Couple and can afford a Child .

Discuss it and then Decide . Set the Rules together and Play by them, either way, your Virginity will be lost.

[Fatin]

BabyGirl, thank u soo much for what you said .. i think its exactly what i want to hear, well i met him yesterday and i wanted to talk to him bout what happened but hes having his pre-graduation exams so i thought in case like this can wait cos im pretty sure we wont do anything till he finish "i hope" .. we're doing this "make out" since the new year of 2010 and i guess i posted something a bout it here but im not sure what, and we've discussed a bout not doing it again but we felt like it wasn't going anywhere so we decided to continue on it as long as we dont go anywhere further.
hum, I do give him head and yes he does "sometimes" give me oral, but i dont really do ENJOY oral.
oh and a bout the smoking thing, no dear don't worry, we smoke hum i don't know what u guys call it but we call it Shisha, but he does the smoking i rarely do, so i dont do smoking a lot .
we have discussed a bout marriage and im hoping after we finishes his exams that we might get engaged
And answering sp346 question, yes, i do feel like im a still virgin, i mean i dont feel anything different so i guess im ok.