[yzf0600a]

First, Thank you all for letting me post and ask questions of the ladies in forum.
I’m 50 year old married man but going to get a divorce from a love and sexless marriage. I haven’t had sex in about 3 years. While the divorce is will be tough and I don’t know well my youngest son will handle (this part terrifies me) it. I think that it is a positive thing for the boys and I.

The idea of a new life both excites me and scares the **** out of me when it comes to meeting, dating and yes sex. Based on what I been reading here I have always been a victim of insecurity and porn. I am somewhat smaller (at 3.75”x 1”) than what has been considered small in this forum. My experience with women has been limited over the years and had one of those woman broke the relationship off because of my size and an other I was her first, so no one to compare with.

Another issue I have is that I have never been able to last that long, about 3 minutes or less, on rare occasions maybe a little longer. I typically can only go once during a session. Because of this, I have never been able to bring any of the women I have been with to climax using intercourse alone, in any position.

Due to these issues and the fact that it excites me tremendously to bring pleasure to the women, I try to spend a lot of time in foreplay as well as getting her off first and as many times as she will let me. Although my wife does has nevert let me (when we had sex), I love to give oral sex when ever possible. When it comes to receiving oral sex, I do like it but usually never let it go to completion due to the one time thing. I want to be able to provide what intercourse I can.

I have, started reading and listen to tapes in an effort to learn as much as I can about making a woman happy.

Now for the questions:
How long is considered a good length of time for intercourse?
If the actual intercourse time were short, what else would be considered good for you to be satisfied?
Is an orgasm thru oral or manual stimulation as equal to intercourse?
How many times in a session do you typical consider satisfying?
Does the associated size of the equipment make any difference (mine are at the same scale as the my penis?
When making love, what is the best thing(s) a man to can do to satisfy?

I must say, posting this if very difficult to me. With the exception of the few women I have been with and myself, these issues aren’t known.

Thanks again for letting post this.

[Hugo-B]

Good luck starting you're new single life, and congratulations for considering your son first and foremost.

Re penis SIZE, search my previous posts, I wrote quite a comprehensive response to a kid on here called JOSH. Speaking of Josh, as a single man you'll need to equip yourself with some condoms that fit you, experiment with the durex 'trim' I think they're called, basically google search for tighter/smaller condoms and order some and see which ft you best if you don't already know, when you find the right ones carry some round with you. Every girl I've met will automatically buy regular condoms - would you know how to go tampon shopping?

In fact search josh's previous posts there was a discussion about smaller condoms in one of his threads.

I will answer each of your questions as best/honestly/comprehensively as possible...


"How long is considered a good length of time for intercourse?"
I'll be straight with you here: longer than the three minutes you say you last for, especially if you can't go more than once, which at 50 is totally reasonable. Maybe chat to your doctor about Cialais?
The good news is you CAN train yourself to last longer, I know, I've done it. You sound like you've had a bit of bad luck over the years with partners being rather insensitive and unwilling and this wont help your cause, but don't give up. Start doing those PC muscle exercises RELIGIOUSLY, and order a copy of the multi orgasmic man: then read and digest.
Relating to personal experience some girls love actual intercourse and are quite happy to have sex for as long as I can physically manage, i.e. my current GF would let me hump her until I was actually unconscious. My last GF before that needed regular foreplay, about five minutes of sex before she'd jump on top, give herself a G-spot orgasm and then basically 'hurry me up' until she came; so basically NO interest in intercourse after she'd come.


If the actual intercourse time were short, what else would be considered good for you to be satisfied?
Loads of foreplay, great oral, and possibly, if you're OK with it (I am, you should be to if you want to give maximum pleasure) buy your partner a vibrator of her choice and watch her use it, and use it on her.

"Is an orgasm thru oral or manual stimulation as equal to intercourse?"
I believe so, I've never heard a woman complaining she climaxed through oral instead of vaginal for example. My ex would always have a clit orgasm with her rabbit (alone, in front of me, or with me using it on her) and would normally have a g-spot orgasm through sex with me. She never made a distinction between the two although I'd be interested to hear what the girls have to say on this one.

"How many times in a session do you typical consider satisfying?"
As long as it takes her to cum, I've cum four times in ten minutes before (when I was 19) and she didn't cum once had sex with a girls for a couple of hours and neither of us came, we can both cum in about (I wait for her, I could let myself cum sooner) 15-20 minutes now. Different strokes for different folks.


"Does the associated size of the equipment make any difference?:
To some girls, yes. This problem can be tackled (excuse the pun) with battery operated equipment if she is a size queen, ultimately she just wants an orgasm, as we know fingers, willy, mouth, vibrator etc can do this...


"When making love, what is the best thing(s) a man to can do to satisfy?" Be perceptive and sensitive to the woman's needs/wants/desires and respond to them.


All most women really want is to be loved and feel loved and wanted by the man they love. Go out, be yourself, have some fun. Compatibility will follow. Any woman who really cares about you (and I hope you find one soon, it sounds the best is yet to come) will be more interested in YOU than the size of your willy; and remember, even a big willy, attached to a dumb, insensitive, and selfish lover will disappoint.

[yzf0600a]

Thanks for the advice Buddhaboy.
I was hoping that I would he from some of the women as well.
Maybe it wasn't an appropriate question, maybe discussed to much, or some other reason.
Anyway, thanks again.
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[DreamP346]

I have only really had a clitoral orgasn through penetration once. G-spot orgasms don't really compare to clit O's for me. But this is all different for each women. You will not know until you ask her. There may be women out there who wants a large penis and only enjoy intercourse. But there are plenty of women who would rather have lots of foreplay and orgasms through oral and manual.

Everything you describe doing sounds like you are doing it right. My suggestion would be to really get your partner off and provide her lots of satisfaction before getting comepletely naked in front of her. By that point she really won't care what your size is or intercourse.

About lasting longer, there are exercises. Search this site. I provided a description in another thread of what to do. There is nothing wrong with stopping when you think you are getting close. Change positions or start giving her oral or manual stimulation until you think you can go again without cumming.

[yzf0600a]

Thank you for your time and response. SP346. It is greatly appreciated.
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[LittlePip]

Now for the questions:
How long is considered a good length of time for intercourse?
If the actual intercourse time were short, what else would be considered good for you to be satisfied?
Is an orgasm thru oral or manual stimulation as equal to intercourse?
How many times in a session do you typical consider satisfying?
Does the associated size of the equipment make any difference (mine are at the same scale as the my penis?
When making love, what is the best thing(s) a man to can do to satisfy?

Hi, I am a bit of a penetration addict at the moment! I would be a little disappointed if I couldn't have between 20minutes and half an hour of sex but not necessarily penetrative only, for example I would feel equally satisfied with some foreplay, a minute of sex followed by more 'foreplay' ending in penetrative sex to climax or penetrative sex then climax elsewhere. I believe that answers your second question, also.*

Some days I crave penetration, other days I do not want to be penetrated as much or at all. A dildo will substitute a penis and I believe you could get away with some very long, kinky sex sessions without revealing how long it takes you to climax through intercourse simply by changing what you are doing before you have the chance to climax, if you can sustain an erection. I can be satisfied through any means and I think this is a very individual question.

I do find sexual activity without intercourse can leave me longing for the deep connection you feel with your partner when he is inside you. This is the only aspect of non penetrative sex *which would not equate for me.*

Different women have different views on 'associated equipment' size! I like it all to be in proportion but, bluntly, I prefer to have a connection with the man attached to the equipment and take things from there, the sex is a bonus.

I think you need to find someone to love and trust and who will not berate you for being yourself. The best way to please a woman is to know her and listen to her individual needs.*

Worst case scenario you hook up with someone and lavish her with foreplay and some kinky dildo sex if she permits and just appear to be the most generous lover before your 3 minutes of glory!*

Read this forum, there are many, many women either afraid of penetration or who dislike penetration, you may find your perfect (sexual) match is someone like this, the fitting piece of the puzzle.

[yzf0600a]

Thanks little Pip for taking the time to give your thoughts. Your thoughts as well as the others are very valid and will keep them in mind. I'm beginning to understand after reading some of the other posts about these situations, that the first thing I have to understand is that I don't have much of a choice, it is what it is. Plastic surgery for this appendage hasn't been perfected like those of other areas, i.e. nose modifications, face lifts, breast enlargements (or decreasing size if needed) so it is not the worth the risk for me.
I will have to learn that should I meet a women that is not into me, not to take it personally and realize that we were just not right for each other and keep looking.
I was going to be coming out of a 12 year marriage (at least 3 years sexless) it seems that I will have to wait longer to make that step. That is another issue however. DO this day I never stepped out on the marriage and am not planning on it.

The idea of dating has and still does always made me nervous and when I thought that I getting out on my own again shortly, it all became very real to me and anxiety I guess started in.
Anyway, I better get out of here or I will blabber on.
Thanks again to all that responded.
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[Hugo-B]

OP, just remember that women are generally a lot fussier than men and will give men the brush off for a million and one things which have nothing to do with penis size, you're just as likely to be given the 'heave-ho' for having a small penis as you are no money, a bald head, bad breath, a big nose, a belt which doesn't match your shoes, bad dress sense, a penis that's too big, being selfish in bed, having the wrong car, not having a car, I could go on but I think I've made my point.

In short: do everything you can to better yourself (academically, physically, sexually), this will make you more confident whilst making you more desirable as a by-product.

Learn all about the female anatomy, become a master with your tongue, and be prepared to use a vibrator on a women.

Get out and about, meet people, talk to people, you can't date a women without talking to her. Enjoy yourself and work on your social skills whilst you are.

You have a son, right? Well it's important he likes your next GF, so take him to all of these activities that are available for kids. You'll be spending quality time together, kids are a great conversation starter, he'll be enjoying himself AND there will likely be TONS of single moms there for you. You'll be outnumbered big time. Just have a quick look for a ring before you ask for a date. Women LOVE setting men up, mention you're single and they'll be falling over themselves to hook you up with their friends.

I have a feeling you'll do just fine.

BB

[yzf0600a]

Well ****! You just described me completely! I guess there is no chance now! Hahah! On a more serious note, I have started the process. Even though I am not out there yet, I am working on myself and personal communication skills as well as learning everything I can about women (or as much as they will let me). This site alone has been so informative, though I would probably not have signed up if I hadn't seen other men on it.
Also, I have been noticing that when it comes to getting the chance to talk to the women, I have something better than my son, I have a 165 lb black and white Great Dane that every time I take out to the store or other places, all the women come over to find out about and pet him.