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Giving and getting oral is a big part of my sex life. My teen daughter's bedroom is right next to ours and so we usually avoid intercourse in the bed which is noisy. BJs and oral on me can be quiet. Judging from other posts, I am lucky that my husband's pre-cum and semen are not vile. Anyway, as I have said in other posts, I think it's only fair if he takes my juices that I should take his.Comment
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Was never a fan of getting BJ's. Loving giving oral though!
Now if my GF had a big desire to give oral, then I'd probably figure out a way to enjoy receiving it. Luckily, she does not enjoy giving it, so I do not have to bear the burden of learning to like something that I do not enjoy."Are you serious? You're bleeping THAT girl?" - jen1447Comment
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Thanks Patti for reviving this thread.
My SO hated to give BJs during her marriage, but (as I later learned) that was because of the state of their marriage. He never went down on her either. Not much giving behaviors on either part. When we got together, it was a different story. I love giving oral and very soon she wanted to give back. Now she loves it as much as I love giving to her. As I wrote in another thread, if a man is not selfish in bed, he can unlock many passions in his partner.
I don't think it is required. As many noted in 2012, men can have a very fulfilling sex life without receiving a BJ. The only "rule" I ever had in bed is that my partner could never do anything she did not want to do just to please me. (The last thing I ever wanted to hear in a fight is that she hated anything we did in bed). There are so many ways to get a man off. So long as a woman likes a few of those or several, the dislike of any one thing can be easily overcome."The only consistent feature of all of your dissatisfying relationships is you." Despair.com "Dysfunction"Comment
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I just noted that the last comment before yours was 10-24-2012. However, I never took you as a ***-for-tat gal. With the expressive and giving nature your comments reveal, I assumed that you were a "go first" person. I can safely assume that no one (male or female) would failure to return the favor . . . ."The only consistent feature of all of your dissatisfying relationships is you." Despair.com "Dysfunction"Comment
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I just noted that the last comment before yours was 10-24-2012. However, I never took you as a ***-for-tat gal. With the expressive and giving nature your comments reveal, I assumed that you were a "go first" person. I can safely assume that no one (male or female) would failure to return the favor . . . .
I don't know effy, it was just here so I responded,, Oh I don't know if I'm a "go first" person, really I'm pretty passive, and your assumption is right. My favors don't go unrewarded
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