[theinkpen]

So I am 18 and have been with only two guys. The first couldn't make me orgasm and the second spent a lot of time trying and was successful. The only thing is that my muscles don't contract and i don't orgasm nearly as hard. I don't want him to think I am faking. It just doesn't feel the same when he does it.
The reason i have trouble orgasming is because it takes a while and i being to feel bad that it takes so much time. I know that he doesn't care about that but I'm not sure if that has some effect on the situation.

Any advice/ do you know why this is?

[lizzardb63]

Perhaps you're not relaxing enough to really let yourself go? It sounds like you think about it during sex and worry you're taking too long so you rush it. If he doesn't mind, take his word for it. Many women wish their man would last longer and care about giving her pleasure. Just relax and go with the flow. Don't put so much pressure on yourself and enjoy yourself! It will "come" with due time...no pun intended.

[Benni]

Are you speaking of a vaginal orgasm? Many women can't finish with just vaginal stimulation. Clitoral stimulation is the key -- lots of it and it can take as long as 20 minutes.

[theinkpen]

Are you speaking of a vaginal orgasm? Many women can't finish with just vaginal stimulation. Clitoral stimulation is the key -- lots of it and it can take as long as 20 minutes.

I am talking both vaginal and clitoral. I haven't ever had a vaginal orgasm.

[JonDoe]

It just doesn't feel the same when he does it.

You simply know your body better than he does. Give it time and enjoy the journey.