[Ahryin]

second thought...derive a chart...a HUGE chart of what you do sexually and what she has done to you sexually over the years...this way when she says she is bending over backwards doing such and such...BRING OUT THE CHART!!!! Use a lazer pointer! dim the lights and give her a presentation!!! smh see i'm not a very nice person when it comes to getting my point across

[JonDoe]

PowerPoint vs PowerPlay

second thought...derive a chart...a HUGE chart of what you do sexually and what she has done to you sexually over the years...this way when she says she is bending over backwards doing such and such...BRING OUT THE CHART!!!! Use a lazer pointer! dim the lights and give her a presentation!!! smh see i'm not a very nice person when it comes to getting my point across

Tufte hates PowerPoint, but will she?

Actually, I posted a related thread in the Relationships section regarding communication that really explains a lot of it.

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/relationships/52840-communication-breakdowns-breakthroughs.html

[JonDoe]

Last week she gave me two BJs, one to completion and the other she finished with a hand job. Finally, after all these years. I wouldn't say it was great head, but it definitely got the job done and she was quite proud of herself. I had to concentrate on a fantasy to reach orgasm; otherwise, it just wasn't going to happen. I was hoping to come in her mouth. In fact, I was set on being selfish and not telling her when i was going to come, but she stoppedrelight before I came. Hopefully, this will become a regular occurrence and get better with time.

[ItsASecret]

In fact, I was set on being selfish and not telling her when i was going to come, but she stoppedrelight before I came.

I hope you have had the discussion about how she feels about having you finish in her mouth, if not you could easily be setting yourself up for a long period absent from blowjobs or anything else because of the dislike of that surprise. For a lot of women that without warning notion is an absolute mood killer and a possible argument inducer...tread very carefully if she is not so open to the idea of you finishing in her mouth.

If you have not had much of sex for a period of time and suddenly you enter an "I want" phase or "it is supposed to be like this ____" or so forth then all your hard work to get to this point can be immediately ruined. Instead just go slowly even if that is difficult to do, tell her you appreciate what she is doing for you, take those small steps and things can look better in the long run.