[backwoods]

I have a large labia, and I have always felt extremely uncomfortable with my body because of it. I feel like a freak, and have always felt like I wasn't normal because of it...and I still have those feelings sometimes. It isn't all tucked up there, it is big and it hangs...personally, I don't like it but I have to work with what I got. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 years, and he has never said anything about it. I mean, I am his first and only sexual partner so he hasn't seen the variety yet, lol. Anyways, because I am so self concious about my labia he doesn't ever get to just see me fully naked. I will cover it up or hide it, or I will make him turn the light off. I can't be comfortable with myself and sprawl out naked and just let him look at me. Therefore I don't let him go down on me, as much as I would love it.

Because of all this our sex routine is the same...like a wham bam thank you ma'am kind of thing, lol. We're in bed, I get naked under the covers and so does he, and lay on our sides and go from there...

How do I feel more confident about myself and my large labia when having sex with my boyfriend? I would love to surprise him and just be 100% confident with my body and do things we have never done before.

So, do any of you ladies have a large labia and a great sex life? Men, do you find women with large labia's attractive? Overall, any advice on being more confident with myself?

[lizzardb63]

I have a bigger labia... every woman is different and it's nothing to be ashamed of. A vagina is a vagina and it serves is purpose. People look different and that includes our penises and vaginas. You've been together six years and I can guarentee you if he saw it (which I'm sure he somehow saw it or got a sneak peak without you noticing) it wouldn't make a big difference. He doesn't love you because of the way your vagina looks. If anything, you'd probably turn him on even more by opening up and showing him you trust him.

I can assure you, my fiance has seen other vaginas and it's really not THAT important to guys. Just like for girls, if a guy has a crooked penis, it's not really that big of deal. You'e not with them because of how their penis looks right? No. Relax! You're beautiful!

[backwoods]

Thank you so much. This is exactly why I registered here...just reading what y'all have to say makes me feel better about myself, because I see that I am not alone. Slowly but surely I am gaining the ability to love myself, and my body

[Stillness]

Men, do you find women with large labia's attractive?

I do. I prefer it, I think. But to be completely honest it doesn't really matter. I don't even know if my wife's are large or average. I'm guessing that most men don't really care, except for a few with some sort of fetish. I have heard some men speak fondly about their experience about a woman with a "fat, juicy ____." I've never heard anyone say they liked how small it was. But it's rare for the size to have any place in our minds though.

Interestingly, I've heard of a group of people somewhere (I just looked it up, they're Khosian and apparently this is the view in various parts of Africa) where the women pride themselves on the size of their labia and even stretch them. So if someone thinks your labia are too big, it's probably cultural or personal and has nothing to do with any natural preference everybody has. My guess is that it's all in your head, though.

[DreamP346]

You say your labia's large, but compared to what? Porn stars? This is a new issue where women are getting labiaplasty based on self imposed views about the ideal vulva/labia, often based on porn. Are you so sure you have a large (compared to everybody else) labia? Is there an average that you can measure yourself on?

There is no standard. Its like complaining your hair is abnormal because its not blond and always looking perfectly in line like the models in the magazines. You have want you have and your boyfriend obviously likes what you have since he has been with you for 6 years.

I know it can be difficult to get comfortable with your body after years of thinking negatively about it, so slowly start to do things. Maybe change infront of your bf. Let him do oral while the lights are off. Take a shower together. Slowly you will become more comfortable doing things infront of him.

[Stillness]

This is a new issue where women are getting labiaplasty based on self imposed views about the ideal vulva/labia, often based on porn.

I hate this. It's bad enough that people have the complexes they do about looks, but now we have guys with these weird predilections (probably largely homosexual) in fashion and pornography expressing themselves about the ideal woman. Everyone has the right to expression, but it's too bad that theirs carries the weight it does. A lot of it is stuff that's the opposite of what the average heterosexual man wants or stuff that's just unimportant to us. And if there is a preference on some of this stuff it's probably informed by watching pornography, which is really unfortunate.

Every woman - every person - has a unique beauty. The one that loves them will appreciate that and will even find some of the "flaws" endearing. I'm not extremely concerned about my looks, but I do feel like I have a particularly unattractive butt. It's hairy and flat. I always hear through the media how women are into butts now, so I have wished mine was different. Guess what my wife compliments the most…my butt. She finds larger shapelier butts feminine. I was shocked, because I have a larger muscular upper body and have always wanted my lower body, including my butt to match. She thinks it's cute. Sometimes I don't even know how to take it because of the way I view myself.

[lizzardb63]

The one that loves them will appreciate that and will even find some of the "flaws" endearing. I'm not extremely concerned about my looks, but I do feel like I have a particularly unattractive butt. It's hairy and flat. I always hear through the media how women are into butts now, so I have wished mine was different.

Your wife and I probably like the same kind of butts, lol. Bubble butts are unattrative on a man to me, but some women like them. We're all different and that's what so great about it!

[JonDoe]

If your labia hung to your knees or were longer than your partners fully erect penis, then I'd agree they are too large. Anything else is practically perfect!

[jns]

How do I feel more confident about myself and my large labia when having sex with my boyfriend? I would love to surprise him and just be 100% confident with my body and do things we have never done before.

So, do any of you ladies have a large labia and a great sex life? Men, do you find women with large labia's attractive? Overall, any advice on being more confident with myself?

You yourself have to become less self conscious about your body and more confident that you are a beautiful woman. As a man, I find labia beautiful, interesting and something to explore when giving oral sex. Large is just more of a good thing. I doubt you will find many men who dislike large labia.

If you want to find out if you like him giving you oral sex and he is willing, have him start out slow with kissing and teasing around your pubic area. After a few sessions like that, let him go a little further as your comfort level allows. Have him tease and kiss your inner thighs and your butt. Then go further in several steps, again as your comfort level allows. Soon you will have the excitement of receiving oral.

[cathygirl]

I once saw an old video routine from when Eddie Murphy was young. In it he said, "I've never seen an ugly **********". You can fill in the blank. He went on to say, "If any of you women think you have an ugly **********, please come to my dressing room after the show and I will tell you if you are right or wrong!" :-)

While that is hillarious, I think it makes a point. Guys like variety. I know my husband does. We watch porn movies together and we talk about what we like and what looks good and so forth. I don't think there is such a thing as too big, too small, too loose, etc. One thing I do know, though, is that most men do want to see. They are very visual. It took me some time to get totally comfortable, but I always make sure there's at least some light because he wants to see everything. If I deny him that, he'll just look at porn and satisfy the desire to see with fake pictures of strangers. Why would I want that? So we watch a video and then I let him enjoy me and he appreciates what is in front of him more than the fantasy in the video. That's nice.