[BadAA05]

A little background : My wife is a stay at home mom of 4 and is 33 years old. I am 34.

My wife has turned in to a SUPER FREAK over the last 6 months! This is unreal. I think 50 Shades really set this in motion. I can not believe this is happening. We went from having sex once a week to once, and sometimes twice a day. In addition to that, she is masturbating at least once a day .. and she just started masturbating. We developed a day of rest which is Tuesday. Tired Tuesday if you will. This is a day where we please each other with oral and toys. This is where my questions comes in. I recently purchased her a dildo that is substantially larger than myself. I have never seen her so pleased sexually. I am a bit concerned that is makes me less attractive because of my size. As a typical male, I have always thought I had a small penis. However, I am average when looking at studies. I am 6" Long and 4.8" in girth. The girth is what she likes about that toy. We have had sex several times since the monster was introduced and she still has multiples. I have never gotten the reaction that "big daddy" got. She loves it and loves me, this is just hard on me for some reason. My goal in life is to please her, so I am happy .. just concerned.

Oh, and I am assuming this is her sexual prime?

[Stillness]

The prime seems to vary from woman to woman. I'd just go with the flow on that one and don't question it too much. I love that your day of rest from sex still includes sex. You, my friend, are living my dream life. Except in my dream there are no other penises or penis shaped objects. Why did you do that?

Can you share your insecurities with her? I'm sure she'll console you and tell you how great your thing is, how nothing can replace you, and that you can get rid of "big daddy" and you'll still feel insecure because that's how we are. I have two other suggestions:

1) Ben wa ball (a small one ). If she does kegels with one of these in all day it can increase both yours and her pleasure. It will probably have the added benefit of getting her adjusted to something smaller and then maybe you'll feel like big daddy.

2) The finger trick. This plays on the vaginal function of adjusting to what's inserted as well. I never hear people talk about this one, but if you arouse her with a finger inserted for a few minutes her vagina will adjust to your finger. Then when you come with the real deal you feel bigger.

I've played around with 2 a bit and seemed to notice a difference, but it could have been mental. No question on 1. Can you say "mind-blowing"?

[BadAA05]

Number one is done! She can't last too long with those things. Let's just say we made a quick trip to the car during a party we went to last weekend. She thought she coud last the entire party.

[Stillness]

Goodness! If only it were contagious I'd want to hang out with you two. Unfortunately, that's the best I have besides letting her know how you feel.

[DreamP346]

Is your partner happy? Is she sexually satisfied? Are you happy? Are you sexually satisfied?

If you said yes to these questions, you have nothing to feel insecure about. Kudos to you for trying different stuff and being courageous enough to try things that are a little intimidating.

[BadAA05]

Is your partner happy? Is she sexually satisfied? Are you happy? Are you sexually satisfied?

If you said yes to these questions, you have nothing to feel insecure about. Kudos to you for trying different stuff and being courageous enough to try things that are a little intimidating.

I am very happy and satisfied. I am living something right now that I thought only existed in fairy tales. My wife seems very happy. If it was not good, I doubt she would want it so much. She said she feels like what she thinks it would be like to be a testosterone driven male right now. Looking back on it, we did have a great sex life prior to the 4 kids. It just takes a toll. I think she has started to focus on us more now. You just here how "size does not matter" , and I proved that it does.

[Stillness]

Just because she gives a different reaction to the toy doesn't mean it's better. It could just be different, especially if you're doing oral too like you said in your original post. My wife can give me incredible sensations that drive me up a wall and gets her different reactions than her vagina does. It may look like I prefer the other things more, but I don't. It may be the same for your wife.

[DreamP346]

I am very happy and satisfied. I am living something right now that I thought only existed in fairy tales. My wife seems very happy. If it was not good, I doubt she would want it so much. She said she feels like what she thinks it would be like to be a testosterone driven male right now. Looking back on it, we did have a great sex life prior to the 4 kids. It just takes a toll. I think she has started to focus on us more now. You just here how "size does not matter" , and I proved that it does.

It probably has to do with the novelty of it or maybe you are just hitting a different angel using it. Also, like Stillness said, if you are doing oral to, then you are stimulating the clit and G-spot at the same time and that will be an explosive orgasm.

[rcoreyus]

If you are both enjoying your sex life, then great - don't worry. My wife and I also use toys sometimes. There is an enormous one that she sometimes likes. Sometimes she likes other things. I don't feel at all threatened by a piece of plastic, and I enjoy the wide range of things we do for each other now.

[jns]

Bad, just follow it where it goes. I think once a week as maybe too little, but manageable. Once a day sounds like fun. Use toys as necessary. You are still the one giving her pleasure. She is probably happy that you will do what is necessary to make her satisfied.