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jf, I've read your posting and all of the comments, and you've gotten some good advice here, and it's clear you take this seriously. My own assessment is that you have unrealistic expectations about how it should feel. Just like some women (and men) have very senstiive nipples and some don't, some women have sensitive vaginas and some don't. It doesn't seem that you have anything medically or physiologically wrong with you. Enjoy each other's company, try new things from time to time, and let the stress about this go. It can get more pleasurable, but by invention of your mind and affection for him, not from more active nerve endings.
My own penis is very small, and penetrative vaginal intercourse with me has been frustrating and disappointing for all or almost all of my female partners. Some told me directly, and some did not, but it's very clear. I'm never going to wow a woman that way, but you know what? The sex is generally great, and a couple of women in my past would consider me among their best lovers. I'm a nice person. I'm giving and creative in bed, and I put a woman's pleasure first. I found ways to make it work, even with a very small penis.Comment
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jf, I've read your posting and all of the comments, and you've gotten some good advice here, and it's clear you take this seriously. My own assessment is that you have unrealistic expectations about how it should feel. Just like some women (and men) have very senstiive nipples and some don't, some women have sensitive vaginas and some don't. It doesn't seem that you have anything medically or physiologically wrong with you. Enjoy each other's company, try new things from time to time, and let the stress about this go. It can get more pleasurable, but by invention of your mind and affection for him, not from more active nerve endings.
My own penis is very small, and penetrative vaginal intercourse with me has been frustrating and disappointing for all or almost all of my female partners. Some told me directly, and some did not, but it's very clear. I'm never going to wow a woman that way, but you know what? The sex is generally great, and a couple of women in my past would consider me among their best lovers. I'm a nice person. I'm giving and creative in bed, and I put a woman's pleasure first. I found ways to make it work, even with a very small penis.
Dont worry, I did not take that seriously enough. My boyfriend reaches the back of me, and it hurts, so i know hes wrong.
As for your situations, give it time. Ive read a few places that certain positions and what not can make it more evident for a woman.Comment
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