[olgajasmine]

Hello i have a slight problem. My boyfriend is very selfish in bed. He is watching porn daily or when he can and this is bad for sex as he has sex with me like im a girl in the movie. I feel like an object for his advantage. Hes realy lazy in bed and its not turning me on what so ever. He cums in a matter of minites and i get nothing from this. He dont touch me. He never goes down on me (im clean) i just duno wat to do.. just advice plz thank u x

[olgajasmine]

SELFISH IN BED my boyfriend is pure lazy

Hello thank you in advance.
My boyfriend is selfish in bed. He cuns un under ten minites. I gain nothing from sex. He never touches me or goes down on me. I find porn on his internet history everyday which explains the way he has sex with me is like im one of those girls from the porn movies. I do everything for him sex wise. I suck and swallow and whatever he wants. I havent had an orgasm durin sex since i met him... tell a lie i think it was once. he is lazy in bed and im sick of bein used as a place where he can empty himself... if u get me? what can i do? im bored of masturbating in the bath tub after sex to feel half satisfied. im clean down there im not unnattractive he actualy tells me im sexy everyday so what can i do? help please.


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[lizzardb63]

How old are both of you? He does sound pretty selfish. There should be more communication about what you like and what he likes and he should be willing to try meet your needs as much as you try meet his. BTW- if you "think" you had an orgasm, it probably wasn't. Have you confronted him about this or talked to him about how he treats you in bed and that you know he looks at porn? You have to talk to him about it first and try to understand what's going on. If he still doesn't respond, perhaps it's time to move on. He might just be using you.

[Guest]

Buy him a book or check it out from the local library (if available); She Comes First by Dr. Ian Kerner Ph.D

Ask him to read it. Watch him read it even...perhaps before you go to bed every night.

You may also consider watching porn with him, ask him what he likes so much about it, the characters, the action, the positions, etc. Learn something from it if you can. Perhaps even apply it to your own intimate life.

I certainly wouldn't put up with it for much longer without doing something.

Selfish men baffle me! I am fortunate when I am able to see my SO and actually have alone time with her. I want and make sure that ALL of my attention is on her when we are in bed and there's no way I'd treat her like some 'action figure' in some porn flick.

[olgajasmine]

thank you.. i was thinking about porn myself and watching it with him. Ive never dne this with anyone before and i duno if i would get embarresed or jealous. He wouldnt read a book.. too much to ask.

[olgajasmine]

were both 20 been together about a year. ive tried talking to him about it but my last attempt i got told by him that i was simply too much effort. he doesnt seem to want to please me. he says he will 'try harder' he tells me im beautiful everyday but he doesnt make me feel like it.

[olgajasmine]

sorry for repetetive posts my phne is rubbish.

[nicole_3512]

id give him an ultimatum. either he pleases you or he dosent get pleased... sex is a two way street.

[olgajasmine]

like now i asked him if he had been watching any and he said no i look on his history and he lied. what do i do

[joannabas]

like now i asked him if he had been watching any and he said no i look on his history and he lied. what do i do

.........that's exactly what I'm going through he denies it and we have gotten in really bad arguments cuz I have the proof and he lies in my face.....its been 4 months that he doesn't touch me during sex or goes down on me its really sad for me