[BOSSDINOSAUR]

I've been dating a girl for a little over 2 years now, we're both 19. We have sex once or twice a week, but she never orgasms. She's never had an orgasm. She says she wants to have one, but she doesn't do anything about it. I've tried encouraging her to explore her own body so she can see what kind of sensations turn her on, but she doesn't. She says that whenever I bring it up, it just makes her feel pressured. I tell her that's the last thing I want and that I want this for her. I try to be as positive as I can, but I can't spark any genuine sexual curiosity within her. It's causing some serious stress on the relationship, but I don't tell her that. I fantasize constantly about being in a relationship with mutual sexual satisfaction. I want that relationship to be with her, and I feel like once she has an orgasm and gets those endorphins flowing, she'd be able to reciprocate my sexual appetite somewhat. I really love and care about her, but I'm a 19 year old man, and I'm sexually starving.

I've tried all kinds of things in an effort to make her orgasm myself, including heaps of oral sex. The problem is that getting feedback is like pulling teeth because she doesn't even know what kind of sensation she's supposed to feel. She just says it feels "good" or "weird" or "too sensitive." And if I ask for more detail, I'm putting pressure on her. It's maddening. I'm not really looking for sex tips. What can I do to help her see that sex is a beautiful, healthy thing? To help instill a a more positive, proactive approach to sexuality? I would absolutely hate for this to cause me to end the relationship, but after 2 years, my patience is drying up.

[Bladyn'smommy16]

You can't force her to orgasm maybe she will one day but until then keep trying if she knew you were going to end your relationship with her for this reason she would feel more pressured

[Guest]

i think she is probably not accepting that she has orgasms,

[Bladyn'smommy16]

Not every woman has a orgasm and some women it is very hard to make them

[BOSSDINOSAUR]

i think she is probably not accepting that she has orgasms,

Care to elaborate? I mean, I still remember my first orgasm. There wasn't a shadow of a doubt in my mind of exactly what happened. Is it more ambiguous for women?

[Bladyn'smommy16]

I'm sorry tulip you are a man I'm wondering how would you know? A woman can feel a orgasm as intense as a man I didn't mean to be rude but I am a woman I would know

[ItalianSweetie]

Not every woman has a orgasm and some women it is very hard to make them

I agree 100% on this one. My husband is the only guy that can make me orgasm. None of my ex lovers could, and I know of alot of other women that have problems achieving an orgasm.

[Bladyn'smommy16]

I find it sad that the OP would dump the woman he "loves" because she can't orgasm

[time2discover]

A relationship with mutual sexual satisfaction is like the rest of the relationship. It takes time and invested effort.
If you want to bail out at the first bump don't even bother!

She's young, still self conscious and learning. Give her a chance. Not every woman's volcano bursts at the first touch.
Some simmer a while until they really explode!

If you think she's worth the effort for you, maybe suggest some books on the internet.
But remember a relationship is bothways.

[Euphoric]

Is she denying you sex? Obviously not. Do you orgasm? Sounds like it. Does she say she doesn't like it? I believe you said she is giving you some feedback, ie: feels good, weird, etc. Why would you need to feel the need to end the relationship based on her having an orgasm? You need to do some research on the percentages of women who orgasm through clitoral stimulation, penetration, a combination of both, and those who never do. You are looking at sex and orgasm as a goal, however, it is a journey. Some women have a hard time orgasming. Why does it bother you so much if she is not complaining?