[kiersey]

So recently I guess over the past few months I've been having trouble orgasming. I never had much issue before but lately it seems like I've been psyching myself out before climax. So my question is how do I block out all the things that distract me from climaxing? The most common distraction is that no matter how ok my boyfriend acts about it I know it bothers him.

[Guest]

positive thinking, yoga ...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hi Kiersey

If I understand this correctly, your boyfriend is bothered by you not orgasming?

That's too much pressure on a person, your mind would be constantly thinking " I have to" as apposed to enjoying what you two have together and it happening naturally.

Our brains are wired to think and to switch off. If someone programmes it to constantly "think" during sex, then that spells trouble.

Could you maybe explain that to him, tell him that you have orgasms because you love him, because you enjoy him but you like to just concentrate on the pleasure of it all. Being told after the fact puts a damper on the next time...

[x.st.angel.x]

Just relax and dont put pressure on yourself. I suggest even talking to your partner about it and tell him that you are pressuring yourself. Perhaps you 2 can figure out a way to help you relax, if he is engaging in helping you take the pressure off it might help!

-Saint

[kiersey]

He doesn't mean to it just affects him makes him feel inadequate which I understand. I've always been far too in my head during sex it's just never affected me this much before. That's what I'm trying to figure out is how to switch my brain off.

[kiersey]

He knows what's happening and he tries to tell me it doesn't matter and I try to believe him it just doesn't work all that well. Any suggestions on something that might help me relax and forget about it?

[jns]

Blank your mind. Work on not thinking about anything. Then your should just react from the stimulation. If you are facing your bf, work on not focusing your eyes so he is a blur