[reesecup]

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Let's face it ladies...we all think we are pretty good in bed, but after 10 years of being intimate with the same man, how good can we be? I'm 30 years old, been with the same man since I was 19 and honestly, I need help...Our sex is still good, at times, but after 10 years, we need something new. I need to know new ways to drive my man wild, from sexual positions, to ways to give great head, to ways to move my body...I know there are things out there that I am missing, that I am not doing and I want to learn! I want to spice up our sex life, I want to have him thinking, ********...that's another reason why I married her So tell me, what is your expertise? Tell me ways that I can move, how do I work those darn kiegal exercises...?

[rcoreyus]

Well you will get different answers from different people. A couple of suggestions from a guy:

Slow teasing - maybe with him tied up. Keep him on the edge for as long as you can - hands, maybe mouth. Maybe have him do oral on you (if he finds that exciting - many men do - especialy if already teased into a frenzy). Then finish him by riding, or by mouth.

Do you have a nice big mirror in the bedroom so you can watch yourselves?

Get him very aroused - then ask what he most wants. (unless you already know, and it is something you don't want to do)

Have him "force" you (but use a safeword in case things get out of hand).

Some men enjoy receiving anal sex with a sex toy (nothing to do with being gay), but some are so bothered by the concept that it is difficult to know how to ask. Almost all men find it stimulating (it stimulates the prostate) but the "gayness" of it will bother some. Also, need to be slow and careful the first time.

So many possiblities - so specific to the people involved.

If any of the above bothers you - my apologies (but you did ask....)

[reesecup]

I haven't logged on for awhile, so I apologize for the late reply. I am in no way offended by your comments and suggestions. I was, however, hoping for a woman's response. My husband has no problem in telling me what he likes and I often watch porn to find different ways of moving...but I am looking for technique suggesstions. How to give head in such a way that blows his mind! (it takes a while for my husband to cum when I am performing oral and I often think I am not doing it right).

I know there are masters out there...please help...tell me what to do and how to do it. Been having sex for almost 15 years and I know I have gotten comfortable in my movements

[Fallen1]

..but I am looking for technique suggesstions. How to give head in such a way that blows his mind! (it takes a while for my husband to cum when I am performing oral and I often think I am not doing it right).

I know there are masters out there...please help...tell me what to do and how to do it. Been having sex for almost 15 years and I know I have gotten comfortable in my movements

This may not be exactly what you're looking for but -

When I'm giving a bj I concentrate on what I'm doing. I really think about it as I'm doing it. I think "ok if it were me how would I like to be touched etc". I try and make love to his penis, not just suck/lick on it. This seems to work for me because I have been told by more more than one that I've given the best bj they've ever had. This may sound strange but I think a lot of it is your mindset, I think they, the guys, can somehow sense it if you aren't really into it.

[SorridLives]

You seem to want some graphic details, so I will try to give you some. I learned a new oral move recently from porno....I saw Jenna J. pop the head...and then saw some other porno stars do it too. You move to the head and move your mouth off of it completely making a popping sound. Do that a couple to several times, then back to the up and down....
also, if you don't already,...you can sort of do circles with your mouth, not just up and down...move up and down and around at the same time. You can also shake your head back and forth gently during oral to mix it up...
As for moves during intercourse, when you are ontop, you can rock back and forth...or you can actually squat with your feet/heels into the bed like a squat thrust. Hope one of those might be *new* to you....
We are always learning....

[manxie]

I've never done the popping thing, sounds like its worth a try. I've found that using your tongue on the shaft (licking it up and down without reaching the head) drives your man mad. I do that for a couple of minutes before consentrating on the head with my tongue and touching his balls very gently with my hand. seems to have the desired effect!

[metboogie]

Let me give you a tip (as a man) - there's something called the "panic button"...if your guy takes too long while your going down and you are ready to move on - you hit the panic button...

Basically, you make sure your finger is wet, slide it into his anus, and slowly reach in for the prostate...usually just the insertion will set most guys off, but if your guy has serious stamina you may have to go all the way and push the button.

Believe me, it's a VERY strong orgasm and it works on EVERY guy...as long as he lets you put your finger in his butt.

[Fallen1]

Let me give you a tip (as a man) - there's something called the "panic button"...if your guy takes too long while your going down and you are ready to move on - you hit the panic button...

Basically, you make sure your finger is wet, slide it into his anus, and slowly reach in for the prostate...usually just the insertion will set most guys off, but if your guy has serious stamina you may have to go all the way and push the button.

Believe me, it's a VERY strong orgasm and it works on EVERY guy...as long as he lets you put your finger in his butt.

How will we know where to find it? I know where, what I'm asking is how far in etc. Please give a little direction.

[metboogie]

Like every woman, every man is different...I know with me all it takes is the slightest penetration and BAM! For other men, it will take a full finger, fist, dildo etc. It just depends.

First, you need to see if he is willing to let you, than it's trial and error...

Believe it or not, my wife doesn't do it to me, I do it to myself when I'm masturbating, and not very often. I know if she did it to me she would take it too far...

Good luck...and let us know how it turns out.

[BandofGypsies]

Fallen1,
use your index finger and go straight back then up -- you'll find this walnut semi-hard protrusion, just press it or stroke it -- it does wonders. its the male g-spot, so think about how you have a clitoral orgasm vs the g-spot orgasm -- both are amazing but different with the sensation over the body.