[Rlbutler89]

My fiancée approached me with the thought of having a threesome. I've thought about the idea before but never had the discussion before. I of course have my concerns like am I not good enough, will he like her more.? He said there would be rules mostly set by me like no eye contact and he could only do certain things with the other woman. He actually wants us to have a girlfriend together. Someone we can just play with and have. Thanks fun with. He has done this before with an ex and it worked and says it even made just their sex life better and more intimate. I'm considering it but have reservation. Please I need advice. How wconcerns!ould you feel, what would you do, let me know your

[Harmony]

It's clear that you're not comfortable with this idea; an that is perfectly normal, understandable an acceptable. Nothing to feel ashamed of,don't think that you're blocking th road to a better sex life for you ans him.

He shouldn't be comparing ex relationships to yours and his. He may even be lying.

If he is telling the truth then it only made their relationship better because his ex was truly bisexual and was happy for another women to be included in their sex life; if this was the case he needs to realise it was an anomaly and not something he can reasonably expect to be a component of every relationship.

Tell him the answers no. If he can't respect that he's not worth it.for this to work it really needs to be your idea.

[rcoreyus]

IF you are attracted to women, and IF you have no tendencies to jealousy I could see this working and being lots of fun. If those aren't both true, then it might be a disaster. A lot of people are excited by variety, so it is quite possible that the first time you got together with a another woman, your fiancee might well find her more interesting / exciting than he found you.

I think it is OK for him to ask, but you should in no way fell pressured. This does not work well for most couples.

[BabyGirl]

My fiancée approached me with the thought of having a threesome. I've thought about the idea before but never had the discussion before. I of course have my concerns like am I not good enough, will he like her more.? He said there would be rules mostly set by me like no eye contact and he could only do certain things with the other woman. He actually wants us to have a girlfriend together. Someone we can just play with and have. Thanks fun with. He has done this before with an ex and it worked and says it even made just their sex life better and more intimate. I'm considering it but have reservation. Please I need advice. How wconcerns!ould you feel, what would you do, let me know your

Wow ..
Is all I can say.

I of course have my concerns like am I not good enough, will he like her more.?

That would bring most men and woman to believe they may not be " Good Enough " for a long time relationship.
So why are you in this relationship to begin with ?

To me .. "
Fiance " is an experimental time. it's the time to plan ahead, get things talked out and " grounded " as Vow's.
He want's to play with other Women and have you Join ?

[dyunysus]

Well i have to say i wish my wife was a s open as you are. At least you are considering the idea. My self being with only one women my entire life, i think about this quite often. However not for the reason most think. I actually don't want to have anything to do with the other women. I just want her to try being with a women and see if she likes it. Well whatever you decide enjoy yourself. Although i do agree with other members don't give in right away. If he truly want to be with you then whether you "play" or not should not matter.

[PlainJayne]

I actually don't want to have anything to do with the other women. I just want her to try being with a women and see if she likes it.

Me thinks you are weird!

[kalinar]

I suggest you just start looking for another girl to participate in your threesome! Very quickly you will realize how difficult it actually is to find a single (fairly young, and pretty) girl to experience with. And after that you either going to get frustrated and drop the whole idea or you will see challenge in it, still get frustrated and become obsessed FFM.

Ps: I am originally russian so my English might get confusing a little but I hope I made sense lol.

[wino33]

He did it before with his ex and it improved their sex life, but did it ruin their relationship? That's the important question.

[LilahX]

I've been in a swinging relationship (still am with another partner now) and we had a lovely friendwho'd come over for some 'afternoon delight' on occasional Sundays. It was fabulous. She didn't have anything to do with any other part of our life but the times we did spend together were fun and relaxed. I do agree with Kalinar though that it's no easy to find women for this sort of thing. Guys? Easy (we also had a few guy friends for the same kind of fun). It takes a lot of honesty and communication and trust in your relationship to make this work, but it can be done with great success. Your doubts are valid, but talk to him about it. Whether you go ahead or not, at least you will have discussed it properly.

[cathygirl]

Some women enjoy this arrangement, though I've never known one in person. The ones I know who "went along" did not stay with their partners for more than a year or two after they started "swinging". But it seems to me that this idea of a threesome nearly always originates with men. I've never heard of a woman saying, "hey, you know what I think would be kinda neat?" That says something, I believe.