My husband of some time asked for a threesome 3 times before I asked him for a divorce.
My mindset on my decision was this:
He says that it would make the relationship better. He says it made his sex life in the last relationship better but also told me the relationship ended because of infidelity on both sides? how does that work. That it would make the rules but the reality of the whole thing is that once it is done our whole marriage will never be that same. He will soon enough form some sort of feelings for one of the women and our marriage WILL be over. For him to even bring it up made me mad considering the fact that I know he would never ever lag a next man touch me. Why should I let him live out his fantasy when he would not even considering for filling mine. Plus it is a FANTASY! Maybe if were not in a a committed relationship sure but we are married. If he wanted a threesome he should have done all that stuff before he decided that head string feelings for me. I've noticed that this idea of a threesome is always brought up by the man and the only reason for that is that they are not fully happy with their spouse or person they say that the love which ultimately led me to: if he wants me to be an option in his bed after all the love we put into the relationship, then he would also want me to be an option in his life. That to me is not a marriage or committed relationship. A committed relationship is not "you do you & me be loyal" but a "you got me & I got you too." A marriage or real committed relationship is between to people and if one of those two thinks the only way to make the relationship better is to bring in a third party than that relationship will never last.
Why did I divorce him? Because he did not care about our marriage. He was a self centered ************** that only cared about making himself happy.
Everytime he would ask me i would ask him these in return:
Why should we have a threesome?
Am I not good enough for you?
How would you feel if I asked for a threesome with you and another man?
He would always reply
1. A threesome would spice up the marriage. It would make it fun!
2. Yes you are good enough for me but you know this would be different. This might make me happy. (How is seeing my husband being pleasures by another woman going to make me happy you dip****)
3. And hell no. I would never take part in that.
He wants me to compromise and lower my standards and my views on marriage but won't even do the same for me. I'm good enough for him but still he wants to bring someone else into our marriage. Our marriage is Boring?! I was tired of him telling me about his fantasy because life is not a romance novel. After we have sex with this woman our whole marriage would change and even though I would tel, him that he would still push and push. When he asked the third time we were at dinner and he told me that he had found the perfect woman and I looked at him at laughed. I got up from the table, went home, packed my bags and left because I realized that it wasnt that I wasn't good enough for him but that he wasnt good enough for me!
Sorry this is so long but this is my story. Am I saying i would never consider a threesome? No. i would have a threesome but only with people that I don't have romantic feelings with and am not already in a committed relationship with. Of all the stories and opinions of the women on here that have done it i have yet to read one about a woman who, after the threesome or swinging, is still with their man neither have a read a review that has said that the threesome or swinging improved the couples relationship in a whole not JUST the sex because sex does not make up a relationship
My mindset on my decision was this:
He says that it would make the relationship better. He says it made his sex life in the last relationship better but also told me the relationship ended because of infidelity on both sides? how does that work. That it would make the rules but the reality of the whole thing is that once it is done our whole marriage will never be that same. He will soon enough form some sort of feelings for one of the women and our marriage WILL be over. For him to even bring it up made me mad considering the fact that I know he would never ever lag a next man touch me. Why should I let him live out his fantasy when he would not even considering for filling mine. Plus it is a FANTASY! Maybe if were not in a a committed relationship sure but we are married. If he wanted a threesome he should have done all that stuff before he decided that head string feelings for me. I've noticed that this idea of a threesome is always brought up by the man and the only reason for that is that they are not fully happy with their spouse or person they say that the love which ultimately led me to: if he wants me to be an option in his bed after all the love we put into the relationship, then he would also want me to be an option in his life. That to me is not a marriage or committed relationship. A committed relationship is not "you do you & me be loyal" but a "you got me & I got you too." A marriage or real committed relationship is between to people and if one of those two thinks the only way to make the relationship better is to bring in a third party than that relationship will never last.
Why did I divorce him? Because he did not care about our marriage. He was a self centered ************** that only cared about making himself happy.
Everytime he would ask me i would ask him these in return:
Why should we have a threesome?
Am I not good enough for you?
How would you feel if I asked for a threesome with you and another man?
He would always reply
1. A threesome would spice up the marriage. It would make it fun!
2. Yes you are good enough for me but you know this would be different. This might make me happy. (How is seeing my husband being pleasures by another woman going to make me happy you dip****)
3. And hell no. I would never take part in that.
He wants me to compromise and lower my standards and my views on marriage but won't even do the same for me. I'm good enough for him but still he wants to bring someone else into our marriage. Our marriage is Boring?! I was tired of him telling me about his fantasy because life is not a romance novel. After we have sex with this woman our whole marriage would change and even though I would tel, him that he would still push and push. When he asked the third time we were at dinner and he told me that he had found the perfect woman and I looked at him at laughed. I got up from the table, went home, packed my bags and left because I realized that it wasnt that I wasn't good enough for him but that he wasnt good enough for me!
Sorry this is so long but this is my story. Am I saying i would never consider a threesome? No. i would have a threesome but only with people that I don't have romantic feelings with and am not already in a committed relationship with. Of all the stories and opinions of the women on here that have done it i have yet to read one about a woman who, after the threesome or swinging, is still with their man neither have a read a review that has said that the threesome or swinging improved the couples relationship in a whole not JUST the sex because sex does not make up a relationship
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