[unsur]

I have read lots of other posts on the same subject, but need some help with my situation.

My Boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years, we have lived together for a year. I know he masturbates, that is fine with me, I help sometimes. I have been feeling inadequate lately though because he has been doing it a lot more, without me. He knows that I am always willing, I will frequently turn to him and try to initiate sex with him, but he pushes me away and says he doesn't feel like it.

I have tried sexy outfits, gave him sexy coupons, suggested doing things different, nothing is working... he is taking care of business without me. When he initiates sex, its always in a "if your there thats good, if your not - oh well" kind of way. I feel left out, unwanted, undesirable, and on top of that unhappy with myself because I cant just let him come to me when he wants it because I have a high sex drive too, and toys don't cut it!!

I have explained this and he says he understands, he's not happy with himself, and he will try to include me more- but then reverts to porn/masturbating without me. Sometimes he tells me he is too sore from our recent sexual encounters, then I hear him in the morning in the shower.... Im frustrated and upset, I dont know how to deal with this situation. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

[rcoreyus]

To me this is the dividing line between healthy and unhealthy porn watching. Watching porn and masturbating when your partner isn't available I think is fine - everyone should have the opportunity for quick sexual release when they want it. Watching porn / masturbating when there is a real live woman who wants you is a sign of a problem.

Is there any chance that it is a problem with timing? Men, like women can sometimes be in the mood and sometimes not. You could try telling him that next time he feels like wathching porn he can be with you instead.

[unsur]

He watches porn when I am not home, but masturbates when in the shower- I have heard others with similar situations... what can I do to make myself feel better/make myself heard?

[time2discover]

Have you tried joining him in the shower? Could start off his masturbation and wind up
in a whole other place. Might be worth a try!

[unsur]

yup, tried that too. Maybe I am just going to have to talk to him again? But what can I say that will break through to him?

[time2discover]

Maybe a little scare! If you satisfy yourself and don't need me, I guess I'm
gonna have to find another way of getting satisfied?

[jns]

It sounds like all of his sexual desires are being met but not many of yours. It also sounds like there isn't much compromising going on. Is this the relationship for you? When a person only thinks of themself and not of their partner, they should not be in a relationship.

[Guest]

I have read lots of other posts on the same subject, but need some help with my situation.

My Boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years, we have lived together for a year. I know he masturbates, that is fine with me, I help sometimes. I have been feeling inadequate lately though because he has been doing it a lot more, without me. He knows that I am always willing, I will frequently turn to him and try to initiate sex with him, but he pushes me away and says he doesn't feel like it.

I have tried sexy outfits, gave him sexy coupons, suggested doing things different, nothing is working... he is taking care of business without me. When he initiates sex, its always in a "if your there thats good, if your not - oh well" kind of way. I feel left out, unwanted, undesirable, and on top of that unhappy with myself because I cant just let him come to me when he wants it because I have a high sex drive too, and toys don't cut it!!

I have explained this and he says he understands, he's not happy with himself, and he will try to include me more- but then reverts to porn/masturbating without me. Sometimes he tells me he is too sore from our recent sexual encounters, then I hear him in the morning in the shower.... Im frustrated and upset, I dont know how to deal with this situation. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

U may want to move out. this sounds like a dysfunctional relationship to me. u dont really want so to speak a sexual relationship as u date. That in my opinion comes after u get married .. Suggestion.
Hi btw get out asap...

[Guest]

jns n artQ r right

[Guest]

I have read lots of other posts on the same subject, but need some help with my situation.

My Boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years, we have lived together for a year. I know he masturbates, that is fine with me, I help sometimes. I have been feeling inadequate lately though because he has been doing it a lot more, without me. He knows that I am always willing, I will frequently turn to him and try to initiate sex with him, but he pushes me away and says he doesn't feel like it.

I have tried sexy outfits, gave him sexy coupons, suggested doing things different, nothing is working... he is taking care of business without me. When he initiates sex, its always in a "if your there thats good, if your not - oh well" kind of way. I feel left out, unwanted, undesirable, and on top of that unhappy with myself because I cant just let him come to me when he wants it because I have a high sex drive too, and toys don't cut it!!

I have explained this and he says he understands, he's not happy with himself, and he will try to include me more- but then reverts to porn/masturbating without me. Sometimes he tells me he is too sore from our recent sexual encounters, then I hear him in the morning in the shower.... Im frustrated and upset, I dont know how to deal with this situation. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

Get your family involved when move. make sure he is not there when u leave :-/..
Call them right now.. Always keep them in the know about ur issues.. :-/ they care.