[rjkeene87]

Okay firstly I know there are numerous posts on this subject. I have serious penis size issues. I believe they originated with my current girl. when we first met each other she said some hurtful things about being disappointed with what I had.. and that she expected bigger. now she says that the things she said then we're before she loved me and that she did it to make herself feel better. since then though I feel like she prefers bigger. she has also told me the last guy she was with was big and made her orgasm in like 30 seconds with no clit stimulation. and that he had the perfect penis she does not orgasm in the same way with me. she insists that I'm fine and that she loves me and stuff. but i constantly feel as though she would prefer something better. or bigger than me. and it breaks my heart to think that another man pleased her sexually so easily and that I can't. also I feel like she tries to get sex over with... And all ofthis puts such strain on our relationship. I also tend to watch porn with big dicks giving girls orgasms and cuckold porn. it is ruining my life too. I just want to be over it. but I can't stop thinking about this other guy making her cum and how she felt during that. please advice is appreciated.

by the way I'm 6 inches ongoing and 4.5 around or so. I think the girth is the problem. she said the other guy is way thicker than me.

[Stillness]

Would you tell your woman that her vagina is looser than you expected or that an old girlfriend was prettier and turned you on more? "Wow, I didn't know you'd have a gaping hole for a vagina!" If you're not the kind of person who would do that to somebody, then don't you deserve a woman that will show you the same consideration?

Sex is a two-person deal. It's not just all about the penis. The size of the vagina counts too. It varies from woman to woman. Maybe her size is the issue, because you're above average. The reality is probably more that she's playing mind games as she admitted. I've never felt a noticeable difference between vaginas. They adjust to fit you unless there's something wrong. What matters more is who you're with and how they make you feel. Don't let her control you like that.

Also, if the porn is ruining your life, stop watching it. Do you watch Superman and feel bad about yourself because you can't fly? It's not real, dude. Those people are putting on a show.

[rjkeene87]

it's not that I think I'm small or bad in bed. it's that I wish I could do what another guy could. I can make her orgasm just not like that. so I feel another man gave something I can't. and I have made other girls orgasm vaginally. even this one twice... but she was on top. the other guy did it missionary. Idk.

[Stillness]

If they had such a great connection in bed, then why aren't they still together?

[rjkeene87]

because he had very few other qualities. he wasn't even good as she claims. she says it was just a freak thing. because she has been with numerous guys and only me and two others ever made her orgasm in any way. they weren't even in a relationship. just fooled around a few times.

[rjkeene87]

she says he couldn't last long. but it seems like that wasn't necessary because she was done and she is not capable of multiple orgasms so I'm not sure what the deal was

[Stillness]

because he had very few other qualities.

OK, so if even this lady who compared you with another man to make you feel low because of her own self-esteem issues is not really reducing a man to his penis, then why should you measure your worth in that way? Aren't you more than that?

There are women out there that will make you feel like THE MAN! You could have a 3" penis, less-than-average looks, and be living check to check and they will treat you like a king. She will believe in you when you don't even believe in yourself - until you believe in yourself. She won't make you think your penis is too small. What kind of woman does that to a man?

Let me ask you this: What makes her so great? Why can't you do better?

[rjkeene87]

she said those things when we first met. before we got serious. now she constantly reassures me that I'm good and that she loves me so much. but now I'm afraid she says that ti protect my feelings. we are engaged. she is very smart and is going somewhere in life. she's beautiful. and as we say we are each others matching sock. she tries to be patient with me but I'm difficult.

[Stillness]

I personally think it's a bad sign for a woman to belittle a man's penis, even early on, but either way you've got to let it go. Even if it matters a little, it doesn't matter enough and there's nothing you can do about it. Why worry about minor things you can't change? If she's a good catch and you trust her, then enjoy life with her and stop worrying.

I had a buddy in school that dated my wife before me. He was taller and more athletic and swore he was packing. My wife left him and married me. Guess how much I care about how big he was. She didn't - at least not enough to choose him over me. Why should I?

[jns]

Think Popeye: "I yam what I yam". You are pretty average in penis size. Just think, you could be the other guy with a thicker penis but with bad character flaws - and not with her. I think she started this as a one-upmanship type of thing, but realized it was having a negative effect on you. Try to let this go. It sounds like you have quite a catch in all other aspects.