[cd27]

When I have sex, I will sometimes have (I guess) mini orgasms, I will start to feel pretty good and then let down. I can never totally orgasm. It makes my boyfriend feel inadequate. We both want us to enjoy sex as much as he does. What can I do? I imagine an orgasm as something really great, not just pretty good. Ladies, talk to me about orgasms, please. I need educated from a female perspective.

[iugirl10]

I know how you feel, i've been through this before. Sometimes you feel like it's right there that it's so close to happenening and then...nothing. I've noticed that sometimes when it's happened to me it's because my boyfriend changed either the position or rythm which ended up throwing it off. When you feel like it's coming keep doing whatever you were doing to get you up until that point. Also if you kinda tense up the muscles down there that'll definately speed up the process. hope this was helpful. =)

[alberry]

I have the same problem, I'm right there and then nothing. Tensing up helps me get to that point faster, but I still consistently loose it at the last second. Is it possible that some women just have mini orgasms?

[Jenny123]

reply to orgasms

Hi Everyone I'm new and excited that I can reply to this subject that I can really relate to....
Before I had my first orgasm I thought that maybe I was close maybe I had one because it did feel really good but the bottom line is if you think you had one you haven't infact had one.
I'm a 30 year old married woman and believe it or not just recently had the big "O" and let me tell you that feeling is not close to the "good" feeling of having sex, having an orgasm was 100 times greater than anything I could imagine!!
I understand the frustration and worry that "It's never going to happen to me". The one thing I know now is that I worried toooo much and I think that affected it.
If anybody would like examples of how and what I did to achieve this I would be happy to share them as I would have liked it back when I was struggling to find that wonderful orgasm.

[sourpuss]

I know how you feel, i've been through this before. Sometimes you feel like it's right there that it's so close to happenening and then...nothing. I've noticed that sometimes when it's happened to me it's because my boyfriend changed either the position or rythm which ended up throwing it off. When you feel like it's coming keep doing whatever you were doing to get you up until that point. Also if you kinda tense up the muscles down there that'll definately speed up the process. hope this was helpful. =)

I've had this a lot too. Not every time, but often. It's really annoying.

[metalbudderfly]

okay cd27,
well i hate to say it but i don't have this problem...... some suggestions for you...... lots of forplay before intercourse can help maybe your boyfriend can perform oral sex on you before hand until you reach orgasm. and remember try to relax and not stress about the orgasm coming it helps to. i have found that if my husband puts a finger in while doing oral on me it really works well for me. i hope this helps and enjoy trying to get that ultimate ORGASM!!!!!!

[mayid79]

orgasm w/ intercourse

Some women don't have them! I'm one of them. My husband usually does oral sex on me till I have my "O" & then we have intercourse. Sometimes when I'm not up for oral I'll use my vibrator till I "O" & then we have intercourse. I have read on this in the past & some women just can't have an "O" through intercourse.

[ineedinxs]

Hey Jenny123 I would love to hear about what you did. I am new on the website but I am looking to have my first "O". My boyfriend and I definitely get to a point where I feel a really deep intense sensation - almost like I can't bear to go on but theres no big explosion. It just feels intense. Theres certain positions that work well for that intense feeling and certain ones that dont. For instance, all fours or me riding him work well. However I have not gotten to that extreme point yet

What does an orgasm feel like?? Is it that fine line between pain and pleasure and you can't bear to take anymore of the feeling??

Any help??

[Guest]

Hi, I'm a man and I've been seeing alot of thread or posting about women and their not being able to orgasm certain ways or no way at all. As it's be said, that's really not uncommon,

I myself have been with at least 3 women that I can remember that could not by Intercourse only.

What I found worked for the the last 2 because I remembered what happened with the 1st one.

During intercourse either the man or the woman, which seems to be better stimulates her clitoris at the same time. You maybe thinking, Well that's just the hand job so to speak, no not really, all 3 times in my experience anyways, is the woman really was stimulated big time while I was in action and I or she was in action with the clit stimuli. It has been very successful for my partners and I. Truly the combination can and will work!

Important factor, yes position does make a big difference, experiment, or just do it thru out the the course of pleasure in many different posistions to obtain that which you are looking for - Hope this helped !

[WildChild]

Here it goes again. You need to educate yourself and I know no better resource than, Extended Massive Orgasm by Drs Steve and Vera Bodansky. They have degrees in sensuality and teach courses in orgasm. One techinque they explain, that happens naturally for some of us is how to train any part of your body to respond orgasmically. This why some women can orgasm just mentally, or by having their ears or nipples stimulated - they've created such a strong association with pleasure and that body part.
Yes, there are mini orgasms and you can ride those waves a long time. Many women orgasm without knowing it, they aren't connected to it.