[brae06]

I dont have a sex drive. honestly icould go and not want it. the issue is I am in a relationship with someone and we have been together for six years. it bothers him. I dont initiate sex and he cant stand it. the sex is great I just dont have the drive for it. please help.

[LisaW1991]

What part of sex do you like?

I have known girls not being able to reach orgasm, which is different, they get sexuall arroused, but never have an orgasm. Are you saying you never get sexually aroused?

[brae06]

I am sexually arroused. sex is great. orgasm no problem. Ijust don't approach him for sex. it wouldbe okay to go a few weeks and I wouldn't think about it.

[LisaW1991]

Kinda sounds like you have a great time when you have sex, just don't feel the need for sex beforehand. Like not being hungry before eating dinner, but still enjoy the food. If its something like that, then simply make an effort to have sex more often because you know once you start you'll have a good time. Generally speaking, guys want sex A LOT so it doesn't take too much to get a guy interested.

The other issue could be the level of sexual attraction that you feel for your BF. I have dated guys where I really like them as a person because they were fun to be with, but didn't feel a strong sexual attraction, and that always made it hard for me to get sexually aroused (over 1 hour). Other guys I've felt a strong\instant sexual attraction and had sex a couple of hours after meeting him (which generally turns out to be great sex, but not a long relationship).