[mymer4me]

How many women out there feel "powerful" when a man cums on
different parts of the woman's body..especially face or chest?
my man intimates that if I don't like this, I am the one who has
to look at the reasons why and then...change. I find the mental link
kind of confusing, as I see it as a submissive thing for the woman. What does she do if she really doesn't like cum on her face or chest..and where is the link between that and feeling powerful? DO
other women feel this way...I need some insight. Thanks!

[dragonslut19866]

I have no problems with this. Its not a power thing at all just a turn on to see the look on his face and feel a part of him releasing on me no matter where it lands. Some women I know have a problem with this activity just as they would swallowing a man

[C]

I have to change this post as it is not my true feelings. It is the feeling of so many women's thought that it must remain. What I reflect are their sentiments. This is what I get from what I have been told: I think this is the most disrespectful act on a woman that there can be......You are treating her like dirt. They do not want to swallow and lick him off during hot sex....Where is the erotic part of where they used to be in life.....To have a man stand back and aim himself at them to see what part of their body he can hit and hopefully on the first time as ended in tears and crying for so many women. It is a sad situation for so many older women. You women are young and do not know of the pain that this is causing to so many women. The abusive they are taking. Sex is beautiful but when a man sees Porn and this comes into play, it is ugly. I know this is not the name of the Topic but it enters into my mind. I am not talking about his ejaculating his cum on your breasts, I am talking about so much abuse from this innocent act that many men cannot separte the good from the bad in it.

I write for many lurking women who have divorced men and left them for having to endure this in life rather than the respect that they deserve and have been promised. I can say with all honesty that this is getting out of control and many women are being hurt. I am sure I will be ripped apart on this but that is just part of the game.

[ChelseaRenee]

How many women out there feel "powerful" when a man cums on
different parts of the woman's body..especially face or chest?
my man intimates that if I don't like this, I am the one who has
to look at the reasons why and then...change. I find the mental link
kind of confusing, as I see it as a submissive thing for the woman. What does she do if she really doesn't like cum on her face or chest..and where is the link between that and feeling powerful? DO
other women feel this way...I need some insight. Thanks!

It is a power play thing. Hundreds of years ago, men ruled and women were worth a whole lot of nothing. Obviously, things have changed and for the better! But this is a throwback to men and women reestablishing those feelings of men being "better" than women- it's a domination thing. I know all the psychological junk behind it (I'm in a psychology of sex class this year), but when it's me and my man, I just enjoy that he enjoys it, and enjoy the warm, soft sensation. He is the kindest, warmest, most respectful man on the planet and he would NEVER do anything I wasn't 200% comfortable with, so we can both do this and be happy about it.

Besides, if men were really all caught up on being domineering and powerful, would they love going down on us as much as they do? hehe!

[C]

But if he said "I won't let you ride my tongue unless you do this" .......I would stand just as close to him as I can and smile as I would know that I was going to have one heck of a ride........

We are pretty much hot vanilla but I like some kink in it too......

[dragonslut19866]

Maybe Im just too young to know the difference between what I see as fun and what is dominance. I personally enjoy it but thats just me. On my chest or stomach mostly

[anonymouswhitefemale]

A mans opinion.

Personally, this turns me on a lot. Especially if my girl is willing to swallow (which she is if she's totally horny). I would never force it on anyone, and the moment someone forces something in sex is the moment it's over, but it's all about compromise, and give and take. For example, if I eat my girl for 20 minutes, it's not unjust to expect the same treatment. If I treat my girl to an orgasm (takes best part of an hour) then it's not too much to request something (usually I don't have to request, she trys to redress the balance on her own).

I know of the psychology of it, something like men wanting to "mark their territory" or something, of which I don't really know if I agree, but I suppose psychologists are always right... The way I see it, I have a better orgasm if I focus on the orgasm itself as a form of mental stimulation, and there is certainly a degree of sexual ownership (or at least, commital) involved in it, the fact that she is willing and hopefully wanting the product of the action itself... I'm considerate to ensure that hair and eyes aren't involved, as I don't want to put her through something she wouldn't want. If she's really hot she'll lick/suck after sex unprompted, it seems to be something she WANTS to do if she's REALLY horny, otherwise it's more of a favour to me. But I don't see the problem in bending a little to accomodate the other, after all that's how you have a healthy and satisfying sex life.


As far as the psychology goes, I can't REALLY see how this could put the woman in the position of power, as it really is either the sign of a sexually powerful woman who knows what she wants, or a submissive partner. If I go through the effort of tying up and punishing my girl for her pleasure then I don't see why it'd hurt to keep the submission rolling a little. (for the record, she likes on the chest, less so on the face, but only for the reasons of it mucking up her hair, stinging her eye or making her choke).

But really, I've had it on me, I've tasted it, it's really not that bad, I don't see the big issue against it.



To cut a long story short, I have by far my best orgasms under these cicrumstances, so without over psychoanalysing it, if I'm willing to do whatever to give her the best sex/orgasms, where's the harm in her reciprocating. Just 'cos I cum on her face doesn't mean I don't respect her as a person.


[edit] To add a bit of a different perspective. It's not the submission that turns me on, it's (even in my head) believing that she WANTS it. For example, one of my prime fantasies is being tied down and abused, for the sake of having my.... er... you know... harvested by a powerful and horney woman.. So it's not all about domination, just... appreciation.... or something.

[C]

Really thinking back I think I was unfair in my comment. Lord anything he wanted to do I would do just like he would do it for me. What I am talking about are the women in pain for having to do this act. The women that do not want this and it is being forced on them. There is so much of this going on that it is sick. Men into Porn and sex is no longer the sex that they knew as his wife to start. There used to be tenderness and loving and kissing and now it is raw and a show of what he wants to do. One woman wrote me that she and her husband used to be so sexual and love each other to death. Now he was into Porn and wants to sit across from her on a chair so she can watch him masturbate and jack off. They are 58 and 59. She said he no longer wants to even try to have an erection he wants to lay in back of her and ejaculate on her back as he has seen them do in Porn. He wants her to snowball with him. If a couple gets a kick out of doing it then do it. I could go and change my post up above but I am not going to. This reflected me when I was referring to women that are so hurt because there is such a new lack of sexual touching and love. I believe there is a thread of a woman that has a SO that has separate bedrooms. All these things happen because of the man becoming his favorite lover. This we have never let happen.

Anything and everything is good in sexual love between two people. What is right for one couple may not be for the next. So I will change my answer and say whatever turns you on. But it must be done in hot erotic heat and wanted by both parties and not forced on by the other.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

( ^ I was a little suprised the way you worded what you did earlier...)

Obviously forcing anything is bad, and will lead to problems. Sexual and otherwise.

If women feel they are being forced into stuff, they should dump their partner as soon as possible.

[Little]

Since my boyfriend's and my primary method of birth control was pulling out, he ejaculated on me nearly every time we had sex.
I never had a problem with it. I swallowed a few times, but he would usually not have enough time to get up to my face for me to do so ... so my stomach and breasts were often the "target."
It never became degrading mostly because he would help me "clean up," especially if he finished during doggy-style sex and came on my back. Actually, it did feel kind of great, like "I'm a sexy lady, look, I made my man have an orgasm!" Maybe that was just the afterglow, but, oh, what an afterglow it was ....
I can't wait until he comes home and I can get him alone again ;.;