[bellababe]

Actually, I think it's funny when he cums on my face ... he certainly isn't aiming for my face. Like I said before, it's more an issue of necessity than anything. It's easier to clean up my body than wash the sheets. So if he "gets" my face, it's just because he's in too much pleasure to aim well ...
Oh, BellaBabe, that sounds like a good idea, asking him to do it ^_^ Since I don't mind it anyhow, I might try it on him next time ...

glad to be of help a little dirty talk can make things more interesting

[jenica]

In my case, it sort of evolved from what was most practical...when my boyfriend and I switched to the pill as our primary method of birth control, I discovered that it really stung when he came inside me. Now it's usually on my stomach or my back, but I don't feel degraded by it at all (though I think I would if he didn't love/respect me) - it's actually kind of a turn on; I love seeing him get off.

I have heard one or two guys talk about it being a power play, but I think for others it's more a sign of acceptance when the girl lets them come on her, like affirmation that they're wanted/the girl's not uptight about sex/etc.

Just my two cents, anyway.

[metboogie]

How many women out there feel "powerful" when a man cums on
different parts of the woman's body..especially face or chest?
my man intimates that if I don't like this, I am the one who has
to look at the reasons why and then...change. I find the mental link
kind of confusing, as I see it as a submissive thing for the woman. What does she do if she really doesn't like cum on her face or chest..and where is the link between that and feeling powerful? DO
other women feel this way...I need some insight. Thanks!

As a man, I don't get this either. To me the BEST part of the orgasm is being surrounded by the woman's orifice (whether it's the vagina, anus or mouth)...there is no other feeling on earth like cumming inside a woman...the only reason I cum on a woman is because I am not wearing a condom.

Tell your man to stop watching porn - because unless he is hung like a porn star, can last as long as a porn star and can cum on command (multiple times a day) like a porn star - he doesn't deserve to cum like one.

[manxie]

My Boyfriend often cums on my chest and on my face as my usual method of giving him a handjob is with him kneeling up over my chest. He certainly likes the power element of cumming all over me, but i can't say i have ever felt any power from it myself. Can't say it bothers me though as his usual way of licking me out is for me to sit on his face, and this happens about twice as often as me giving him a hand job!

[Lrgjake3]

I love this site, im an information seeker, always searching online for different things and because i am a man its often sexual tips lol. I enjoy cumming on a women, for me it isnt a power trip. Its simply a huge turn on, i like to know that the person im with is into me and is sexually attracted to me. When a women tells you what to do or where to orgasm is even better so its definately not about power. Its just knowing that the other person is there for you and will sacrifice for you. Ive come out of a horrible relationship so i really dont know what to think or to expect with my next gf but i would hope that eventually ill find someone willing to do anything for me. I know it might sound like a power thing but the truth is i just wanna be cared about like i care about them, because i would infact do anything for the person especially if it turned them on. You can take all the power in the relationship as long as there is love left!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

i just wanna be cared about like i care about them, because i would infact do anything for the person especially if it turned them on. You can take all the power in the relationship as long as there is love left!

Welcome to the Forum.... There is no power, if there is love.... Well said.

CW

[Phoebee]

How many women out there feel "powerful" when a man cums on
different parts of the woman's body..especially face or chest?
my man intimates that if I don't like this, I am the one who has
to look at the reasons why and then...change. I find the mental link
kind of confusing, as I see it as a submissive thing for the woman. What does she do if she really doesn't like cum on her face or chest..and where is the link between that and feeling powerful? DO
other women feel this way...I need some insight. Thanks!

I personally think that having a guy "jerk off" on me? Makes him look like a jerk off and me look ahh... messy and probably uncomfortable. This is (I think) grown out of what the porn makers term "the money shot" where they prove that the studs in the movie are really reaching orgasm and thus you see them always finish by jerking off on the women in the movie.

Its one thing that DH and I agree on. NOT sexy.... Thus we either don't rent this junk at all or when it gets to that point skip to the next thing.

BTW why don't the "prove" the women are climaxing? Answer? Who cares I think.... Very sad....

[anonymouswhitefemale]

It's not about proof that the guy is coming, at least that never even came into my mind.

Sex is really about feeling masculine or feminine according to gender, spunk is about the most masculine thing there is... It's the embodiment of your sexual energy. To have a woman that likes to get close it to it massages your ego and exaggurates your masculinity. I'm sure you'll agree with making a woman feminine in the bedroom, but masculinity must also be indulged.

[Tuesday]

I loved the feeling of it hitting my back, or my stomach...and even better when he went off to the bathroom, willy waving from side to side, to get a tissue to clean me up. He cleaned me up with such tenderness, I just lay back, stretched out, and loved the sensation of having such care taken over me. I was the one with the power...the control....and in a way it was so romantic, especially if he strayed slightly under my arms where it tickled! A real bonding moment for the both of us, and as good as a cuddle! In fact...better....

[mindy1978]

Cumming not abusive...

I have to change this post as it is not my true feelings. It is the feeling of so many women's thought that it must remain. What I reflect are their sentiments. This is what I get from what I have been told: I think this is the most disrespectful act on a woman that there can be......You are treating her like dirt. They do not want to swallow and lick him off during hot sex....Where is the erotic part of where they used to be in life.....To have a man stand back and aim himself at them to see what part of their body he can hit and hopefully on the first time as ended in tears and crying for so many women. It is a sad situation for so many older women. You women are young and do not know of the pain that this is causing to so many women. The abusive they are taking. Sex is beautiful but when a man sees Porn and this comes into play, it is ugly. I know this is not the name of the Topic but it enters into my mind. I am not talking about his ejaculating his cum on your breasts, I am talking about so much abuse from this innocent act that many men cannot separte the good from the bad in it.

I write for many lurking women who have divorced men and left them for having to endure this in life rather than the respect that they deserve and have been promised. I can say with all honesty that this is getting out of control and many women are being hurt. I am sure I will be ripped apart on this but that is just part of the game.

It seems a little silly to compare this act with abuse in my personal opinion. Abuse is a very separate act. If a woman does not wish to have a man ejaculate on her, than that is her right, and a man should respect that. It is NOT the act that is making him abusive.

"At the risk of getting a little too personal" I'll say that for me, having my husband ejaculate on me is an intimate experience. It lets me know how excited and turned on I have made him, and turning him on, in turn turns me on! I love him! In a healthy relationship I see no harm in this act. I think that if a woman has a problem with this act (so much so that she would end her marriage) she needs to ask herself... why? Is this silly act that may cause a minutes worth of inconvenience really worth ending your marriage over? If you love him and see that something such as this truly makes him feel good, then why not?

On the other hand, if a man truly loves his woman, he needs to ask himself, is this really worth ending my marriage? Talk things over, he can discuss with her why this would make him feel good, and she can discuss why she doesn't like it. Hopefully they can meet somewhere in the middle. But associating this act with abuse is just silliness in my opinion. If a man is willing to become abusive over something such as this, who knows what he is capable of? If someone is abusive taking his semen on your body isn't going to stop him from being abusive. The woman needs to stay away from someone who is abusing her.

Associating this act with abuse almost sounds like (forgive me for the term) typical reasoning from a victim of abuse. Women who have or are being abused reach for reasons for the abuse, trying to put blame on themselves. For instance a woman would say "well, I got beat up last night because I wouldn't let my man spray semen on me". When the FACT is that the only reason she got beat up is because the man is an abusive jerk who belongs in jail.

I am neither for or against this specific act, but I hardly see it as abusive. Abuse is a very separate issue. In a healthy relationship, anything two consenting adults choose to do (within reason) together is just fine. Abuse is abuse.