[boysoverheels]

So i was giving my BF BJ and out of sudden he told me that he can't " come " because the mood is gone .
My qns : Did i do anything wrong to causes his mood disappear ?
After that i gave in i asked him to watch porn while i am doing the job and eventually he came but took a while .

After the job was done , he apologise to me saying sorry that he took quite a while to " came "

Girls . What should i do ?

[caster]

As a guy, being able to ejaculate from a BJ isn't a given every time. Doesn't matter the technique, the time, etc..., some times it's just not going to happen, nothing the women did wrong.
It's a bit of a stereotype thing, while women seem to be ok without a O during sex, women seem to think it's easy for men to get off every time.

One thing to try though, slow down. Getting faster and faster, harder and harder doesn't mean he'll get off faster, but don't just go slow and light, mix it up. The sensations and sensuality of a slow down after a fast part will get us there faster than bang, bang, bang. Men are visual too, make sure he can see you. If you lay your head accross his belly he can't see anything. That kills the mood pretty fast.

[rcoreyus]

Don't worry about it and don't make him stressed, that will just make it worse. Just enjoy what is going on, an O is great, but it isn't the only, or even the main point in sex.

[fidler.e]

Honestly, my husband just enjoy blowjobs, regardless of if he orgasms or not. Try different techniques to keep things more exciting for you and him. It isn't always the goal to make him orgasm. Relax and if need be, talk to him about it. Open communication goes a long way.

[Kiwicherry]

I give oral to my boyfriend for a year now and only a few days ago, he was able to come during it the first time. It took him a long time to relax that much and to accept that it's okay for me. It was never important to us if he came during oral sex. It was just part of our erotic sessions and it was always great. Sometimes, he ejaculated by masturbating after that while I was lying next to him and masturbate, too.
So, it's absoluetly no problem if your boyfriend does not come every single time. Just as it's no problem if you do not have orgasms every time he touches you.

[Mino44]

I suggest the best blowjob videos on . net

[caster]

While I agree that in general not to take it personally as it can sometimes take a while or not happen at all, sometimes women do do something wrong with their technique.
When a man starts getting more aroused the woman almost always starts going faster and with more intensity to speed along his climax, this can sometimes have the opposite effect by desensitizing the penis. I have to sometimes tell my wife that slower will get me there faster as it's more sensuous.
But believe me when I say this, we do not, under any circumstance, want to criticize our woman's technique personally, we're usually so grateful to get oral that we'll apologize even when one isn't needed. Which is a shame, letting our partners know what works helps everyone. Ask him sincerely if there is something different to try.
One last thing, if it was indeed his mood, make sure the TV is off, sometimes any background noise will get our attention causing loss of focus.

[WaveRider]

How old is he? Were there distractions?

I've never had a problem cumming during head. But now I'm more careful. Giving head makes my girlfriend extremely horny. So I'll stop her just before I'm ready to cum, go down on her again a couple more times, and then bend her over a bed and bang her brains out.

BTW, my girlfriend loves to give head. Women who love it tend to be very good at it.

[Ted Garner]

Three good points:
1. Get rid of distractions like the TV.
2. Make it sensual and as caster mentioned, faster isn't necessarily better (my best orgasms from oral are when it's slow and sensual, especially at the end).
3. It's always more exciting when it's clear that the woman loves what's she's doing. Look him in the eye and smile at him while you're doing it. Show him the sparkle in your eyes. Take a break - just stroking him - and tell him how much you love it.
Finally, COMMUNICATE. Ask him what really turns him on when you give him a BJ.

[WaveRider]

Ted, you're right on the money. Yesterday a the woman I'm seeing had me right on the brink of her swallowing when her ****ed annoying cell phone rang. She has an grating ring on her phone. She had to put in overtime to compete what would normally be a few minutes' work.