[amy40]

I've never encountered any woman who didn't know what she was doing.

interesting

even though I'm married, don't always feel I know what I'm doing re sex
and we can each sometimes feel embarassed in the bedroom even after all these years

I think there's a lot we still can learn.....I'm always learning new things about him, so stands to reason we have things to learn in the bedroom, too

[WaveRider]

Hi JNS,

In context, it was assuredly normal at that time in her life. I'm sure that you remember when you were in college. I've had other women tell me that they have had guys at that age who came very quickly the first time.

The dude she talks about most was one of her very first boyfriends. She was in love with whom she thought he was. She did absolutely anything and everything for him. She did enjoy sex with him. She was living with her parents at that time. As soon as she got to his apartment, she got naked and they had sex many times. He was her first anal experience. It wasn't until she was a little older that she knew how enjoyable sex could be for her.

When a woman is in love with a dude, there's not much she won't do to keep him happy. When we're having sex, she's almost always 100% submissive. She'll do anything I ask. But she gets most out of it. I might be on the conservative side by writing that she always has at least 6 orgasms to my one, sometimes two.

[WaveRider]

Hi amy40,

My suggestion is to establish open sexual communication without judgment. When I began dating the woman I now sometimes see, we established open sexual communication by the end of our first month together. She told me what she liked and didn't like. She told me about her anal sex experiences, and how to have anal sex. She told me that she loved to give head. She told me that she loved being naked. She was by far the best sex I've ever had. We have open and honest sexual conversations with neither judging the other.

We always talked and still talk during sex. While she is submissive and doesn't do well with timid men, she will become aggressive when she wants to cum. She'll straddle my face or push my head between her legs.

[jns]

It wasn't until she was a little older that she knew how enjoyable sex could be for her.

This was what I was talking about. Her bf didn't bring her along for the ride. Who knows where it could have gone if he had spent time to return the gift.

BTW, guys not wanting to spend time and effort is a complaint that I have heard many times.

[WaveRider]

Unfortunately for women, not many young guys know how to get a woman to orgasm. I know that I didn't until I ran across a woman who taught me. I was willing to learn.

I'm a firm believer in open sexual communication without judgment. The problem is that young dudes, "...can't handle the truth." Women have to be able to trust a dude to not judge her before she'll reveal what she likes and doesn't like.

That friend of mine knows that she can tell me anything & I won't judge her.

If a woman wants me to know something, I'll listen.

Women who have great sex love it every bit as much as any dude.

[Texasred]

Eh... I didn't get good at bj's until I was in my mid twenties. And to be honest, it was porn that helped me figure it out. Before, I had pretty much no concept of what I was doing.

And many women never get good at it.
Of those with whom I have personal experience, only one was very good. The others were enthusiastic but failed to achieve the intended result.
it was still pleasant, though.

[WaveRider]

My GUESS is that women who don't become blowjob aficionados don't want to become aficionados. I know that some women don't like giving head. I've dated only one woman who didn't like it. I never pushed the issue.

I've never met a woman who has told me that she likes the taste of cum. Women will still give head and swallow even if the don't like the taste of cum.

My g/f loves to give head. Her very first sex act was giving a high school boy a blowjob. She was a high school sophomore. A penis in her mouth makes her extremely horny. And she loves the power giving head has over men. But she has never liked the taste of cum. She does swallow, but she doesn't like the taste. According to her, medication, hard alcohol, smokers, dope smokers, will make terrible taste worse.

There were a few times after I came and we were laying in bed that she had begun playing with my sleeping member. When she received positive reaction, she'd give me head until I was back in the game and ready to bang. Every single time I thought it'd never work. But her skills cannot be denied.

My g/f has porn star blowjob talent because she loves giving head. No one taught her how to give blowjobs. She did tell me that when she was in high school and college, guys would cum very quickly, so skill wasn't necessary. Now she uses all available stimuli: she's always naked, she always gives me a clear view of me disappearing inside of her mouth, she uses her hands, she'll drool on me to get it slippery and jack me off, and when I'm ready to cum she'll either swallow or take a facial.

[Gramkar]

Yeah, I have experienced this as well. Mood passing and all that. My gf is fond of BJs, but she tends to take little breaks where she'll talk about random things. Occasionally touching on subjects that might put me in the wrong mood to want to continue, though she is usually able to coax me back.

The has been alot of good advice in this thread, I can confirm 'slow' over 'fast' but YMMV. I will add a find of my own. Keep going until the orgasm/ejaculation is done. It really makes a world of difference. That is assuming you are comfortable taking it in your mouth ofc.

[Lithium]

That is assuming you are comfortable taking it in your mouth ofc.

The only problem is there are some mood kills in the meanwhile more for some girls than others. And maybe most don't mind if the guy cums in the mouth as long as those turn offs are not there. Such as:
- bad hygiene (this is something from the start, of course), adding weird/bad smells to it as well or even weird stuff (like dirt);
- really really strong, bitter flavor of semen (it can change from guy to guy and what are they eating, php and other stuff)
- if the guy is too selfish after a while a girl looses interest in giving head. For instance, if the guy is there only to have own pleasure like receiving a bj, cum and that's it, finish, thank you and hasta la vista. Like... seriously dudes, a girl enjoys being pleasured too. How would you feel if everytime you wanted sex you would stimulate a girl, she would orgasm and roll over, "bye bye and thanks" without letting you finish? yeah, after a while a girl is just not that into working for someone else's pleasure alone. Not saying that this is the case.

[Gramkar]

Yeah but in this case it was the guys mood that changed. She had to convince him to stick around till the end. And to be honest my own experience is similar. Most BJs that go unfinished are either because my mood changed and I can't get back to a good place mentally, or because my GF gets tired in cases where it takes longer than normal. Neither of these cases are common, but her mood rarely changes mid BJ, at least not to the point where she will want to stop because of it.

Admittedly, she has told me she doesn't particularly enjoy the taste of cum, and that she has a trick for swallowing quickly so it doesn't touch her tongue much.