[muffin70]

is your man suffering from any health problems? as that can affect things... is he stressed about work or something?
sometimes it takes me ages to orgasm - wife will do oral for a few minutes, then use her hand, but sometimes her hand will get sore after a couple of minutes and I have to finish myself off.... other times she will be in the middle of the BJ and I realise I'm going to orgasm - then she uses her hand as she doesn't want sperm anywhere near her mouth / face.

if this was just a once off, then I'd not worry about it... if it happens regularly then talk to him about it

[WaveRider]

Communication is helpful. Tell her what you want her to do.

My g/f always assures that I get a clear view of her giving me head. She'll often stop, look up at me, and ask if I like what she's doing or if I want her to do it another way.

My g/f knows that she can make me cum in under a minute while she's giving me head. She's done it at least a hundred times. But now I'm good for once a night, maybe twice. So I'll pull it outta her mouth. It's all about conservation. After she cums 3 or more times, she wants me to bang her like a screen door in a category 5 hurricane. After I cum, she'll rest for about 10 minutes and then want me head between her legs again.

I've been very lucky in life. I've always dated women who've loved sex.

[Texasred]

Ted's right on, but let me add one more thing: consistency, by which I mean: don't change things when you find what's working, **don't** vary the technique. Consistency lets the feelings build to the point of no return.

[WaveRider]

Texasred,

What is blowjob consistency?

By the time a girl is outta high school, certainly outta college, she'll know how to give head. You won't have to tell her a thing. She'll have it wired.

[Texasred]

Texasred,

What is blowjob consistency?

By the time a girl is outta high school, certainly outta college, she'll know how to give head. You won't have to tell her a thing. She'll have it wired.

Not true, not all women know what to do, not any more than all men are good at oral; and for both men and women, getting a little gentle coaching from your partner can go a long way to improving the experience. Nothing like "Hey, you're doing that all wrong," but just letting them know what's really working well, subtly perhaps but not *too* subtle... :-))

By "consistency," though, I mean not changing the technique, at least not radically. When your partner is right on the brink is not a good time to say, "Oh, now I think I'll try something completely different!"

And finally: not every man will orgasm from oral sex, regardless of technique, and this doesn't imply a health issue, though it could be a generational thing, or maybe better to say it's psychological. This is a diagnosis, though, not a "cure." By which I mean, knowing what the issue is doesn't provide a solution: you go to a doctor for him to set a broken arm, not to tell you, "You've got a broken arm." Which may be true but is not useful.

[WaveRider]

Texasred,

It might not be true for you, but it is very true in So Cal. Going back to high school, I cannot remember a woman who didn't have it wired.

A blowjob is a whole lot different than going down on a woman.

Relax. Let her do the work. She'll know exactly what she's doing.

[Ashlee T.]

Eh... I didn't get good at bj's until I was in my mid twenties. And to be honest, it was porn that helped me figure it out. Before, I had pretty much no concept of what I was doing.

[WaveRider]

Hi Beautiful Disaster,

I've never encountered any woman who didn't know what she was doing. My last g/f was extremely sexually experienced. Her first sex act was giving head. She could me cum within minutes. I have her on video making me cum in 45 seconds. She has told me that she has always loved to give head.

[WaveRider]

Granted this a population of only one woman, I asked my old g/f who still gives up benefits...or takes them, whether anyone taught her how to give blowjobs. She is extremely sexually experienced, she has always loved sex, and has had many sex partners. She told me that no one taught her how to give head. When she was younger, she was always able to make a guy cum in her mouth. She said that when she was in high school and college, boys and young men would cum almost as soon as they put their dicks inside of her mouth. Almost as soon as she got naked with one of her early boyfriends, he'd cum when she touched his **** and many times before she could get it in her mouth. But he was young and could cum all night. She did have a Playmate hot body when she was in college. She said that when she took she clothes off in front of him, he was already in the process of cumming. Being young, he had undeveloped sex skills. He wanted her naked and he'd either bang her brains out, which lasted seconds, or get head. While she loves sex, she got tired of his constantly wanting sex and his lack of skills.

[jns]

Almost as soon as she got naked with one of her early boyfriends, he'd cum when she touched his **** and many times before she could get it in her mouth. But he was young and could cum all night. She did have a Playmate hot body when she was in college. She said that when she took she clothes off in front of him, he was already in the process of cumming. Being young, he had undeveloped sex skills. He wanted her naked and he'd either bang her brains out, which lasted seconds, or get head. While she loves sex, she got tired of his constantly wanting sex and his lack of skills.

I always shake my head at these type of scenarios. She stepped up her game and gave him what he wanted and what did she get back? Laziness. He should have taken his game to the next level on both intercourse and oral sex, and then went even farther.