[mysticwitch]

I am really sad. I have zero sensation in my breasts and nipples...on my own that is. When someone else is doing the touching, sucking, and so on its totally awesome! But now that I'm single (and probably will be for a long time) I have to do everything myself and I am desperate to be able to have sensations in my nipples. Why doesn't it feel good when I do things? Is there anything I can do? I had thought about nipple clamps that vibrate but I'm worried about wasting money...its not like you can return a sex toy if you aren't completely satisfied.

[anonimousey]

Hi mysticwitch,

I'm the complete oppositte to you, when my boyfriend touches my boobs/nipples I feel nothing at all but boredom, when I do it myself I get a little something something (although I have no sex drive at all).

I think you just need to explore your body; probably when your boyfriend does it it's exciting because you don't know where he's going or what he's going to do. Spend your time running your hands all over your body, where you feel a bit 'shivery' is a good place to touch.

Boobs are awesome, but don't feel you have to get turned on by them because that what everyone else is like. You might find it really hot to have your hands running over your stomach or down your waist - I find this is much better when you're on your back because your tummy is more stretched out. Or, you might just like the feeling of your hands running along your legs.
Try different hand temperatures as well - I have really bad corculation in my hands, so they're always cold; the shock of the coldness on your skin is quite nice.

Just going back to nipples for a second, what are you doing with them? Personally, the only way I get any enjoyment out of them is by running my finger all around my areola or running my fingers/fingertips over my nipple either directly or over a tshirt. Also, I find that if I just squeeze my nipples, I get nothing, but if I squeeze them and roll the nipple between my thumb and forefinger, it feels nice.

Hope this helps!

[DreamP346]

The most powerful sexual organ is your brain. Your brain just isn't finding your own hand very sexy. Try closing your eyes and fantasizing.