[Newbee112]

Hi all,

So I need some advice please help

My boyfriend and I have been off and on dating for the past year and a half and we have done oral and mutual master-bating and it's been great but he keeps talking about having sex and I'm really self-conscious and not ready for sex, but I often feel like I'm ready when I'm in the moment. I feel horrible because I always stop him when we get hot and heavy and I don't want to stop. I don't know of I should just do it or if I should wait? Please help

[Claret]

First of all, how old are you? If you are not certain, then don't do it. When the time is right you'll know.

[Newbee112]

I'm 15 at times I feel ready but I guess I'm just afriad of my first time

[Claret]

15 is still very young to enter into this type of relationship, but if you are going to go ahead and do this, are you protected? Are you on the pill, do you have condoms, are you certain of the person that is your boyfriend? Is he "the one"? Look really hard into the person you are and the person you want to become. If you got pregnant would you still be able to achieve your goals and dreams? What about your boyfriend, would he be able to finish school and go to university, get the job he wants to get in the future? There is so much more to a committed relationship than just having sex. It should mean the same hopes and dreams for the future for both of you and not just because it feels good in the moment. One thing I'd like to point out,is that when a women or girls are raped or abused, sometimes the body lets us down. Because the physical contact can even feel good when that is taking place. It doesn't mean that we've asked for the rape or abuse or are consenting to it, it's just because the body naturally responds in a physical manner. Right now your body is responding, but your heart and your mind aren't. What's going to win?

[Newbee112]

Thank you this has been really helpful, I guess when I get down to roots of it I just want to please him and make him feel good. But after thinking about it and taking your advice I think I'll wait until I'm sure in ready

[BabyGirl]

I am going to be so very Honest here.
As a ,Woman, as Mother,as a Sister, Aunt, Adoptive Mother, Foster Mother and as a Victim of Rape and Abuse.

Go ask your Mother and or Father or your Aunts or Uncles or Grandparents.. About this.
" I am Thinking about having Sex "
Tell them This Exactly as you Posted.

I'm 15 at times I feel ready but I guess I'm just afraid of my first time

My boyfriend and I have been off and on dating for the past year and a half and we have done oral and mutual master-bating and it's been great but he keeps talking about having sex and I'm really self-conscious and not ready for sex, but I often feel like I'm ready when I'm in the moment. I feel horrible because I always stop him when we get hot and heavy and I don't want to stop. I don't know of I should just do it or if I should wait? Please help

Sweetie, They know you so much better than We here do .They know your " raising " you lifestyle, Your circumstances.

You've been " Dating since 13 1/2 ?
You've been Master~Bating ?
Do you mean Masturbating ?
He keeps talking about sex ?
Do you know that Oral and Hand masturbation is " Sex " it's just not Intercourse !

I am so not trying to Not be the " Old Lady " that I am, that has raised 4 kids and has been a Foster Mom to many that have been Abused .

But .. I am fearful for the Young these days.
And I do believe Claret is an Awesome Young lady and has great advice.

I would add to it .. Ask Advise from a Trusted Person, that has some control over the Activities that are Offered to you.
Education for a lifelong Employment, Sex Education to protect your from Disease, Supervision and Responsibility for and with you .

Until you turn Legal age . And 15 is not a legal age in the USA, not sure on other Countries. You need to learn to become a Young Woman. One you can be Proud of. One that is Guided by those more Wise and Mature than you are .
I am not trying to offend you here, but just your asking, shows you may be wise in Choosing your Road on life. Chose Wisely, with Guidance ,
Your Boyfriend Should and will Respect you Much more if you wait for Permission from those who are responsible for you Now . And also learn to become a Woman on your Own .

You should and hopefully will be Loved for whom you Respect Most .
That being Yourself.

[tartar sauceee]

Wait until college.

When you are in college you will have more freedom and know more. And also be able to meet more higher quality guys.

[LisaW1991]

You're old enough to decide when you're ready, and if you don't feel ready, then you wait.

However, sometime a girl can feel ready, just a little scared. If that is the case, then just know that lots of girls are scared\ nervous their first time, but quickly move past it and enjoy how it feels having their bf inside them. I was scared my first time, and it turned out wonderful.

[chaya]

You will always remember your "first time", I remember mine. I didn't have a choice, I was raped.

You have a choice, choose wisely.

[rcoreyus]

Only you can decide. If you do go ahead you absolutely MUST use protection.

You will never forget your first time, but it will probably not be great.