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Men like to be aroused while they have sex... Seeing an ugly girl can quite easily turn a man off. And for men, as for women, the more mentally aroused he is the more he will enjoy sex. It's also true that a pretty girl will make a guy aroused, thus making him want sex...

Yet saying this I have also seen some gorgeous men with an over weight sexual wife or unattractive woman and cling to her. Looks are only skin deep. They want what is inside the package not a cold fish. I have seen this in action often...But I will admit looks are a attraction.....

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I have plenty of alone time and think that my partner should as well. But I also think that fantasizing about someone/something other than your partner can be dangerous. For some it can really affect the sexual relationship between the two, especially when one is not as exciting as the other's fantasies.

Yes, I see....porno or fantasies about other women is the problem for you. You may be right. It (porn) may desensitize men to regular sex. I just mentioned that in a message to anonymous. Men thinking of other women sexually is a problem for me too. I wonder if my SO would really want the women he is fantasizing about. I guess he would on some level.

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We do indeed think in different ways, and I think it's true that men rarely if ever switch off from other sources of sexual excitement wheras women seem to quite often. It is an instinctual/genetic based thing...

I am very lenient with my partner in all sorts of ways, about anything, so I guess I expect the same thing. But then my idea of a good relationship is not feeling like your stuck in a cage, and I see freedom (and freedom from nagging) as paramount.

Society and maybe genetics to some degree has probably set back women sexually compared to men, they have more inhibitions etc etc. Sex is more of a physical thing for a man than for a woman, whilst a woman might only be able to enjoy sex with someone she trusts and loves, a man could happily have sex with a psychotic ***** as long as she was pretty. A woman thinks about having sex with a man as a by-product of having feelings for him (?) wheras when a man thinks of sex he's not really thinking at all, at least not with his brain.

On a side note, it's good to know that some people appreciate a male response, I saw some people whining about how only women should be allowed to post here and that just seemed insanely counter productive and ignorant.

I will agree that this is important for many females. However, all men do not think alike just like all women do not think like I do...Thank God.......TC,C

I think all the men that are posting at this Forum are very knowledgeable. They are honest in their opinions yet are forthright and let us know what their thinking is. This is not easy to do on a Female Forum yet they walk this tight line. I am pretty dedicated to helping women just as these men seem to be in helping women. TC, C

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Yet saying this I have also seen some gorgeous men with an over weight sexual wife or unattractive woman and cling to her. Looks are only skin deep. They want what is inside the package not a cold fish. I have seen this in action often...But I will admit looks are a attraction.....

I have thought some fairly unattractive men (not ugly...just plainer) have been very sexy because of their personality or their actions! Men are more into the perfection thing....physical perfection, IMO.

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I have thought some fairly unattractive men (not ugly...just plainer) have been very sexy because of their personality or their actions!

Exactly! In my opinion there are a lot of things that contribute to one being attractive, not just their physical appearance. I remember years ago there was this guy that worked at my office. All of us girls thought he was sooooo attractive. Everyone looked at him when he came into the room. One day we were sitting at a table next to him in the cafeteria. I sat and listened to the conversation he was having with the others at his table and immediately his looks changed to me. He was no longer attractive in my eyes. How someone handles themselves, speech, attitude etc., can have a big affect on how others see them.

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Exactly! In my opinion there are a lot of things that contribute to one being attractive, not just their physical appearance. I remember years ago there was this guy that worked at my office. All of us girls thought he was sooooo attractive. Everyone looked at him when he came into the room. One day we were sitting at a table next to him in the cafeteria. I sat and listened to the conversation he was having with the others at his table and immediately his looks changed to me. He was no longer attractive in my eyes. How someone handles themselves, speech, attitude etc., can have a big affect on how others see them.

Agreed 100%

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I have trouble with this topic I suppose. I assume everyone should be like me, which is just ******. When I am in a relationship there is something in me that turns off the rest of the world. I feel no physical attraction to other men at all. Fantasizing about other men when masterbating does nothing for me. However, the last guy I dated spent a lot of time online with other girls and watched some porn. I tried to be the open-minded girlfriend and not smother him and act all needy. It ended up at the point that I no longer did anything for him physically. He was more excited to get online and cyber with someone or look at porn. In the end my self esteem was crushed and I have serious trust issues. So much for being open minded.

Today, I feel gutty. I have to go and get pizza's now but later on I will put on one of my fantasies. I like to write them down...Lord, I do love Eric my Eroscillator... Rereading them later can really get you hot.....WOMEN never worry about aging......You will have the time of your life..... No, I am going to put it on now....

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Men thinking of other women sexually is a problem for me too. I wonder if my SO would really want the women he is fantasizing about. I guess he would on some level.

Fleeting thoughts and fantasies are understandable to me but when it comes to the point of really wanting the woman/women that are fantasized about this is where I think the line is crossed.

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Fleeting thoughts and fantasies are understandable to me but when it comes to the point of really wanting the woman/women that are fantasized about this is where I think the line is crossed.

I agree, although the cynic in me thinks that this (in most cases) is inevitable.