[MamaaCorydoras]

Hello all! This is my first time posting on a sex forum, so go easy on me! I'll get right to the point. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. I used to see him every 2 weeks or so, for a number of reasons. When I did see him, he was a sex craving maniac! We would just spend hours and hours having sex. Aside from anal weve done everything, everywhere. I grew to love giving him blow jobs, mostly because he always complimented on how I've gotten better (he was my first everything). Anyway, I grew to love being eaten out. I loved it!!

Anyway, 6 months ago, I moved in with him. And since then, it's just plummeted for me. We still have sex, sometimes twice a day on and off. Sex is great, can't complain about that. My problem is, and I'm sure many can agree, it's very hard for me to orgasm through just intercourse. This is why I love getting eaten out. It's very satisfying. The problem is, since I've moved in, he hasn't eaten me out. Not once. I will admit that I've put on a little weight and sometimes seeing someone everyday makes it hard to be attracted to them 24/7 for whatever reason.

The problem is, he always wants blow jobs, to which I consent to. It's just that sometimes I want to be considered too ? I've tried talking to him about it, and he's come up with different excuses. I don't want to be the one to initiate anything all the time. Since you moved in, I don't watch porn anymore and that's lowered my sex drive. I ejaculate in you when we have sex (I'm on the pill) and you're taste has changed because of it, you taste like my cum, an that's weird. You make no effort to be attractive. That's about all the excuses I've gotten so far.

I've started going to the gym now, but whenever I initiate anything, like of I start kissing him, he tries to tickle me or something an totally kills the moment. I just feel unattractive and unsatisfied. I wanted to know if anyone else had had this experience. Or if anyone has any advice. I understand that living with someone is different
, but surely my boyfriend who is constantly thinking about sex and watching porn whenever he can wouldn't feel this way so quickly...

Thanks for any advice, and so sorry about the wall of text!!

[MamaaCorydoras]

I forgot to mention that the few times he has eaten me out (before the move), hes insisted that it be in the 69 posiion since its 'easier for him', but he just ends up using his hands anyway, and hes the one that gets the blowjob out of it...

Is it unfair for me to ask that he just focus on me sometimes??

[Palerider]

I ejaculate in you when we have sex (I'm on the pill) and you're taste has changed because of it, you taste like my cum, an that's weird.

I'm a lot like you in the sense that I rarely orgasm through intercourse. My husband eats me out almost every time we have sex. I don't insist that he does it, but he himself insists. He ejaculates inside me too and apparently he doesn't mind the taste of his own semen when he goes down on me. Some men have issues with that and some men don't.

If he has issues with a lowered sex drive, then perhaps you should spice things up. Have you considered incorporating fantasies or role-playing? My husband and I have done that recently and have even tied it to him eating me out.

[jns]

It sounds like he is no longer chasing you and that is the reason for his change in behavior. There are guys for which giving oral to a girl is the best thing ever. There are guys who don't give oral for one or several reasons. Then there are guys who give oral during the chase and abandon it when they have already got their prize. He sounds like he is in the third category.

Your size should not make a difference. Tasting his own semen could be an objection if he was to give you oral after intercourse, but shouldn't be otherwise and besides, wasn't during courtship. Have him explain what has changed between then and now. Maybe you two should go back to date night sex instead of on demand sex.

[vinnyt]

Hello all! This is my first time posting on a sex forum, so go easy on me! I'll get right to the point. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. I used to see him every 2 weeks or so, for a number of reasons. When I did see him, he was a sex craving maniac! We would just spend hours and hours having sex. Aside from anal weve done everything, everywhere. I grew to love giving him blow jobs, mostly because he always complimented on how I've gotten better (he was my first everything). Anyway, I grew to love being eaten out. I loved it!!

Anyway, 6 months ago, I moved in with him. And since then, it's just plummeted for me. We still have sex, sometimes twice a day on and off. Sex is great, can't complain about that. My problem is, and I'm sure many can agree, it's very hard for me to orgasm through just intercourse. This is why I love getting eaten out. It's very satisfying. The problem is, since I've moved in, he hasn't eaten me out. Not once. I will admit that I've put on a little weight and sometimes seeing someone everyday makes it hard to be attracted to them 24/7 for whatever reason.

The problem is, he always wants blow jobs, to which I consent to. It's just that sometimes I want to be considered too ? I've tried talking to him about it, and he's come up with different excuses. I don't want to be the one to initiate anything all the time. Since you moved in, I don't watch porn anymore and that's lowered my sex drive. I ejaculate in you when we have sex (I'm on the pill) and you're taste has changed because of it, you taste like my cum, an that's weird. You make no effort to be attractive. That's about all the excuses I've gotten so far.

I've started going to the gym now, but whenever I initiate anything, like of I start kissing him, he tries to tickle me or something an totally kills the moment. I just feel unattractive and unsatisfied. I wanted to know if anyone else had had this experience. Or if anyone has any advice. I understand that living with someone is different
, but surely my boyfriend who is constantly thinking about sex and watching porn whenever he can wouldn't feel this way so quickly...

Thanks for any advice, and so sorry about the wall of text!!

Hi there,

Sorry to hear that. From a man's perspective, he doesnt like to go down on you. The taste change due to his own cum is a pretty funny excuse, so no more cuming inside you then and you can tell him you dont want to give him a BJ because from him being inside you, his **** tastes like your *****.
all joking aside, maybe you do have a taste or odor, but even then if a guy is completely into you there is no stopping for an odor unless is very bad. If he is into you seeing you every day should actually increase the desire and frequency of sex, doesnt it seeing him all the time make you want to ********uck him all the time?
Avoiding to kiss you along with watching porn is a bad sign. I would suggest to have a lil chat and tell him you will move out. If that's how quick it took for the sex to get bad imagine what it would be a year form now, you will be giving him a bj while he is watching porn.
Regarding your 2nd question. Absolutely not, thats how it should be! I can guarantee you and that includes me, many men who are so into their gf's or wife's will never have a problem just taking care of them every morning and not having sex or a bj to cum, just like you have performed on him without anything in return. It sounds like a you are pretty young, there is no need to be in a train wreck at that age.
Hope this helps you finding an answer

[rcoreyus]

Doing sexual favors for someone is fantastic - but it should be balanced, sometimes you do things for him, sometimes he does them for you. It sounds like he has gotten lazy / selfish. If only he knew how many men wished they were in a relationship with a woman who was willing to do all sorts of things to please them - there are unfair sexual relationships in both directions out there.

Make sure he knows that this is important - though he should know that already. If it doesn't change, then I think you are better off without him, than with someone who will leave you frustrated for the rest of your life. Sex is really important to a relationship.

[MamaaCorydoras]

Thanks for everyone's advice.!
It's nice to know I may not be the only one.

I guess it's a ritual thing. He says that before he met me he would watch porn everyday and would jack of multiple times, and he doesn't understand why that should change which is fair enough. I won't say I've never tried masturbating before, but I will say that I've never orgasmed from it. So I can go a while without orgasming, but I agree it should be a mutual thing.


I agree rcoreyus, I know there would be plenty of men who would feel lucky, and even though I've gained a little weight, I'm currently a 14F, who would complain about that?!

Then again, is it normal for men to want something different sometimes?! It's getting frustrating knowing that sometimes he would rather jack off than have sex...

As in, sometimes he says he wouldn't mind having a girlfriend with small boobs. It's very confusing, but I don't want to force him to do anything. I want it to come naturally, since that's the turn on...

Any further advice??

[Element]

I told my man from day one that there are no "two way streets" in a relationship. If you feel like you're being used, mistreated, and he won't listen to you, then that states more than enough right there. If he doesn't want you, won't be with you; that's a hard hit to take. Maybe a reality slap is needed. Every relationship always take work. If he's not willing to continue to work on your relationship, then is this really a man you want to stay with? Marry? Is this the life you want to live until the day you die?

[vinnyt]

I guess it's a ritual thing. He says that before he met me he would watch porn everyday and would jack of multiple times, and he doesn't understand why that should change which is fair enough. I won't say I've never tried masturbating before, but I will say that I've never orgasmed from it. So I can go a while without orgasming, but I agree it should be a mutual thing.

The porn thing doesnt make sense, if a guy is sexually satisfied he wouldnt even think about it, unless his partner is not around. If you have regular sex and your were completely satisfied, would you even think about masturbating?
Maybe the porn includes different types of sex or the women look just what he likes, and that might include small boobs. Different strokes for different folks right.

To answer your question:
Then again, is it normal for men to want something different sometimes?! It's getting frustrating knowing that sometimes he would rather jack off than have sex...
As in, sometimes he says he wouldn't mind having a girlfriend with small boobs. It's very confusing, but I don't want to force him to do anything. I want it to come naturally, since that's the turn on...

The answer is complicated, yes men do want something different. How far into the relationship depends on how much their partner fulfills their sex fantasies and matches physical type. Even if all is 100% at some point the fantasy or curiosity comes into play. The "other" woman might be ugly fat small **** and everything that the guy doesn't like but it does happen eventually, would he act on it its a different story. But if the sexual satisfaction and the visual image are not 100% then the fantasies never go away they will just become stronger

[rcoreyus]

Men (and women) do enjoy "something different", but that something can be their partner. They can do new things, new places, new behaviors. A good partner will provide lots of variety.

In your case though I don't think this really is the issue.