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I just got married this week and had sex for the first time. I enjoyed it a little but it was nothing compared to masterbation. I have been masterbating for years and enjoy it more. Both me and my new husband were virgins and I just feel bad and sad that its not as good. We have hasd sex like 6 times or something. It was hurting but we found out he needed to not use the jell and that were needed more forpl. what should I do?

[Stillness]

Couple of thoughts: Maybe have him do the things to you that you like doing to yourself. Have you tried different positions and angles? Are you doing it long enough to get going? Although everyone is different, women in general need more time to get warmed up and to get the most pleasure from sex.

[HussyOrNot]

Is he open minded about sex? will he perform oral sex on you? You two should do some reading together - perhaps pick up a copy of the Joy of Sex or a similar book? Stillness is right - we ladies take more time to get warmed up and our climaxes are not as easy to come by (no pun!) as our mens'.

[Obelisk]

I think men and women would benefit from understanding the biology. It's easy for a guy to cum during sex because our glans are getting direct stimulation from the vaginal walls. For women, the clit is basically their glans, but it's outside the vagina, so straight up intercourse is, generally, never going to feel as good for the woman as it does for the man.

Men should understand this, and this is why I see so many women asking men to get good at oral, and fingering. Women should understand that, as a general rule, a penis thrusting into their vagina is not going to feel as good as their clit being stimulated directly.

I understand this. You and your guy should too.