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  • LisaW1991
    Senior Member
    • Feb 2013
    • 128

    Have you ever had an orgasm with with him, or have you always had to fake one?

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    • LisaW1991
      Senior Member
      • Feb 2013
      • 128

      Originally posted by LaraTheOnigiri
      On another though, do guys fake? I have had suspicions that my boyfriend has on 1 or 2 occasions.

      Lara
      How did he fake it?

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      • LaraTheOnigiri
        Member
        • Jul 2013
        • 10

        Hello all,

        I like penetration, makes me feel amazing, but no, I have never actually cum as you would through clitoral stimulation.
        There have been very few occasions where he would put so much effort into sex and exhaust him self. He would go go go, then "orgasm" and stop. But after cleaning my self up (i'm on the pill) there wouldn't be that much cum, but it's hard to tell because it would be my own wetness mixed in. I was just curious really, thank you everyone for your questions and replies.

        I do have an update! Last night we were in bed, cuddling to begin with. Then I started playing with him, always putting my best in because I want him to feel good. After a while we get naked and I can see that he just wants to get on top and proceed with his usual routine of JUST vaginal penetration. Took and deep breath and told him no, I want him to play with me. At first he was enjoying it, using his penis to play with me, and so was I. Basically, I told his what to do. How, where, when, how much, everything, while basically playing with my self. After about a good 15 min, I FINALLY reached my big O!!!!! On the other hand, he didn't. After I was so happy and loving, but he seemed distant. Said "what was that all about? You were so pushy!", "I wanted to try something different, and it was so good! Thank you". Basically, he was really ****ed off with me, cose I kept telling him what to do, my hand was constantly in the way, and HE didn't come. Although I explained that I felt amazing, I don't think he cared. Also, while I was touching my self and beginning to cum, obviously all your muscles constrict inside, and he was inside me and he seemed to enjoy it.

        I dunno guys. Now I feel good and bad. This is making me realize why I started faking to begin with

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        • CHANDLERS WISH
          • Mar 2008
          • 22440

          A man sometimes I think has a problem if HE is not the one to give you an Orgasm and you can do it yourself or it appears better by yourself, with a little bit of a hand from a friend

          It's called ego which is so silly, you had him involved in the whole thing he should have thought wow, I'll try this and that. I think a good lover encourages it, watches, listens, and knows himself what he needs to do and is happy to because it makes him a perfect lover to you. We as woman, always do the things we know they like.

          It may be that you have to tell him that doing things together is 'ok' and essential and you want to now explore your own body with him, together.

          If he still goes on the ego trip you have to point that out.

          You've done what you can now, you've opened up without fear, if he fears then counter it, if you can't counter it, mmmmmm
          PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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          • LaraTheOnigiri
            Member
            • Jul 2013
            • 10

            Hi Chandlers Wish,

            I mean, I understand this is all new for him. Kinda feel like he needs an anatomy lesson too. To really appreciate how it all works. Delicate situation.
            I love him with all my heart, and would never leave him over this, but it will be hard work overcoming his ego and selfishness. Oh well, I guess I put my self into position.

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            • CHANDLERS WISH
              • Mar 2008
              • 22440

              Reverse Psychology

              If he thinks it's because of the way he moves inside of you and the way that he touches you with his penis, that has made you touch yourself? And, as a result he's the man and you want to do it more?



              One can only try.
              PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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              • LaraTheOnigiri
                Member
                • Jul 2013
                • 10

                Sorry hun, I don't think I fully understand what you mean?
                Also, does anyone know any good webpages or sites where it explains all basic knowledge about women and orgasms/clit stimulation?

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                • rcoreyus
                  Veteran Member
                  • Sep 2007
                  • 4369

                  Sigh. I and many men would love to have their partners tell us what they like. I don't want to take "instructions" all the time, but it would be really nice a few times, and I would learn what she likes. Having my wife be pushy sometimes would be fun! (with or without handcuffs and a riding crop.....)

                  Most of the enjoyment in sex is pleasing the other person, and the more they let you know what they want, the better. If the goal of sex was just to have an orgasm, then we'd all just use our fingers or vibrators and save all the inconvenience of relationships.....

                  He was being unreasonable, don't know what to suggest -but faking isn't the answer.

                  Originally posted by LaraTheOnigiri
                  Hello all,

                  I like penetration, makes me feel amazing, but no, I have never actually cum as you would through clitoral stimulation.
                  There have been very few occasions where he would put so much effort into sex and exhaust him self. He would go go go, then "orgasm" and stop. But after cleaning my self up (i'm on the pill) there wouldn't be that much cum, but it's hard to tell because it would be my own wetness mixed in. I was just curious really, thank you everyone for your questions and replies.

                  I do have an update! Last night we were in bed, cuddling to begin with. Then I started playing with him, always putting my best in because I want him to feel good. After a while we get naked and I can see that he just wants to get on top and proceed with his usual routine of JUST vaginal penetration. Took and deep breath and told him no, I want him to play with me. At first he was enjoying it, using his penis to play with me, and so was I. Basically, I told his what to do. How, where, when, how much, everything, while basically playing with my self. After about a good 15 min, I FINALLY reached my big O!!!!! On the other hand, he didn't. After I was so happy and loving, but he seemed distant. Said "what was that all about? You were so pushy!", "I wanted to try something different, and it was so good! Thank you". Basically, he was really ****ed off with me, cose I kept telling him what to do, my hand was constantly in the way, and HE didn't come. Although I explained that I felt amazing, I don't think he cared. Also, while I was touching my self and beginning to cum, obviously all your muscles constrict inside, and he was inside me and he seemed to enjoy it.

                  I dunno guys. Now I feel good and bad. This is making me realize why I started faking to begin with

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                  • CHANDLERS WISH
                    • Mar 2008
                    • 22440

                    I think Corey also explained what I mean. He, has to feel as if, he is the man and that he has made the woman curious about exploring her body with him. At the moment, he feels that you are "the man" exploring yourself and he's not good enough.

                    I also think there are enough experienced members of WH, that can answer your questions pertaining to knowledge of sex.

                    (NB - New members, out bound links are not permitted on this Forum)
                    PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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                    • Obelisk
                      Veteran Member
                      • Jul 2013
                      • 441

                      I as a man understand that women are not likely to orgasm on penetration alone.

                      So I just do what my girl likes, which is usually to finger her clit. I have absolutely no ego when it comes to that. I just want the girl to feel good, that's all.

                      Chandler's Wish, how explicit are we allowed to get here?
                      Pigeonholer extraordinaire!

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