[muffin70]

I am new here, so please be gentle with me!

I am interested to know if any women / men have fetishes?? And do they discuss them with their husbands / wives

I’ve been married for 10 years and love my wife to bits.
She works in an office environment and often wears nice colourful scarves (silk / cotton) to work. Over the last few years I’ve been finding her scarves a real turn on and I’ve made no secret of that to her – she even knows what my favourite scarf is.
Sometimes the night before work she will get a scarf out and say "I'm wearing this scarf to work tomorrow" - she may even wave it around a bit in a sexy pose and it really turns me on!

I also like looking at clothing catalogues she gets in the mail and looking pictures where women are wearing scarves - I just love them!
It is only really silk / cotton scarves I like - not the thick woollen ones you wear in the winter to keep warm.

The problem is I would love my wife to wear a scarf or scarves more often when we make love (not all the time) , but she doesn’t want to or feel the need to and thinks I should find her sexy enough without her having to wear a scarf.

One of the only times she did wear a scarf was on our wedding anniversary last year – we went away for the weekend and she bought a new scarf and she wore it when we made love that night… it turned me on so much I had one of the most intense powerful orgasms I’ve had in ages.

I’ve asked her what turns her on and what I can do to turn her on more and get her ‘more in the mood’ to wear scarves during our love making, but she just thinks a scarf will get in the way and be a distraction – whereas I think the opposite

Does anyone else out there have fetishes and how have they approached their wives / husbands / partners about it?

Thanks in advance

[Claret]

You might want to ask her if she has ever thought of light bondage. This is many a woman's fantasy (to be taken forcefully) and it could work to your advantage as you could then tie her up with the scarves. You should purchase scarves for just this purpose as I wouldn't expect her to wear them to work. However, it could be that you may have to buy a bunch of them. You could use them for a blind and to tie up her arms and legs. Let us know.

[muffin70]

You might want to ask her if she has ever thought of light bondage. This is many a woman's fantasy (to be taken forcefully) and it could work to your advantage as you could then tie her up with the scarves. You should purchase scarves for just this purpose as I wouldn't expect her to wear them to work. However, it could be that you may have to buy a bunch of them. You could use them for a blind and to tie up her arms and legs. Let us know.

thanks for the suggestion - I'm not really into bondage, and I'm pretty sure my wife isn't either.
I don't want to tie her up with scarves (unless she asks me to) - I just like the idea of her wearing a scarf around her neck with the ends draped over / around her breasts while we are making love
Besides the only scarves I like of hers are the ones she wears during the day to work, so any 'scarf play' would have to involve these scarves!

[tinycit]

When it comes to sex we talk about anything and everything without fear. If we didn't do that I think we'd be strangers. We do our best to sexually satisfy each other. I think sex would be boring if we didn't both have kinks and fantasies to enjoy fulfilling for each other. It is a let down though when you realize that what you at first thought was totally kinky later turns out to be totally normal and everyone does it all the time.

[jslater]

Another idea for you... Take her out for a nice dinner. When you get home draw her a nice bath, some candles, rose petals.... Cater to her...When she is done... Tell her no talking...guide her to the bed and use a scarf to lightly blindfold her. Give her a full body message, caress her with multiple scarves, touch her with them, use as many as you want and well... You know what to do next. When your done fulfilling that scarf fetish and pleasuring your wife for as long as she can take it... Tell her you loved pleasuring her and will do it anytime. My advice...Don't even bring up the scarves... she might bring them up the scarves all on her own if she wants a replay. Just a fun idea that might work for both of you. It worked for me with one of my fantasies so it's worth a try for you. Might even open up a line of communication to share and expand on both of your desires. Just remember to fight the urge talk about your needs first. Be patient and sincere, listen to her. You don't want to come across as nagging or insensitive. Patience is your best friend when it comes to things like this. I found that when I'm most giving in the bedroom or just in general, in time my wife often wants to return the favor and i don't even have to ask. Good luck!