[Fedupwife]

This was a topic of discussion at work today - having sex with your partner when you are angry at them. How many of you do this? What goes through your mind? What's the outcome?

[Element]

I've never done that and it really would never be on the table for me. If I'm angry then I keep a physical distance from the person; I don't want to be touched by them. I view sex as personal, intimate, special. I could never mix that with anger. It's just not in me to do so.

[HisGirl]

Can't do it. I can have sex in any other emotional state, happy, sad, nervous, etc. but not angry. I just close off completely. I'd want to throw up if I had to **** somebody angry. Odd though, my husband can have sex with me when he's angry, he doesn't have the same issue. Guess everyone's different.

[Stillness]

The reason I can't have sex angry is that I can't be angry when I'm about to have sex. Men and women process emotion at different rates. It's a fact. It's our makeup. It's why a situation can be resolved and the man will go from enraged to calm. But a woman can still be mad even though there's nothing to be mad at anymore. Women also multi-task better. I'm more focused. If I'm doing something, then that thing has the vast majority of my attention, especially if that thing involves sex.

And if I'm mad at my wife, normally it's because I'm not having sex. If my wife comes to me naked, days and weeks of anger and frustration can disappear within seconds.

[kira]

I wouldn't want to have sex when angry at my husband but then we've never had reason to stay angry. Our arguments generally go each person states their opinion, we get annoyed, we walk off and do our own thing, and forget about being upset. Anger lasts a minute at most.

[shoshannah]

I've never done it and doubt if I could. I'm pretty sure my fiance is the same way. Pretty much what element said.