[jns]

Everything happens for a reason. Possibly the getting fat kept you focused and that focus helped you become successful. Don't stop now. You never know what is just around the corner. Just change your focus a bit.

[Pinka]

I actually know a lot of girls that prefer virgins.. 1)because they have never been with anyone else and 2)because they get to teach them exactly what they they and how they like it done :P
(if i were to break up with my bf i would prefer a virgin,,, i would have inexperience over knowing that you were intimate with another woman any day xD)
however, im willing to bet that this belief deteriorates with age, so maybe shooting for someone a lil younger than yourself? Lots of younger girls find it hot to be with an older guy ;D

[Obelisk]

I've been debating posting on this thread because it touches some stuff very close to home for me.

I take it you are still a virgin? If you truly believe that's the way to go, stay a virgin until you find a woman who waited for her future husband as well.

I can tell you from personal experience, sex is really not that much different from masturbation. My first time I was pretty confident, but I still wasn't able to get off. Even once I got into the groove, all I could think about was "that's it? this is the big deal?"

Been with 2 women now, wish I had held back. Giving up my virginity wasn't worth what I got in return. How can I now expect a woman to have waited for me when I couldn't?

Don't make the same mistake.

[Picksomething]

I actually know a lot of girls that prefer virgins.. 1)because they have never been with anyone else and 2)because they get to teach them exactly what they they and how they like it done :P
(if i were to break up with my bf i would prefer a virgin,,, i would have inexperience over knowing that you were intimate with another woman any day xD)
however, im willing to bet that this belief deteriorates with age, so maybe shooting for someone a lil younger than yourself? Lots of younger girls find it hot to be with an older guy ;D

Yea I want to start chatting up 21-23 yr old girls, as maybe theyd be less experienced. Odd thing is, Tuesday Im going on with an older woman. She seems to be digging me a lot, texts me everyday asking me how my days going. I called her yesterday, told her I had to go and she wouldnt let me off the phone, kept asking me more questions. Finally the 3rd time I said I had to go she got the point.

I've been debating posting on this thread because it touches some stuff very close to home for me.

I take it you are still a virgin? If you truly believe that's the way to go, stay a virgin until you find a woman who waited for her future husband as well.

I can tell you from personal experience, sex is really not that much different from masturbation. My first time I was pretty confident, but I still wasn't able to get off. Even once I got into the groove, all I could think about was "that's it? this is the big deal?"

Been with 2 women now, wish I had held back. Giving up my virginity wasn't worth what I got in return. How can I now expect a woman to have waited for me when I couldn't?

Don't make the same mistake.

Yes of course still a virgin. How many girls are out there 21+ that are still virgins? Itll be hard to find that. How old are you now?

[Obelisk]

Yes of course still a virgin. How many girls are out there 21+ that are still virgins? Itll be hard to find that. How old are you now?

Are you still going to church?

I'm facing a similar problem to you, with the added hurdle that I am absolutely positively sure I never want any kids in my life.

If you:

A. Are still religious
B. Are fine with having kids/a family eventually, you have ample choice man. There are a lot of girls in church that are virgins and will appreciate a man who waited for them.

I don't have this option because usually those girls want kids and I can't offer them kids.

[Element]

Yes of course still a virgin. How many girls are out there 21+ that are still virgins? Itll be hard to find that. How old are you now?

I was a virgin until I was 24, and I'm still with the same man I gave my virginity to; have been for over 2 years now. Yes, finding a woman nowadays who hasn't slept with someone is a rare find. But it doesn't mean that they're not out there. But to aim strictly for virgins is cutting it a bit thin. Especially since you have stated that you are currently not wanting a lasting relationship with the first woman you sleep with.

In all honesty, if you are just looking to get laid; go to a bar and you'll find a one night stand.

[Obelisk]

I was a virgin until I was 24, and I'm still with the same man I gave my virginity to; have been for over 2 years now. Yes, finding a woman nowadays who hasn't slept with someone is a rare find. But it doesn't mean that they're not out there. But to aim strictly for virgins is cutting it a bit thin. Especially since you have stated that you are currently not wanting a lasting relationship with the first woman you sleep with.

In all honesty, if you are just looking to get laid; go to a bar and you'll find a one night stand.

I personally would recommend against this for him specifically. One night stands personally are completely idiotic, and I imagine the more so for women. Doesn't matter how hot the guy is, I doubt most women can even get off with a guy they just met.

I could be wrong though, heck I don't know, my first time was with a super hot girl and I was pretty confident, yet I still couldn't get off. I kept getting soft.

I kind of get the sense that the OP wants a relationship, but is trying to not get clingy to the first girl he meets. That first girl I slept with I basically showed her my worth right away (I don't make 200k but my income is pretty good). So yeah she started pushing me to help her pay her rent, phone bills, etc.

This guy is basically me repeating itself it sounds like. He'd be wise to follow my advice on this, but he has to tell us what he wants.

[jns]

I could be wrong though, heck I don't know, my first time was with a super hot girl and I was pretty confident, yet I still couldn't get off. I kept getting soft.

Same thing with me except it was my second time. I guess super hot girls sometimes have guys being intimidated.

[Element]

Just because she's a virgin doesn't mean she'll be a mooch, that's just specific type of people. Experiencing firsts are usually always hitting high on the richter scale. First love, first kiss, first time having sex; it's the first time experiencing those emotions, being overloaded with endorphins. But that's not with all people, some people have a mediocre or unfulfilling first time and they end up hating sex or just not wanting it again. Or being ran over by love and swearing it off altogether. It's pretty much a roll of the dice of how things are going to end up.

I personally could never do a one night stand, but I know people who do and I don't think less of them for it. Sometimes people just want to scratch an itch and not have their lives changed by a relationship. I can understand the concept, but I could never do it.

[Picksomething]

Are you still going to church?

I'm facing a similar problem to you, with the added hurdle that I am absolutely positively sure I never want any kids in my life.

If you:

A. Are still religious
B. Are fine with having kids/a family eventually, you have ample choice man. There are a lot of girls in church that are virgins and will appreciate a man who waited for them.

I don't have this option because usually those girls want kids and I can't offer them kids.

Not religious, dont want to find a church girl either. I do want kids one day

I was a virgin until I was 24, and I'm still with the same man I gave my virginity to; have been for over 2 years now. Yes, finding a woman nowadays who hasn't slept with someone is a rare find. But it doesn't mean that they're not out there. But to aim strictly for virgins is cutting it a bit thin. Especially since you have stated that you are currently not wanting a lasting relationship with the first woman you sleep with.

In all honesty, if you are just looking to get laid; go to a bar and you'll find a one night stand.

I dont want a one night stand, plus Im still self conscious. If I wanted to get laid, I look good enough that I can get laid, plus im very charismatic. But I legit dont think I can just go for a ONS. I dont want the girl to be mad when I take off my shirt and shell see loose skin

I personally would recommend against this for him specifically. One night stands personally are completely idiotic, and I imagine the more so for women. Doesn't matter how hot the guy is, I doubt most women can even get off with a guy they just met.

I could be wrong though, heck I don't know, my first time was with a super hot girl and I was pretty confident, yet I still couldn't get off. I kept getting soft.

I kind of get the sense that the OP wants a relationship, but is trying to not get clingy to the first girl he meets. That first girl I slept with I basically showed her my worth right away (I don't make 200k but my income is pretty good). So yeah she started pushing me to help her pay her rent, phone bills, etc.

This guy is basically me repeating itself it sounds like. He'd be wise to follow my advice on this, but he has to tell us what he wants.

**** strong gold digger.

Just because she's a virgin doesn't mean she'll be a mooch, that's just specific type of people. Experiencing firsts are usually always hitting high on the richter scale. First love, first kiss, first time having sex; it's the first time experiencing those emotions, being overloaded with endorphins. But that's not with all people, some people have a mediocre or unfulfilling first time and they end up hating sex or just not wanting it again. Or being ran over by love and swearing it off altogether. It's pretty much a roll of the dice of how things are going to end up.

I personally could never do a one night stand, but I know people who do and I don't think less of them for it. Sometimes people just want to scratch an itch and not have their lives changed by a relationship. I can understand the concept, but I could never do it.

Yea Im also worried about performance anxiety my first time....

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Anyhow date with 28 yr old is tomorrow. Weve built insane chemistry on the phone, spoke until 1.30 am last night for close to 2 hrs, then about 45 mins today when I finally told her I had to go to the gym otherwise who knows how long that convo would go. But she seems ot have been in multiple relationships, and almost a serial dater, but I cant tell. I dont want to catch feelings for this chick and vice versa only to drop a bomb on her... ****it.