[rcoreyus]

This may seem like a dumb poll, but maybe different people will find it "dumb" for opposite reasons. Basically the question is: In general is the sort of stimulation that makes you orgasm quickly also the sort of stimulation that you most enjoy.

For some people I think they are very different: I enjoy receiving oral, but it doesn't finish me quickly. Anal penetration makes my wife orgasm very quickly, but its not her favorite things. I'm wondering if this is true for other people as well.

I'm not talking about diving directly into sex - assume the amount of foreplay that you enjoy beforehand. I'm just talking about the final stimulation that leads to orgasm.

I'm not talking about extreme cases: hooking electrodes up to delicate bits and applying shocks or something (unless that is normal sexual behavior for you, in which case more power to you).

[kira]

Actually I'm quite happy when I don't even have an orgasm while having sex. I just like the act. I've mostly stopped masturbating since I got married because I have sex nearly daily and I'm happy with that contact whether I finish or just he does. I no longer find entertainment in masturbating since I know exactly what will get to orgasm so I do it and it takes like 5-10mins which feel empty without foreplay and a partner.

I might take an interest in stimming again. Properly done it's not used for pain. It's more like the tens units they use to contract muscles that are injured for rehab patients. At least that's where it started and then people got to playing with other sound waves converted to electrical waves and putting together "songs" with homemade or several $100 units out there. It would take so much effort to set my stuff up again and tweak it to working. I haven't found it worth it.

[Stillness]

I think that this is a great poll, but I don't know what to check. The things that make me climax are very enjoyable, but I like everything.

During foreplay I enjoy myself so much that I'm reluctant to have sex. During sex I think about how ridiculous I was for not wanting to get to it. I like giving and receiving pleasure. I love my wife's body - looking at her, touching her, connecting with her. It's hard for me to pick out what I most enjoy.

[jen1447]

Wow, this is a really hard question. I don't think I can answer what type of stimulation I most enjoy, because I enjoy all types of stimulation. So I guess if I don't know what type I most enjoy, I can't answer if that type gets me to orgasm most quickly.

Maybe this is just a girl thing but my orgasms really run the gamut in intensity, frequency, duration, etc. It's hard for me to pin it down like that - moreso it's just ORGASM as a concept and state of being and every possible nuance and variation that makes that state was it is, or not-orgasm (boo!). Sorry, I'm being high maintenance.

[Lovcookie]

Interesting poll. As a man I can say both are great and satisfying but I feel I have a duty to perform until the woman cums. I take and get great pleasure in foreplay and the build to her orgasm. With my GF I sometimes have to go for a long long time before she cums. Other times it is quick but usually not. Even in some threesomes I have experienced with my gf or with other women (which she allows) I almost always work the woman into orgasm before I allow myself to peak. I must say on a few occasions I was selfish. I feel guilty but the last time I was solo with my gf's step sister (no relation, no blood line connection) (she is a lesbian too) I found myself not caring. She is so tight there, the sensation to cum came so fast I thought I was 18 again. I just let it fly and I must admit it felt awesome. She was Ok with it thank goodness but I felt this guilt after too.

[hot amy]

Interesting poll. As a man I can say both are great and satisfying but I feel I have a duty to perform until the woman cums. I take and get great pleasure in foreplay and the build to her orgasm..

You are correct in doing so. I must admit I like the full treatment of foreplay before the sex act itself. It is nice to hear from a male on this site which have has consideration for the female. In my younger days boys as they were then always seemed to behave like Clint Eastwood in dirty Harry with his magnum 44, whip it out, aim, and shoot, then put it away quick. In fact when I was a teenager many years ago I had three boys one after the other in the same place. None of then gave me any foreplay and they probably did not know what it was. They all shot and I never had the big O once, still I expect we all have to learn but some men nowadays often behave that way, they get their pleasure and they seem to think that’s ok then never mind the woman, funny mind some males have. Nice to hear from a considerate one.

[rcoreyus]

I think that a lot of men, especially as they get older are considerate lovers. Young men don't really have a good source of information and use porn as an example. Wonder if its true of younger women as well. Any lesbians / bi women want to comment on young female lovers, or men on young female lovers? (my own data is much to limited)

[jen1447]

Another tough question lol. There's no general answer that applies across the board, but the younger women I've slept with (both when I was younger myself and now) seem to focus less on tasks and performance and just connect and go with the flow (which is of course the key to good sex, instead of just performing by rote). So yeah, women are better lovers. (j/k)