[WaveRider]

The woman I'm seeing has told me many times that she wants another dude in bed with us, and to do another dude while I watch. She loves being watched while she's having sex. I haven't brought her fantasy to fruition.

[Ted Garner]

WaveRider
It's not for everyone but it is incredibly intense watching your wife/GF in the throughs of passion. I love to give pleasure and I just see it as an extension of that passion.

[WaveRider]

Women can be fickle. Sometimes they'll fantasize about doing two dudes at once, sometimes they'll fantasize about two women and a dude. Women can do other women and never consider themselves as lesbian or bisexual. It's as though it's normal.

The woman I'm seeing still fantasizes about doing two dudes at once. Once in a while, she'll fantasize about another woman and me. She loves dirty talk. She'll want me to tell her what another dude or woman would be doing to her. If I tell her that she's giving a dude head while I'm banging her brains out dog style, she'll become drenched.

I've never asked her and she's never volunteered, but from what she's let slip after drinking a bottle of wine before and during sex, my guess would be that she's been worked by two dudes, and I'd go with her being worked by two dudes more than once. I've never been with a woman as horny as she.

[WaveRider]

Hi Ted,

The last few times I've had sex with my g/f, she has fantasized about doing two dudes. She used to fantasize about it a lot. For years she has never brought it up. Lately she has. I used to blow it off as merely fantasy. However, reading between lines of what she's told me, I'd go with her having done two dudes -or more- at the same time. She is very sexually experienced.

The last couple days, it's been reappearing at the forefront of my mind. I can't figure out if she really means it or if she's back to fantasizing about it. My intuition tells me she really wants to do it. She has even asked if I knew of swingers clubs.

Nudity doesn't bother me. If she wanted to go to a nude resort, I'd take her. She's told me for as long as I've known her that she loves to be naked and would be naked all of the time if she could. She could walk around naked in front of a hundred dudes and it wouldn't bother me. For some reason, nudity has never bothered me.

Fantasizing about doing two dudes in one thing. Her actually doing it is another. I've tried to picture in my mind's eye how I'd react if I watched another dude or more banging her brains out and her giving head to dudes. She does give excellent head. She's always loved to give head.

I'm not the jealous type, but watching my g/f doing other dudes might cause me to become jealous. I know I wouldn't intervene or say anything unless someone was hurting her. It's after the act that might cause me difficulty reconciling her sexual exploration.

I know that she has had many sex partners. When she's drunk, she'll talk about her better experiences. She has told me about dudes she's done who were horrible in bed. I'm always good with it. I've never judged her for what she's done in her past. Sometimes she'll get very graphic about what she's done with whom. The more graphic her descriptions, the more horny she becomes. It does get her extremely horny to talk about dudes she's banged. She's told me about dudes who she has allowed to bang her butt. According to her, she's an anal sex expert. Maybe some day I'll have to experience her anal sex skills.

My question, Ted, is whether you've regretted watching your wife or g/f doing other dudes. If I were to fulfill her fantasy, what could I expect?

She is the best sex I've ever had, which is one of the things I most love about her. She'll do anything I ask. She's told me that she's always been submissive to men who've asked her to perform specific sex acts.

What she wants, what incites her sexual passion to unbelievable limits is when she fantasizes about being treated like a porn star by many men.

Here's my thought: she's reaching the end of her sexual prime. I think she wants to do everything she can while she still craves sex, and maybe relive a time long ago when she might've been used by men as a porn star.

I have to think this completely through. I would not want to deprive her of her sexual fantasies due to my inability to cope with what they might be.

As you can tell, I've been giving this a lot of thought, especially after she asked if I knew of swingers clubs. She was telling me that she wants it. I can't believe I considering letting her explore her fantasy in reality. If she were to come out with, "Take me to a swingers club," I'm more on the side of taking her. Believe me, I've never thought I would even think about watching other dudes porn star my g/f. But if it's what she wants to do, I'll probably go along.

BTW, I know that multiple male partners is a very common female fantasy.

Ted, what do you think?

[muffin70]

I've sometimes fantasised about a threesome with my wife
FFM - with my wife and one of her ex work friends.... wife knows I find her ex work friend attractive, but she has 3 kids and her life is very complicated
MMF - with my wife and another man - particularly a dark skinned man (west African or similar) with a large member, who is pleasuring my wife from behind, then withdraws and ejaculates a big load over wife's bottom.
I have told wife about the MMF fantasy but she thinks I'm weird for thinking about something like that

[ClaireKay]

Have any women tried mfm..?

I have many times.
I do prefer FFF though.

[PollyQ]

I'd be open to a MFM, MFF, FFF

[Cynthia Rodriguez]

You don't think it will be a good time for her or for you? There is no reason to be afraid of the strippers -- do you think it is a trap? That she will be upset if you are too into it? That you would disappoint her if you are too into it? It could also be that you do not want to see that side of her (too wild?)

My guess is that she is exploring the sexuality of the two of you as a couple. Maybe to get you (and her) as horny (I hate that word) as possible and then spend the rest of the night satisfying each other. Give it a chance. The two of you can always leave and have a nice dinner at any one of the zillion great restaurants in Vegas.

Why are you so negative. It's obvious you are so against it as you feel its morally wrong. Well not for everyone and some people have a high sex drive and like to experiment and try new exciting things. I have been married for many years and yes I been involved in many mmf, mfm, and other exciting things. I normally don't comment but you just being so negative and disrespectful towards others who are curious of this open life style. Just because you may not have the confidence doesn't mean you should tell others it is wrong and you will be a bad person if you do this. Maybe you are not fit or feel good about yourself.

I am in a happy marriage and have kids, house and yes I like to sleep with other men and my husband supports it. I can tell you it will bring you and your wife closer if she is with other men. So i guess i am a bad person like effy tells us all because i love sex and not just with husband. Another thing some husband are not that gifted in the size department so why should they not enjoy it with others men who are more gifted. My husband was the the one who kept bringing it up for years until we finally did it. All I can tell you is why didnt I do this sooner haha.

There is nothing wrong with your wife sleeping with other men as long as she is willing to try new things, have fun and enjoy it. It will give a women confidence. It makes me want to stay fit and in shape since I see other men regularly. My life has been more exciting and better. I dont have to stay home and just be stuck in same day over and over and over and over! You won't know if this is for you until you try it. If you try it and dont like it then you at least tried it, but nothing is more exciting then the touch of another man who may be more endowed then what you are with.

Sorry because I dont ever comment on people but when I read someone who is bashing other women consistently who may be curious or have a desire they should not be looked down on as bad people like some are trying to do to anyone who is curious. The reason you are reading this is because you are interested in the idea your husband has offered you. Take advantage of the offer and this way you have no regret. It is not cheating if your husband is begging for you to sleep with others lol. Go for it and have fun. Most women might be afraid they will enjoy it to much. I dont dislike you effy but have an open mind and not be so harsh on others who life this life style. It's not nice.

If anyone has question don't be afraid to ask me. I will give you my honest experience on why its nothing to be scared of. Dont listen to negative jealous people who have no feelings for others who are curious open minded people looking help about this desire stirring inside them.

Again sorry to effy but I had to say something.

[Cynthia Rodriguez]

I've sometimes fantasised about a threesome with my wife
FFM - with my wife and one of her ex work friends.... wife knows I find her ex work friend attractive, but she has 3 kids and her life is very complicated
MMF - with my wife and another man - particularly a dark skinned man (west African or similar) with a large member, who is pleasuring my wife from behind, then withdraws and ejaculates a big load over wife's bottom.
I have told wife about the MMF fantasy but she thinks I'm weird for thinking about something like that

I used to say that to my husband that he is weird when he first started telling me his fantasies, but he never gave up and I am happy he didn't lol.

[WaveRider]

Doing two dudes is a very common female fantasy.

My ex-g/f used to fantasize about it a lot. She has asked me -a lot- to bring another dude into bed with us. I didn't. I know she was hyper-sexual (under statement) during her promiscuous college years. Hence, I later gave thought to the notion that she had done two dudes, maybe more than once.

I can't write that I didn't consider it. She has said that she has always been able to outlast any b/f she has had. So two young studs might've taken her to her limit. I'd of bet on her.

I've known more than a few cuckolds. They have said that it was extremely erotic and a huge turn-on to watch their wives/girlfriends being worked like cheap porn stars by another man or other men.