[Bpariley]

Crazy idea here but maybe you should spend some time apart. You can see if life gets better or worse without him, and maybe he'll appreciate you more when you're suddenly not always there.

i wish it was an option i really do, it sucks that i even feel or wish that...but he also literally has no where to go. he leaves for up to 6 months for work the beginning of january and my thought is we should be enjoying and appreciating this time we have before he's gone but now i just wish he'd leave for the very reason you mentioned.

it's truly exhausting to me.

[Bpariley]

well the beans spilled he's been talking to and seeking out other women more so since we moved to another city.

[atskitty2]

What? How did you find this out?

[jen1447]

Well that sucks, but now at least you know.

[Bpariley]

What? How did you find this out?

i was contacted by a girl he's been trying very hard to communicate with, regardless of her position at least she had the decency to be like you should see what your man is sending me... and of course upon asking he denied it flipped out on me and i just walked away a conscious must have eaten at him and so he let me know and showed me how many others there have been

[jen1447]

well that explains everything. Let him go and don't look back.

btw, breast enhancement is great if that's what you want (other thread), but please don't do that as a knee-jerk reaction to being duped by this guy. Seriously, it has more to do with him (being a shltbird) than there being anything 'wrong' with you. That's just how some guys roll.

[Stillness]

Well that sucks, but now at least you know.

^This. You found out what some people only find out after they're married, have a house and kids together and much more than two years invested. Congratulations.

Now for the second half of the battle, do you make yourself believe that you can make him honest if you try harder or do you cut your losses?

[atskitty2]

Well, I'm sorry. I agree with jen, about the breast job. I don't want to jump to a conclusion that you're looking into that option to somehow please him or make him jealous, or that it's any way related to what's going on with him...but please don't make a decision like that at this time.

[Bpariley]

well that explains everything. Let him go and don't look back.

btw, breast enhancement is great if that's what you want (other thread), but please don't do that as a knee-jerk reaction to being duped by this guy. Seriously, it has more to do with him (being a shltbird) than there being anything 'wrong' with you. That's just how some guys roll.

haha thanks girl but the boobs have nothing to do with him and everything to do with me. after 2 kids weight loss and crappy genes i'm ready for my boobs back!!

[Bpariley]

Well, I'm sorry. I agree with jen, about the breast job. I don't want to jump to a conclusion that you're looking into that option to somehow please him or make him jealous, or that it's any way related to what's going on with him...but please don't make a decision like that at this time.

i've literally been saving for a boob job for years and am getting close to being able to do it. i don't have the best of credit so i really cant get on a payment plan and i'd rather just pay for it all outright than worrying about budgeting another bill. so i've had my boob funds for years, that way if i EVER changed my mind i'd at least have had money saved and its given me time to really make sure that its what i want to do and after 4 years i've still not changed my mind i'm set in stone...