[atskitty2]

Hi JonDoe!
If you read a few posts in, you will see that I discouraged this, especially if her hubby was not on board for it.
She told him and he was fine with it. I still discouraged it, but she chose to go ahead. This discussion progressed beyond her playfulness with this boy, to our chatting about our own undies. We're just having fun here amongst ourselves now.

But fwiw, to offer more info...I don't agree with some things my friends choose to do (or strangers on this forum) but I can still laugh with them about it, or be a shoulder for them if it goes wrong. My opinion is just my opinion for Gill here. I have no real reason to take it personally if anyone doesn't agree with me or take my advice.

If this were a married man wanting to flirt so heavily with a woman, of any age, I like to think I'd ask the same question and discourage it just the same. But bottom line is, if his wife knew and had no problem with it, I wouldn't be bothered by his decision because he wasn't doing anything wrong against his wife, as I see it. If they have that open of a relationship, then no trust for either parties was violated. There's honesty and openness and that's my sticking point.

I'm not sure whose post you were actually addressing here, but I hope that offers some insight into my own intentions/thoughts here.
And lest my tone be misinterpreted, nothing said rudely or combatively or even defensively.

[jen1447]

I'm all talk ladies, when it comes to the panties exchange. A little too much loss if anonymity too soon for me
Although I suppose I could simply not put a return address ....lol

OMG, that's actually a really good idea!

Jen - I told him! He's off work today and currently wearing my knickers. He didn't seem keen, but when I took mine off this morning,(which gave him a little show) he push them on. They are french knickers, so a little like shorts, didn't want to start him on a thong! It is quite a turn on for me, not sure about him though.

That's great hon. If you're serious about this tho, you should put him in a thong before long so he doesn't get the idea the whole thing was a fluke.

And in all honesty, I said about the knickers exchange as a joke, but then when you said you were up for it, I could quite excited by the idea of actually doing it! Were you really serious?

I have to admit the idea is rather exciting , tho I doubt WOF wants to become a brokerage house for panties exchanges!

~

Jon, stop being such a buzz kill, jeez. The original thread topic is old news now.

[JonDoe]

Jon, stop being such a buzz kill, jeez. The original thread topic is old news now.

Buzz kill? Really? Simply by asking how others felt if the roles were reversed and if there is a double standard here... Clearly grown women fantasizing about exchanging their soiled panties via mail has a higher agenda. By all means, continue hijacking the original posters thread, but let's not forget that she opened with "I'm after some advice" not "Who wants to send me her soiled panties."

[atskitty2]

Jon, did you read the thread beginning to end? The initial question was answered, done and updated even. Nobody hijacked anything. OP actually asked additional questions about knickers and suggested the exchange herself...relax. If you find our chat to be offensive, click back and ignore us. It's that simple.

[Justice]

I have to kind of defend JonDoe a bit.
I do think that he kind of had a legitimate point about ASKING about a different reaction if a 37 y.o. married guy was interacting the same way with an 18 y.o. young woman. (babysitter/employee)

In general - I do think that it is a very common attitude that looks differently about younger men versus younger women.
It seems that Gill's hubby had talked to her about threesomes - so they seemed to be pretty open - and if I read through the posts correctly this was about feeding fantasies with no bodily contact.

But I bet most people would be kind of disturbed if their 18 y.o. offspring were fantasizing about the parent of the kids they babysat and the parent was leading them on. (atskitty did posts initially discouraging, but to the relax comments and the others, I say c'mon give Jon a break. I think he did put a new light on this. On the other hand - am I at a third hand? - the OP was wanting to feed her fantasy and his. ??? dang I don't know.........)

(I am actually kind of sensitive on being "teased" by someone who has no intention of acting on it.)

[atskitty2]

I answered respectfully his legitimate question about a double standard. I meant that he relax in suggesting some higher agenda in our discussion of panties exchange. What agenda does he mean? And I don't quite understand why he's offended by it enough to comment in this way.
I totally get his question first but his response to Jen had me a little puzzled.

[Justice]

I answered respectfully his legitimate question about a double standard. I meant that he relax in suggesting some higher agenda in our discussion of panties exchange. What agenda does he mean? And I don't quite understand why he's offended by it enough to comment in this way.
I totally get his question first but his response to Jen had me a little puzzled.

I answered respectfully his legitimate question about a double standard

Yes you did
(The second part I didn't really understand - it seemed to be just a bit of defensiveness by a couple of posters?)

[JonDoe]

I have no issue with the topic of panty exchange among women. Whatever floats your boat. I'm not here to judge and I believe my posts consistently reflect that.

However, I was a bit offended by being called a buzz kill for asking serious questions related to the original posters thread. I realize the original post was over a month ago, but I have been away from the site for a while nor do I visit daily. The word agenda was a wrong choice; I should have used significance instead.

I answered respectfully his legitimate question about a double standard.

Yes, you did respond to my post respectfully, which I genuinely appreciate.

[GillT]

JonDoe, I appreciate your advice/comment regarding the OP. It was a little late as the whole thing had finished then, but I do see the issue of double standards here. Although, do remember, it was the teenage guy who first made the advances towards me, rather than the other way around. Of course I indulged him, but he is 18 and (in the UK at least) an adult. Would there be any issue if I was 50 and he 28?

Let's not turn this into an argument.

Now lets get back to discussing underwear! What's your preference JonDoe? Both for yourself and on a woman.

[jen1447]

Now you're talking.

There's a fabric used in one of the brands that used to drive me wild...smooth and soft. Holy cow, that was nice.

kitty, I meant to ask - was this UnderArmour by any chance? That's kind of a high end sports type underwear, the BF wears it and I like the fabric like you describe, even tho it's not really 'sexy' underwear.