[Tenstion]

Hi All

Recently I asked my wife how does she feels our overall sexual life for last few years. She said if I can keep myself hard and survive little bit more, it would be great.

Any thoughts how to overcome this situation here ?

[Stillness]

Kegels.

[JonDoe]

Kegels, breathing and muscle relaxation are key, as is occasionally changing depth, angle and tempo while thrusting. Most guys let the tension build only in the groin, which hastens ejaculation. With proper breathing and relaxing your muscles (except the PC muscles of course), you can learn to draw the sexual energy into your entire body, which can help you to last longer. Gently tugging the balls down and away from the body can occasionally help too. Also slow your roll. If you get too excited you'll earn a lifetime membership to the Minute Man club. Unfortunately, this can be easier said than done for guys that aren't getting action regularly. Try to change your mindset; don't approach sex as a typical goal oriented male. Enjoy the journey as much as the destination. Start practicing with her on top doing most of the work. Focus on how it feels when her hair brushes against your face, ears and neck. Pull her in closer and focus on how it feels to have her breasts gently rubbing against your chest. Listening to her breathing. Try to relax every muscle in your body. Practice by yourself and together with your partner and you will be on your way to lasting as long as you and she are comfortable.

[rcoreyus]

Sadly as you get older, erection problems are likely to get worse. I think the key is to find additional things you can do to please her, make intercourse just on part of lovemaking, not view it as the only thing that matters.

[Tenstion]

Hey Jondoe

Thaks for your detailed response.

I find it hard to do kegels. Yes, I try to calm down, we enjoy each other. I enjoy her body and so she does. We play around with each other. We listen to each other.

Sometime I use my finger first and then do the actual intercourse hence she feels most satisfied. But she really enjoy when I just do it by myself and stay longer and hard.

I just came to this forum to see if I can have any thoughts to see where exactly I can improve and how.

[JonDoe]

Kegels are easy and can be done anywhere at anytime. If you find it hard to do, then perhaps you are either trying to hard or going about it all wrong. If you can stop your urine stream, then you can do Kegels. Perhaps the best time is while driving, standing in line, in a boring meeting or during commercials.