[polly95]

my husband said to come to his work at lunchtime for his break because his office has a lock.
i like to and its fun but just wondering if its a good idea or not because hubby was treated for sexual addiction (before i met him) and lost his job because of masterbaring at work.
is it ok for me to do or am i causing a problum?
what would you do?
thanks!

[jen1447]

It all depends on the situation. If he has a lock and privacy, it can be a nice thrill and a boost to your sex life. Is his 'sexual addiction' under control? I assume that treatment for that is not to abstain from sex.

As far as masturbation goes, it's probably a bit unfair but I suspect businesses would be more likely to react poorly to that from men than women if it was discovered. Both for practical reasons (penis out, presumably) and gender biased ones (it's thought of as creepy for men to do solo sex stuff alone most times, women not so much). Plus we can be much more discreet about it.

[polly95]

It all depends on the situation. If he has a lock and privacy, it can be a nice thrill and a boost to your sex life. Is his 'sexual addiction' under control? I assume that treatment for that is not to abstain from sex.

As far as masturbation goes, it's probably a bit unfair but I suspect businesses would be more likely to react poorly to that from men than women if it was discovered. Both for practical reasons (penis out, presumably) and gender biased ones (it's thought of as creepy for men to do solo sex stuff alone most times, women not so much). Plus we can be much more discreet about it.

i guess its under control, but i'm not sure of details cos he is vague about the therapy :/
he touches my underwear in the street is the only thing i'm not sure of. but nobody sees so its ok i guess.
i'm scared that if someone at his work figures out what i'm doing there.
i keep clothes in my mouth so there is no sound at least.

[rcoreyus]

It depends a lot on the work environment. At a previous job there was a couple that thought they were being discrete, but gradually got less careful. Management found out and while no one was fired, I think it was viewed as negative. I think a once in a while thing as a exciting lark is OK, but if it starts to become a regular activity it could lead to trouble. Its generally best to keep ones professional and personal life separate.

[polly95]

It depends a lot on the work environment. At a previous job there was a couple that thought they were being discrete, but gradually got less careful. Management found out and while no one was fired, I think it was viewed as negative. I think a once in a while thing as a exciting lark is OK, but if it starts to become a regular activity it could lead to trouble. Its generally best to keep ones professional and personal life separate.

yep so true, it is too much maybe. wish he could work at home. i remember one time i did not go to his work for lunch and then he came home at night and his black boxers had those silver lines from dreaming that boys get. anyway maybe i could get a job there

[Justice]

I worked at a place where a "now" married couple worked. Both had been married and cheating on their spouses in the office. It really made some co-workers VERY uncomfortable with them having sex at the office. They thought they were being discrete - but far from it. What made it worse for the co-workers was the fact that most others would have been fired for this behavior in the office, except that he had management in a tough position (he was the only one who knew that job)

So OP. playing around in the office may seem like fun - but evaluate how discrete you two really are being. And how much he needs/wants to keep the job.

[polly95]

I worked at a place where a "now" married couple worked. Both had been married and cheating on their spouses in the office. It really made some co-workers VERY uncomfortable with them having sex at the office. They thought they were being discrete - but far from it. What made it worse for the co-workers was the fact that most others would have been fired for this behavior in the office, except that he had management in a tough position (he was the only one who knew that job)

So OP. playing around in the office may seem like fun - but evaluate how discrete you two really are being. And how much he needs/wants to keep the job.

thank its a good idea i will ask him about if its safe/discrete

[DreamP346]

If your husband gets caught, it is grounds for immediate firing. Plus you never know what might happen. What if the fire alarm goes off and you had to run out half naked. Work is one area I do not mess around with.

[polly95]

If your husband gets caught, it is grounds for immediate firing. Plus you never know what might happen. What if the fire alarm goes off and you had to run out half naked. Work is one area I do not mess around with.

i've never seen/heard the fire alarm if there is one.
my husband was fired from a job before met him but no girl was there.
seems unfair :/
i talked to him and he said we can try on skype.

[JonDoe]

If your husband gets caught, it is grounds for immediate firing. Plus you never know what might happen. What if the fire alarm goes off and you had to run out half naked. Work is one area I do not mess around with.

I totally agree about not messing around in the workplace, even though I have had a similar fantasy. I have a home office that I have worked from for many years and a few months ago asked my wife to dress up in sexy lingerie, heels and a faux fur coat and meet me at the office. It was very hot! Maybe something like this will work or you could tell him to meet you at a hotel near his office.

I don't have any direct or indirect experience with sexual addiction so I can't offer any related advice. However, given that he has already been fired once for sexual activity, I think makes a stronger case for making the workplace off limits.