[JonDoe]

I agree with Jen and rcoreyus.

For many men the reason they do not say things is because they know their wives, they know how they feel about certain things and they know if their wife is definitely not the type to be open to certain things.

I rarely bring it up simply because I know my wife refuses to talk about anything related to sexual intimacy. Trying to have a discussion about physical intimacy will result in an argument regardless of the specifics. However, even after more than twenty years I do not think I fully know my wife because she refuses to open up, and she is by no means a shy person. I know she has fantasies because she is human, but she refuses to share anything. I occasionally try new things that I think will bring her pleasure, but she has never once done so for me.

My wife claims that she does not like to give a BJ because it does nothing for her and because she lacks the experience. We have been together for 25 years, yet she still lacks experience in pleasuring me sexually. Her lack of initiate and self-centered nature are the only things standing in her way. Well, that about sums it up doesn't it?

[ItsASecret]

I rarely bring it up simply because I know my wife refuses to talk about anything related to sexual intimacy. Trying to have a discussion about physical intimacy will result in an argument regardless of the specifics. However, even after more than twenty years I do not think I fully know my wife because she refuses to open up, and she is by no means a shy person. I know she has fantasies because she is human, but she refuses to share anything. I occasionally try new things that I think will bring her pleasure, but she has never once done so for me.

My wife claims that she does not like to give a BJ because it does nothing for her and because she lacks the experience. We have been together for 25 years, yet she still lacks experience in pleasuring me sexually. Her lack of initiate and self-centered nature are the only things standing in her way. Well, that about sums it up doesn't it?

Yeah that is what I mean. You know your wife. In your case you know she will not even talk about so it is essentially at the point of "why bother mentioning a fantasy". That is not healthy for a relationship of course. The only one who can open up is your wife, she knows why she will not make mention of anything. Maybe she thinks you will believe her ideas are too tame and thus not worthy of a fantasy, maybe they are way out in left field and she could be worried that you will laugh or be too shocked, maybe she believes the conversation is pointless because she may think you have your own idea of what a fantasy should entail, maybe she honestly does not have anything that she believes is an actual fantasy. The possibilities are endless as to why and unfortunately only she knows that information. How you can get her to open up even slowly bit by bit I do not know, I am sure you have tried it all with no luck. I wish I could help you because I can related in a sense to your wife but I would not know where to even begin if she is not willing to even say 10 words before bed for example.

[bienvenotto]

My wife claims that she does not like to give a BJ because it does nothing for her and because she lacks the experience. We have been together for 25 years, yet she still lacks experience in pleasuring me sexually. Her lack of initiate and self-centered nature are the only things standing in her way. Well, that about sums it up doesn't it?

I guess you got a point. And maybe, my point. Or better, her point.
In case, she refuses to give a BJ cause exactly the same thing of yours. It´s kinda frustrating, sometimes. I mean, there´s nothing in licking a girl's *****. For me it's 'part of the thing' giving her good pleasure with it, which she never refuses.

[HerHusband]

I agree with this one. My wife wants to have outdoor sex as one of the fantasies she will admit to. I think there are others but she wont go there yet.