[Motorguy]

That reminds me of another discussion from a while ago we were supposed to follow up on, basically the question of why this is. I read somewhere that men might find it sexually arousing for the women in their lives to be mated with by other men purely on a biological level due to the impetus to compete when sexual rivals are around. In other words, you see a rival mating with a female ('yours') and your instinct is to mate as well if possible so as to have your sperm at least compete with his. Being as we're not animals anymore tho, this response has little practical value with modern humans, however that impracticality doesn't stop the biological response. But it also leads to the appearance of a cuckolded man who is unable to stop himself being aroused at the sight of his woman mating with a rival.


Any thoughts on this, men of WHF? (Women too.) I'll admit it always puzzled me a bit as to why some guys would find their wives or GFs doing other men 'hot.'

Well there is many women who enjoy watching there husband or boy friends with another women, only if they can join in on the action. And then we are in a whole other fantasy with a guy with two women at the same time.

[effy2014]

That reminds me of another discussion from a while ago we were supposed to follow up on, basically the question of why this is. I read somewhere that men might find it sexually arousing for the women in their lives to be mated with by other men purely on a biological level due to the impetus to compete when sexual rivals are around. In other words, you see a rival mating with a female ('yours') and your instinct is to mate as well if possible so as to have your sperm at least compete with his. Being as we're not animals anymore tho, this response has little practical value with modern humans, however that impracticality doesn't stop the biological response. But it also leads to the appearance of a cuckolded man who is unable to stop himself being aroused at the sight of his woman mating with a rival.

Any thoughts on this, men of WHF? (Women too.) I'll admit it always puzzled me a bit as to why some guys would find their wives or GFs doing other men 'hot.'

Puzzles me as well. I think the emotional reality would be far more difficult than the fantasy. I know that I wouldn't be able to get the picture out of my brain -- someone else being intimate with my SO. I suppose that intimacy means more to me than the immediate pleasure one gets from it. Maybe its my age . . . .

[Motorguy]

That reminds me of another discussion from a while ago we were supposed to follow up on, basically the question of why this is. I read somewhere that men might find it sexually arousing for the women in their lives to be mated with by other men purely on a biological level due to the impetus to compete when sexual rivals are around. In other words, you see a rival mating with a female ('yours') and your instinct is to mate as well if possible so as to have your sperm at least compete with his. Being as we're not animals anymore tho, this response has little practical value with modern humans, however that impracticality doesn't stop the biological response. But it also leads to the appearance of a cuckolded man who is unable to stop himself being aroused at the sight of his woman mating with a rival.

Any thoughts on this, men of WHF? (Women too.) I'll admit it always puzzled me a bit as to why some guys would find their wives or GFs doing other men 'hot.'

Well you can add this as well why do some white men husband want to watch there wife be bred by a BBC. With the chance of wife getting pregnant by the BBC. I am not sure if this is only a fantasy or there hoping this happen and not understand the real life situation of having a bi racial baby this could be real. I shake my head trying to understand the reasoning of this whole idea.

[jen1447]

What is a "white men husband?" Also I assume by "BBC" you mean as it's used on porn sites ....it's a bit objectifying and distasteful to refer to black men in any real life context as "BBC."

[Motorguy]

What is a "white men husband?" Also I assume by "BBC" you mean as it's used on porn sites ....it's a bit objectifying and distasteful to refer to black men in any real life context as "BBC."

No it's what the people who live this life style use I can't spell out the words it be censor that's why.

[Something_Awesome]

This thread inspired me to ask my GF about having me watch her have sex with other dudes (actually was uncomfortable to bring up because I knew she'd accuse me of having this fantasy if I did bring it up). I know from prior convos in general that she does not have a thing for black dudes or "BBC" (the British Broadcasting Corporation). With regards to her having sex with other men, she said "hell no."

And that's a good thing in my book. I think I know why some guys like this type of thing. I think it's just a higher tier of wanting to feel sexually submissive. Like the guy is being degraded/belittled. And perhaps because a white lady and black guy doing is taboo. And the guy wants to vicariously experience that taboo sex. Actually, what gets perplex's me more is why a married woman would be down for such an arrangement.

[jen1447]

I actually get the second part, and I think the two are tied in. The women I know who live this way are dominant by nature - not really as a kink, but genuinely. They don't settle, and they prioritize their own pleasure. Meanwhile their men tend to be submissive, and they enjoy being treated like that. (The fact that these two types of people tend get together is not likely an accident, although some women do make their initially aggressive men submit to them.) So it's definitely a plus for the women - they get to have great sex with lots of men while being married/committed and it's not really cheating because their husbands/BFs aren't just aware of it, they encourage it. At the same time they don't have to worry about their men sleeping around because they're submissive and don't really have the balls to do that anyway. So they get lots a great sex and a special charge out of being totally in control of a relationship that appeals to their sensibilities, and their men basically just work to promote her best interests to keep her in control. If you're dominant by nature, this can be an extremely heady feeling overall.

The tie-in is that the reason this is happening more and more I surmise is that women are becoming more dominant in general in western society, but there's always a counter effect, which is that men are thus becoming more submissive in general. The most interesting question then imo is why is that happening.

[Motorguy]

I actually get the second part, and I think the two are tied in. The women I know who live this way are dominant by nature - not really as a kink, but genuinely. They don't settle, and they prioritize their own pleasure. Meanwhile their men tend to be submissive, and they enjoy being treated like that. (The fact that these two types of people tend get together is not likely an accident, although some women do make their initially aggressive men submit to them.) So it's definitely a plus for the women - they get to have great sex with lots of men while being married/committed and it's not really cheating because their husbands/BFs aren't just aware of it, they encourage it. At the same time they don't have to worry about their men sleeping around because they're submissive and don't really have the balls to do that anyway. So they get lots a great sex and a special charge out of being totally in control of a relationship that appeals to their sensibilities, and their men basically just work to promote her best interests to keep her in control. If you're dominant by nature, this can be an extremely heady feeling overall.

The tie-in is that the reason this is happening more and more I surmise is that women are becoming more dominant in general in western society, but there's always a counter effect, which is that men are thus becoming more submissive in general. The most interesting question then imo is why is that happening.

Very well said Jenn you pretty much right on what you said. What I don't understand is why some husband or boy friend have to talk there wife or girl friend into trying this type of life style with BBC it's really mind boggling to say the least.

[Sonny]

That reminds me of another discussion from a while ago we were supposed to follow up on, basically the question of why this is. I read somewhere that men might find it sexually arousing for the women in their lives to be mated with by other men purely on a biological level due to the impetus to compete when sexual rivals are around. In other words, you see a rival mating with a female ('yours') and your instinct is to mate as well if possible so as to have your sperm at least compete with his. Being as we're not animals anymore tho, this response has little practical value with modern humans, however that impracticality doesn't stop the biological response. But it also leads to the appearance of a cuckolded man who is unable to stop himself being aroused at the sight of his woman mating with a rival. Any thoughts on this, men of WHF? (Women too.) I'll admit it always puzzled me a bit as to why some guys would find their wives or GFs doing other men 'hot.'

I think your zoological analysis makes a lot of sense...but no....I don't have such fantasies....I even have a hard time watching porn with men in it.

[Something_Awesome]

I actually get the second part, and I think the two are tied in. The women I know who live this way are dominant by nature - not really as a kink, but genuinely. They don't settle, and they prioritize their own pleasure. Meanwhile their men tend to be submissive, and they enjoy being treated like that. (The fact that these two types of people tend get together is not likely an accident, although some women do make their initially aggressive men submit to them.) So it's definitely a plus for the women - they get to have great sex with lots of men while being married/committed and it's not really cheating because their husbands/BFs aren't just aware of it, they encourage it. At the same time they don't have to worry about their men sleeping around because they're submissive and don't really have the balls to do that anyway. So they get lots a great sex and a special charge out of being totally in control of a relationship that appeals to their sensibilities, and their men basically just work to promote her best interests to keep her in control. If you're dominant by nature, this can be an extremely heady feeling overall.

The tie-in is that the reason this is happening more and more I surmise is that women are becoming more dominant in general in western society, but there's always a counter effect, which is that men are thus becoming more submissive in general. The most interesting question then imo is why is that happening.

That's a very academic response... I don't think anyone can have a rebuttle to that. I will take this answer.