[jen1447]

Yeah, you're right - I was mainly thinking some personal real life situation where some guy was trying to "stand with his legs astride my hips and blah-blah." Um ......yeah no.

[Trixareforkids]

Backing my girl ....I got that vibe too tho I mainly find it funny when guys get like that.

At work, a bar, whatever mixed social group I can shake my head and laugh them off too, but in a place like this where people are coming to ask for advice no. F--- No! Keep your poison to yourself, we're here for healing/growth, at least that's how I view this forum.

[jen1447]

Backing my girl ....I got that vibe too tho I mainly find it funny when guys get like that. Comeuppances are really hard to take when ego doesn't leave a lot of room for them lol.

[Trixareforkids]

Maybe we can start a post about women riding mens' faces, in a rather dominant position? I'm cool with it

That'd be a good post If this is referring to my offense at PhrendlyPhil's post however, it wasn't the act he was describing that I have a problem with, I enjoy vanilla subbing, it was entirely about the chauvinistic way in which he presented his suggestion and his chauvinistic attitude across all the posts. This is a women's forum, if you have no respect for women you shouldn't be here in my opinion. And it is my estimation, from his comments, that he has no respect for women beyond whichever one is servicing HIS needs. Stopping now before I get nasty.

[Archer]

Maybe we can start a post about women riding mens' faces, in a rather dominant position? I'm cool with it

[Trixareforkids]

Its much easier if you adopt a male dominant position. Try this technique: Have her sit or kneel in front of you. Stand with your legs astride her hips. Have her use one or both hands in unison with her mouth (using LOTS of saliva on the hand(s)). This will create a sense of depth and envelopment for you. Have her make eye contact with you. Between her mouth/hand work and your undulations she should be able to get you off in about 2 minutes flat. Let it go, let it go!

I'm generally not easily offended and after re-reading the physical description and finding no problem with it in a stand-alone setting, I found this post offensive.

So... I took a moment to analyze what it was that caused my repugnance and it's all about phrasing and what that phrasing implies to me. PhrendlyPhil it may be unconscious or unintentional but your phrasing implies actual dominance rather than role-play dominance. Make, have her, have her make, for you, your undulations should be able to get you off. The tone and phrasing you use show a complete disregard for the other person involved in the act and THAT is what I find offensive.

I would ask others to chime in on this as I have felt it, to a lesser degree on other posts you've made and if it is an emerging pattern I would ask what is to be done.

[PhrendlyPhil]

Its much easier if you adopt a male dominant position. Try this technique: Have her sit or kneel in front of you. Stand with your legs astride her hips. Have her use one or both hands in unison with her mouth (using LOTS of saliva on the hand(s)). This will create a sense of depth and envelopment for you. Have her make eye contact with you. Between her mouth/hand work and your undulations she should be able to get you off in about 2 minutes flat. Let it go, let it go!

[Archer]

I would say nobody always wants the same thing all the time. Yes I enjoy seeing a girl down on her knees, looking up at me with those eyes, sucking my **** like there's no tomorrow; it's a very powerful, dominating position.

Then again, sometimes it's nice to hear a girl say "shut the f up and let me do my job", put my hands behind my head, close my eyes, cover my ears, and let her do her thing.

I personally prefer 69ing above all else. Nothing beats getting head with a hot vag in your face.

I will say that laying down on my back in bed is very very hard for me to cum from oral as well. Unless I have said vag in my face.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ok little Ms. Detective here lol ....I'm betting physiology. You got very few BJs from your ex wife, does that mean you masturbated a lot? I think most guys masturbate to porn, so that most likely means sitting at your computer desk at 2:00 a.m. lol, which means a sitting position ....just like when you sat in the love seat and it worked. In other words, you may have inadvertently taken yourself out of your physiological comfort zone by getting oral while lying in bed.

Stop being a witch, that's my job This is what I was thinking as well.

To add though, you state your wife didn't really like to do them but they were great. Your girlfriend does like to do them and you have trouble unless it's in an un-expected spot.

So my thoughts there are. Your ex-wife did them for you... And, that is what makes the difference. Your girlfriend has no problem full stop.

[Motorguy]

Well I know I enjoy sensory deprivation sex on occasion, think it's time to find out if hubby will to.

If you anything like my wife and your hubby is like me we will be happy what ever you want to do with us sexually lol.