[muffin70]

and I sure as hell don't want this one to go down that track.... she is my rock, she is a sexy voluptious woman and I plan on being with her for the rest of my life!

[Trixareforkids]

thanks - I did sort of have a conversation with my wife last night.... as usual she sat on the couch and watched the TV programs she had recorded.... funnily enough we watched a documentary on obese couples who had lost weight, but had also lost their relationships (split up) because they became different people after losing weight.
then she must have fallen asleep while watching the late news, as I went out to tell her I was getting ready for bed and she was snoring on the couch (this happens 1-2 times a week with her).
Anyway we went to bed and I asked her if everything was ok and is she feeling well... I told her it has been about a month since we last had any sex and her reply was "it hasn't been that long"... when I said it had she then said her knee has been very sore (which is true), but I reminded her I have a sore shoulder (frozen shoulder if you want to google it) and said the signals for getting turned on and wanting sex come from the brain and even though I have a sore shoulder I still get turned on.
then she said "well if you didn't spend all the time on the computer...." as if it was all my fault? So I reminded her that the only reason I spend that time on the computer is because she watches 2-3 TV programs that I don't like.... and I'm hardly going sit with her and watch 1 hour of Eastenders (british soap opera) when I can't stand that program!
She said tonight will be different as there are programs we both like on a Friday night, so we can sit together and watch them.... so hopefully I can turn the TV off after these programs and as can sit and talk about things.... or better still, go to the bedroom and kiss and cuddle (and hopefully make love!)

Try to avoid the *** for tat stuff, well I do this because you do that. It may be true, but it's not helpful and puts you both on the defensive. If you can, try to keep bringing it back to the togetherness, forget what you HAVE been doing and ask/tell about what you'd LIKE to be doing and you'll both be more at ease and it'll take your minds to pleasant places and away from the frustration. Then you need to move from what you'd like to be doing to how to go about actually doing it. Keep in mind that you're trying to improve things and rather than talking about what's NOT working, talking about what you'd like to be doing or have happening and how to go about that is the only way to actually have change happen. It won't guarantee that it does but it will at least open the door to the possibility.

[Claret]

thanks - I did sort of have a conversation with my wife last night.... as usual she sat on the couch and watched the TV programs she had recorded.... funnily enough we watched a documentary on obese couples who had lost weight, but had also lost their relationships (split up) because they became different people after losing weight.
then she must have fallen asleep while watching the late news, as I went out to tell her I was getting ready for bed and she was snoring on the couch (this happens 1-2 times a week with her).
Anyway we went to bed and I asked her if everything was ok and is she feeling well... I told her it has been about a month since we last had any sex and her reply was "it hasn't been that long"... when I said it had she then said her knee has been very sore (which is true), but I reminded her I have a sore shoulder (frozen shoulder if you want to google it) and said the signals for getting turned on and wanting sex come from the brain and even though I have a sore shoulder I still get turned on.
then she said "well if you didn't spend all the time on the computer...." as if it was all my fault? So I reminded her that the only reason I spend that time on the computer is because she watches 2-3 TV programs that I don't like.... and I'm hardly going sit with her and watch 1 hour of Eastenders (british soap opera) when I can't stand that program!
She said tonight will be different as there are programs we both like on a Friday night, so we can sit together and watch them.... so hopefully I can turn the TV off after these programs and as can sit and talk about things.... or better still, go to the bedroom and kiss and cuddle (and hopefully make love!)

Why does she have to watch her recorded shows on a Friday evening? Is there nothing you can think of to get the two of you away from the TV, heck away from the house. Even if you went out to a movie, you'd be out together doing something as a couple. She can always watch her recorded shows on Saturday morning or Saturday evening or any other time.

Are you financially able to go out for a night?

[muffin70]

Bit of an update.... Friday night we were watching TV and there was about 10 minutes before the next program we usually watch comes on and my wife looked at me and said "do you want to go to the bedroom for some lovey doveys'? (as she calls it) Well I didn't need asking twice did I??
She was very turned on and came within 4-5 minutes of me massaging her vagina and sucking on her nipples, then complained her knee was sore - saying when she orgasmed her sore knee started hurting. So I told her we don't have to make love if her knee was sore, but she said she wanted to please me and I got on top of her... but I too was extremely turned on and after about 2-3 minutes I blew about 3-4 weeks of cum inside her!

we have arranged to go out in a couple of weeks and have a night away in a motel with a spa bath, and we always seem to have good sex when we go away for the night - so that's something to look forward to :-)

[atskitty2]

That's progress!

[dyunysus]

Answer, make sure she has an orgasm...and multiple ones at that. If you just get her wet stick it in-get off and your done. Then I don't blame her. Take your time, be seductive and go down on her. Ask her what she likes, then do it. LEARN WHAT SHE LIKES. Second stop doing all the housework! You have turned yourself into a boot licking butler. She does not want that, she wants a man! Treat he like a princess is the wrong attitude. Don't be lazy, but make it equal. She need to do as much work in your daily life as you. If you keep this up she will cheat on you, because no women respects a man who licks her feet like a servant.