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  • sweet_peaa
    Member
    • Mar 2014
    • 33

    secretly a freak!!

    How do I get more crazy and wild in bed without my boyfriend thinking I'm this crazy wild sex freak! He already has insecurities so how could I get him and me to be more wild.. Without him thinking that I'm crazy about sex???!!
  • Motorguy
    Veteran Member
    • Mar 2014
    • 3921

    Originally posted by sweet_peaa
    How do I get more crazy and wild in bed without my boyfriend thinking I'm this crazy wild sex freak! He already has insecurities so how could I get him and me to be more wild.. Without him thinking that I'm crazy about sex???!!
    Well Sweet Pea start by doing something you normally don't do in bed with him. Just something small like nothing over broad i think you could figure it out. If he ask where you learn that say hey us girls talk and share advice.
    When out driving always turn left. Then, should you become lost, you can find your way home by reversing the procedure and always turning right.

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    • Patti-here
      Banned
      • Mar 2014
      • 2602

      Originally posted by sweet_peaa
      How do I get more crazy and wild in bed without my boyfriend thinking I'm this crazy wild sex freak! He already has insecurities so how could I get him and me to be more wild.. Without him thinking that I'm crazy about sex???!!
      Aren't we all considered some sort of freak in our lives, reassure him, and give him all the love you can.

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      • CHANDLERS WISH
        • Mar 2008
        • 22440

        Sweet_peaa, you have to be yourself. There is a fear sometimes for women that their man will view what they do with them as having done the same with others so he's not special. There is a fear sometimes for women that their man will feel she's leading so he's not good enough. This is their fear not yours.

        Be assertive tell him you want to "experiment" with him, try "different" things with him, so that he realises it's "with him". Weird but if they think it's your first and their first, then the mentality I think changes because you both could get it wrong
        PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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        • Something_Awesome
          Veteran Member
          • Apr 2014
          • 1219

          My GF told me she also had those fears. She is the daughter of a pastor and that obviously would send a signal to people that she is uber conservative. But she is a freak. She likes whips and handcuffs and wants to tie me up etc. She just opened up one day and expressed her freakish side. I think because she learned that I am not judgemental.

          Unfortunately for her, I am not that into whips and handcuffs etc. Personally, I am neutral to being dominant or submissive in bed, but with her, I have to let her be the alpha. I enjoy it. But I fear being bounded. I can't seem to be able to give her 100 percent control by handcuffing me etc. Makes me nervous.

          Moral of the story? Well, I liked hearing about the freakish side of her. And while I wasn't completely into her fantasy, I enthusiastically met her more than half way. At the very least your boyfriend won't mind hearing about your freakish side. Trust me on that. So you got nothing to lose!
          "Are you serious? You're bleeping THAT girl?" - jen1447

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          • Patti-here
            Banned
            • Mar 2014
            • 2602

            Originally posted by Something_Awesome
            My GF told me she also had those fears. She is the daughter of a pastor and that obviously would send a signal to people that she is uber conservative. But she is a freak. She likes whips and handcuffs and wants to tie me up etc. She just opened up one day and expressed her freakish side. I think because she learned that I am not judgemental.

            Unfortunately for her, I am not that into whips and handcuffs etc. Personally, I am neutral to being dominant or submissive in bed, but with her, I have to let her be the alpha. I enjoy it. But I fear being bounded. I can't seem to be able to give her 100 percent control by handcuffing me etc. Makes me nervous.

            Moral of the story? Well, I liked hearing about the freakish side of her. And while I wasn't completely into her fantasy, I enthusiastically met her more than half way. At the very least your boyfriend won't mind hearing about your freakish side. Trust me on that. So you got nothing to lose!










































            Whips and Handcuffs,, oh my !!

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            • rcoreyus
              Veteran Member
              • Sep 2007
              • 4369

              I'd love to have my wife show me her freakish side if he has one. That doesn't mean that I would want to do absolutely anything, but I wouldn't feel negatively toward her for almost anything she wanted.

              Whips and handcuffs sound like fun, whoever is the one in handcuffs.

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              • Motorguy
                Veteran Member
                • Mar 2014
                • 3921

                Originally posted by Patti-here
                Whips and Handcuffs,, oh my !!

                Oh no I am more to the whip cream along with chocolate and strawberries a lot more pleasurable if you get my drift lol.
                When out driving always turn left. Then, should you become lost, you can find your way home by reversing the procedure and always turning right.

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                • Something_Awesome
                  Veteran Member
                  • Apr 2014
                  • 1219

                  Originally posted by Patti-here
                  Whips and Handcuffs,, oh my !!
                  The handcuffs actually make me more nervous than the whip. While I have not seen them, she says she owns them. Giving up 100% control of myself to another makes me extremely nervous. Mentally, I'll be fine if I am handcuffed to myself. But bind me to a bed or some object where I can't move, leave, or free myself, and I get nervous. Almost scared.
                  "Are you serious? You're bleeping THAT girl?" - jen1447

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                  • owen_rae_13
                    Member
                    • Apr 2014
                    • 14

                    We all have a freaky side. My boyfriend and I have special tie downs (for me) toys, role playing etc, its all in good fun

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