[muffin70]

Does anyone have any tips that can make a man last longer during sex?

I’m 43 and have been married for 12.5 years and have a lovely wife who I still find very sexually attractive.
The problem is, 95% of the time I can only last 2-4 minutes in the bedroom from the time of insertion to time of orgasm. Although my orgasms are always good and enjoyable, the one thing that I find frustrating is I orgasm far too soon.

I don’t expect to be able to last 15+ minutes or something like a porn star and do multiple positions with my wife, but I would like to be able to last a few minutes longer at least.
I get erections very easily with one look / touch of my wifes body… and 90% of the time I usually touch / masturbate her to make her orgasm, then we make love – so it’s not like she gives me a HJ or BJ first.

My wife is not worried because I make her orgasm first, so she just wants me to enjoy myself and have my orgasm.
She does like it when I go ‘fast’ and often encourages me to go faster, but that just makes me orgasm sooner.

She doesn’t care that I orgasm quickly, as long as I have a good orgasm

I’ve suggested to her that maybe I should masturbate or something first so I have an orgasm, then I can make her orgasm, then we can make love after that, but she doesn’t seem that keen on the idea…

anyone got any suggestions?

[Romy]

I'm not an expert but 2-4minutes of actual penetration seems about right for a lot of men. Not being male I can't give too many tips but my partner tends to slow, sometimes even stop and kiss etc just to take the edge off then go again. I imagine it takes a little self-control to stop when your body wants you to keep going at that point but by doing this my partner lasts a lot longer all up.

[jen1447]

Masturbate to porn. (Seriously!) You need to practice staying erect and aroused and in control for much longer periods of time. That kind of control involves the kegal muscles you always here about, and the best way to condition them is thru sexual activity. The advantage to porn is that you can do it on your own time and without performance expectations from your wife, so pop down in front of the computer and get busy. Don't just 'get it done' tho, you have to condition yourself not to orgasm right away. I know it sounds silly and embarrassing, but just sit there and beat off until you get close, then make yourself stop instead of following thru. Stay focused on the porn, and start again after you regain control. Repeat, etc. No one expects you to go at this for hours, but you should be able to masturbate this way for say one hour at a time at least to work on your conditioning.

The idea here is that when you develop this control, you should be able to apply it to lovemaking as well and not go over the edge at the first sign of plateau. It'll never be a rock solid strategy because sometimes we're just so awesome that there's no way you can control yourself , but by and large it should help you improve. And like Romy said, no one's really looking for superhuman endurance from a guy anyway. If you can last a good while and also throw in lots of foreplay, oral attention, and whatever other efforts are needed to please her (fantasy stuff, roleplay, whatever gets her going), she'll be happy.

[DreamP346]

Have you heard of the stop and start or squeeze techniques? They are exercises to help you last longer. Just remember, like any other exercise, it takes time and practice

[muffin70]

Masturbate to porn. (Seriously!) but by and large it should help you improve. And like Romy said, no one's really looking for superhuman endurance from a guy anyway. If you can last a good while and also throw in lots of foreplay, oral attention, and whatever other efforts are needed to please her (fantasy stuff, roleplay, whatever gets her going), she'll be happy.

Haha thanks..... I'll try that and if wifey comes into the spare room (where computer is) and sees me jacking off to some porn on the computer I'll tell her it's a new technique to make me last longer in the bedroom!

actually I found something online earlier in another forum I think where a guy was wanting to improve his sperm volume / amount and someone replied saying the best thing to do is masturbate until you are nearly at climax, then stop and do something else competely so your penis goes completely soft.... then after 30 minutes start msaturbating again and stop near the point of orgasn - repeat this 4-5 times and on the last time keep going until you climax.... apparently (according to the guy who replied) you will have a very intense orgsam with lots of sperm.... I've yet to try this method.

[PinkySweet]

Lets see... Ive had that problem with him husband. Usually he will masturbate in the shower before going to bed at night(I like to come attack him in the middle of the night) so then when we do have sex after bedtime he usually lasts longer.... Also a lot of times during sex when hes about to ejaculate he will pull up ejaculate somewhere besides in me, and he stays hard and we keep going(He can usually do that at least 2-3 times)...

I would say from my point woman point of view... (Firstly we have sex on a almost daily basis when hes not away) but if I get the foreplay and then my husband lasts about 10 minutes that is freaking amazing lol... I mean honestly I dont want to be having sex for 2 hours straight, you know what I mean?

[CaliSkater]

Pre-bate, Condoms and Whiskey

'Pre-Bate'
When I know I'm going to have a hook up and I haven't done it in a while I almost always 'pre-bate', meaning I wack it 3-10 hours before I know I'm going to have sex. That works pretty well for me and then I can usually last 10-30 min(which is the typical time I shoot for, pun intended even if I'm coming off a dry spell. Last time I had a series of flings unfortunately coincided with my quitting of porn and I literally couldn't masturbate at all(could'nt keep it up w/out porn) so I busted 2-4 min every time, nothing I could do about it. But the pre-bate method works almost everytime. Just don't do it too soon before sex or you'll have trouble getting up and that's even worse than busting quick.

Condoms
Using a condom will help you last a lot longer because it de-sensitizes, they even have 'climax control' condoms that are extra thick. Though be careful with those, they were so thick I couldn't feel a thing and thus couldn't keep it up. Usually I prefer thin condoms, they are a good medium between condom thickness and sensation, making you last longer than raw but still keeps most of the feeling.

Alcohol
Drinking definitely helps a ton too, make you last much longer without fail and kinda gets you into 'animal mode' which can make for fun sex. The longest session I've had(over an hour) was because I was so drunk it literally took that long to bust, meanwhile the girl had multiple O's, but just don't drink too much or you'll get the infamous whiskey-d**ck.

Also 2nd Jen's advice .

[Motorguy]

The best for me is wife will get me to edge a few times during a time frame of like 45 minutes. So when I do come it's a pretty intense and large amount plus it's shoots out with some force. She loves doing this and i feel so good when i do lol.

[PinkySweet]

The best for me is wife will get me to edge a few times during a time frame of like 45 minutes. So when I do come it's a pretty intense and large amount plus it's shoots out with some force. She loves doing this and i feel so good when i do lol.

You say that and it reminds me of that scene in Scary movie lol

[Motorguy]

Have you heard of the stop and start or squeeze techniques? They are exercises to help you last longer. Just remember, like any other exercise, it takes time and practice

It's called edging SP, My wife does this to be a lot makes the orgasm very intense when it happens.