[Motorguy]

You say that and it reminds me of that scene in Scary movie lol

Oh that's right not that much but you get the point lol.

[bubba29]

this may sound counter intuitive to many but kegels DURING stimulation will make you orgasm. don't believe me? try flexing those muscles during masturbation....especially just before orgasm. it accelerates and intensifies things. what really needs to happen during stimulation is those muscles need to be relaxed. google reverse kegels and premature ejaculation. you will learn a lot. reverse kegels help relax those muscles.

[muffin70]

thanks for al the replies....
I'd love to be able to 'pre-bate' a few hours before sex, but wife & I never actually plan sex on a certain time / day, so I'd never know when to do it ... if I was honest I'd say we have sex mainly on a Sunday morning when we sleep in, so there's no chance to pre-bate beforehand
I've also never heard of 'Kegels' before so I will have to google that!

[Patti-here]

When you start getting close to an orgasm, think about something else, like Baseball

[Motorguy]

When you start getting close to an orgasm, think about something else, like Baseball

That don't work Patti because i can't think about the players but the sexy girls at the game lost cause then lol.

[PhrendlyPhil]

Muffin: Are you going for some type of world record? 3 minutes is plenty, especially if your wife is happy and encouraging you to move it along. Trying to "hold off" is not good for your health or your 43 old penis (yes even that soft, wet vagina can put some wear and tear on the nerves of your penis). The main issue would be your wife's pleasure and that doesn't seem to be an issue. So relax and enjoy! If you feel 3 minutes is not quite enough, you could hit her up later in the day for some seconds (or maybe an HJ or BJ).

[CapeCRunner]

In the middle of having sex you could always stop and please your wife in other ways if you feel like you're close to that breaking point yourself. When that feeling you're trying to fight dims down a little, then pick back up where you left off. My husband does that sometimes. I call it, mid-sex foreplay

Best advice I have. Works for us haha

[muffin70]

well I tried it - prebating that is.... totally by accident
wife was watching a movie on TV last night that didn't interest me, so I was on the computer, looking up photos of women wearing silk / cotton / polyester scarves (not in a bondage type way - just for fashion as I have a scarf fetish). Anyway wife fell asleep in front of the TV (I could hear her snoring from the spare room!) so I masturbated and ejaculated. I went to go to bed and wife woke up and asked me what happened in the movie (I didn't even watch it), then we turned out the lights and went to bed.
less that 30 mins later she grabs my hand and places it between her legs - she was wet. So I made her orgasm, then she spread her legs and I got on top. I lasted about 5 minutes... and during that time wife commented several times that I was very hard and she could really feel it... boy did I cum hard! it was a new experience for me!

[Motorguy]

Haha thanks..... I'll try that and if wifey comes into the spare room (where computer is) and sees me jacking off to some porn on the computer I'll tell her it's a new technique to make me last longer in the bedroom!

actually I found something online earlier in another forum I think where a guy was wanting to improve his sperm volume / amount and someone replied saying the best thing to do is masturbate until you are nearly at climax, then stop and do something else competely so your penis goes completely soft.... then after 30 minutes start msaturbating again and stop near the point of orgasn - repeat this 4-5 times and on the last time keep going until you climax.... apparently (according to the guy who replied) you will have a very intense orgsam with lots of sperm.... I've yet to try this method.

This is called edging and will make the orgasm very much more intense when you do. It will shoot out with more force when you do come.

[Motorguy]

I'm not an expert but 2-4minutes of actual penetration seems about right for a lot of men. Not being male I can't give too many tips but my partner tends to slow, sometimes even stop and kiss etc just to take the edge off then go again. I imagine it takes a little self-control to stop when your body wants you to keep going at that point but by doing this my partner lasts a lot longer all up.

I am one of those guys who can last at least 15 to 20 minutes. I never been a quick comer as my wife has really enjoy that over the years. Because 2 or 4 mins and I was done she would really be ****ed about that time she just getting into it at the 2 to 4 minute mark.