[rcoreyus]

Do you enjoy it? Does he? What to you like to do?

I'm not talking about who "wears the pants" in everyday life, but with regards to sex do you like to take control? Just a little by telling him what you want, or maybe the whole whips, chains and pegging route? Would you do this more if he was willing, or his he the one who is driving this (topping from the bottom). Does your sexual interaction carry over into real life, or is there truth to the rumor that men who are powerful in real life, want to be dominated in bed?

[jen1447]

I'm naturally very sexually dominant, so it's definitely reflected in bed with BF. It's been that way with every BF I've ever had, tho I'm more equitable with women. I can have dominant sex play with women, but with men it:s really not play but reality. BF was not naturally submissive but he became that way with me.

I don't do whips and chains or silly outfits or cages and dungeons or anything like that, but pegging is a regular occurance. Just happens in the bedroom tho (or kitchen or shower etc. lol.)

[jen1447]

Typing this on my stupid phone, sorry.

As to other stuff, there's a fair amount of verbal interaction ....I don't like humiliation but I will give 'orders' and things like that. Some feminization, like with panty wearing. He also loves analingus, and I do too - that kind of naturally lends itself to dominance play.

[jen1447]

Sorry this phone is ridiculous, can't go on. No idea how they could put out such a worthless POS lol.

[Something_Awesome]

GF is usually dominant in bed. I like it. Actually, I love it. She ordered a type of bed restraint system from Amazon, which is funny because she has not even used her handcuffs on me yet (only because I'm a bit apprehensive). I'm gonna give the restraint system a try when it comes in (probably by Saturday). The sad thing is I am extremely ticklish and I know when we are "done" she is going to try to tickle the hell out of my feet before she removes the restraints. She did not tell me that she will do this but I know her too freakin' well.

Outside of the bedroom she is not dominant, and I never really endulged in this style of sex (where the female is dominant) before her.

Also, no pegging for us (did not even know the term for the act was "pegging" until I joined this forum). On a related note, we also do not do anal sex. Have never done it. Will probably never try it.

[jen1447]

You'd score even more points if you could overcome your handcuffs aversion ....just surrender to her, she'll take care of you.

On the other items, well you've still got some things on your bucket list don't you. Remember, being a trooper for your woman isn't for the faint of heart. At this point I'd just work on opening your mind to the possibilities.

[DreamP346]

When I start a relationship, I am usually the dominant one. In the bedroom and to some degree outside the bedroom too. All my partners liked it. I think they found it cool to be with somebody who didn't expect them to make all the moves. And no, these guys weren't the submissive types. In longer term relationships, it became the other way around. I like being submissive with somebody I really care for and feel very comfortable with. I love challenging social norms of gender roles so I love being dominant. But I could not prescribe to this lifestyle completely. I could never do the same thing all the time. To me, that would be boring. So got to mix it up with being dominant and submissive.

[effy2014]

Typing this on my stupid phone, sorry.

As to other stuff, there's a fair amount of verbal interaction ....I don't like humiliation but I will give 'orders' and things like that. Some feminization, like with panty wearing. He also loves analingus, and I do too - that kind of naturally lends itself to dominance play.

My SO is more the submissive type, but we are working on getting her more directive. It's also nice to know that someone else enjoys performing analingus. She loves receiving as well. A great contrast to the taste and scent of the V.

[jen1447]

I know right? They're like perfectly complimentary that way.

I love challenging social norms of gender roles so I love being dominant.

There does seem to be something very significant to this on a fairly deep level. I'm much the same, you just said it more elegantly.

[rcoreyus]

I'd be happy to be dominant and submissive at different times, but my wife doesn't enjoy that sort of play at all. We did it a little many years ago (with her being submissive) but she at one point let me know that she didn't actually enjoy it, so of course we stopped.